Back Story: Met this girl 2 weeks before university broke up for the summer. We had sex a fair bit of the time, both of us loved it and agreed to meetup again after summer. We spent summer dirty texting, normal texting and just generally waiting.

Last Night:

She finally moved into her house back at university and we met up. She came around, we chilled, we chatted, no awkwardness at all. Things started feeling good, we watched some community, had a laugh, kissed, hand played, did foreplay for about an hour.

Anyway this is where shit gets weird, so were having sex everythings going good all the right moans from her and the "Oh god it feels so good" anyway we changed from missionary to her on top. During the transition I quickly took a gulp of water which seemed to piss her off but she did some sexy slow fucking on top of me and kept teasing me.

At some point she randomly rolled off and I assumed she wanted to change position again, I tried to get her into doggy but she rolled over again. I got on top of her, kissed her and started fucking her again. Suddenly she "violently" pushes me off and starts crying.

I obviously got fucking confused, asked her what was wrong and if I had hurt her she said "No i don't want to talk about it" and rolled over, I put the duvet over her told her to take a minute and I went for a smoke.

After the smoke I came back up and she's getting ready putting make up on and shit.

Weird conversation 1:

Me: I guess your going home, you can stay here if you want its pretty later.

Her: No I want to go home.

Me: Fair enough, go home then Il walk you.

Her: No you don't have to.

Me: Nah its safer if I do.

Her *angrily*: NO I don't want you to.

Me: Ok cool, I'm gonna have a drink. I'l cya later (expecting her to leave I went downstairs)

*END OF CONVO*

So I went downstairs, took my time making a cup of tea. Went back upstairs, she was just leaving my room. She stood there awkwardly for ages and I said "Come on lets have a drink" and we went to the kitchen.

Weird Conversation 2:

*In the kitchen, the gaps inbetween sentences were LONG and AWKWARD*

Her: This feels so awkward.

Me: Well yeah thats because it is.

Her: Are you okay? you don't seem okay.

Me: I'm fine, I'm just confused.

Her: I don't want you to be confused.

Me: Then you can at least tell me what happened.

Her: I don't want to, its personal.

Me: Okay well thats your choice but then you have to understand that I'm gonna be confused by whats happened and probably for a while.

*Long awkward looks, some other stuff was said near the end she couldn't look at me anymore she was standing by the door the whole time and I was sat down. Proper looked like she was trying not to cry.*

She turned around and walked up the stairs, I said "Bye" she said nothing. I followed her to the front door after a minute or two and she was there crying. I gave her a hug.

Weird convo 3:

Her: I'm so sorry and embarassed I don't want you to feel bad.

Me: I don't feel bad like I said I'm just confused as fuck but I'm good at dealing with confusion.

*this sort of talk went on for about half an hour then*

another long hug

Her: Can we just forget it happened, I wish it hadn't

Me: If you want to forget it happened then you obviously didn't want it to happen so I'm willing to forget it happened and that kind of gets rid of confusion.

Right so after this we went back upstairs, I avoided all conversation about it. We watched some shit, she fell asleep. In the morning we had a laugh, kissed a fair bit, hand played. Usual shit. She left about an hour ago.

So any feedback on this? This has NEVER happened to me before especially with a girl that really enjoys the sex.

The girls I live have said that either two things are going on:

1) An ex or someone she has been intimate with in the past has resurfaced and she's confused.

2) She is starting to get attached to me and didn't like that I was "fucking her hard" compared to slow fucking. (She did keep telling me to calm down and be gentle with her but then she keeps telling me she loves having her hair pulled, spanked and such.)

Its annoying because before I saw her I saw her as another girl to fuck but as soon as I spent the time with her before the crying shit happened I was going "I actually quite like this girl."

Oh additionally she left this morning after I walked her to the front door. We kissed and she said she'll see me later. I've been advised to leave it till she contacts me so she has time to sort her shit out.

Also WHAT THE FUCK!?

I would have to agree that she probably has a new guy or Ex in her life messing up her head. Usually when a girl likes sex and likes being kinky, she wants that the majority of the time (in my experience). Play it cool like you have been and she will find her way to either you or the "distraction". I would suggest that you be honest with yourself and her though! If you think she is dating material then be prepaired to do the dating thing with her, because if she comes to you, she is there for more than a FB.


Peace...

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Yeah I thought that was the likeliest of the two as well. I've been in this situation before (they didn't cry but other guys have been messing with their heads)

Never had the build up with them either. She only moved back in wednesday and before that she was texting me more then usual the old "I can't wait to see you again" , "I'm so horny for you" then when she got back she was insta "Where do u live? i wanna come see you" then this weird shit happens.

but yeah, think I'm gonna leave it till monday and if no contact either assume she's not interested anymore or il send her a text to meetup and assume from there.

Either another guy is messing with her, she wants a relationship with you, ot she fucked you on her period and you did not realize.

I have had a similar thing happen to me, in the end it turned out that the girl had suffered some absolutely horrific abuse in her childhood at the hands of her father.

Obviously I am not saying that is what happened to your girl, but it is something to bare in mind. If something awful has happened to her, and you're nice and supportive, prepare for her to become very attached to you.

pregnant???

I don’t even know what to say! Girls having sex on their period makes them cry? Dude, I love you like a neighbor, but this is completely absurd!
What you suggest is a possibility, but I don’t think it applies in this case. She was his FB before summer break and now she is back. This is either, she wants a relationship with him or she is torn between two guys and I go with the 2nd. Just my opinion of course, but I am a smart MOFO! Hahaha.

Peace…

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It happened to me before. I was fucking a chic and I noticed blood on my condom and said your bleeding. She cried out of embarassment but she didnt make huge fuss about it.

How old was she? I think maybe she was a virgin! Or very insecure and young.

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Just insecure. I fucked her a couple times before her period schedule got pretty unpredictable after the first 2 months

Like I said I'm also pretty sure it is this as well. On the night she cried she kept receiving texts from a guy she met over the summer which is weird enough as she has stated that she hates texting and usually takes forever to reply (so do i) altho he was "multi-texting" which is never beneficial.

URGH its just fucking weird. Obviously all of the evidence points towards there being another guy. Unfortunately if its the guy who I think it is then he outranks me looks wise and plays acoustic.

My anxiousness is kicking in today. I didn't really care before I met up with her but when I did and we were having a laugh (before the whole crying thing) I kept thinking that it was actually quite nice when we were hand-playing, cuddling, kissing and such.

I swear I seem to attract all the crazy girls in england. This is the 4th time I've started getting messed around.

oh also what in gods name does this mean, I forgot to mention this, its something she said during the conversation in the kitchen.

Her: I don't want you to be mad.

Me: I'm not mad, just confused. I mean you start crying during sex and kick me off. Its confusing, why did it even happen?

Her: It reminded me of something that I don't want to talk about.

Me: Okay well I don't want to be somebody that reminds you of something bad so perhaps its best if this just doesn't happen.

*This is when she looked like she was going to try, then tried to leave and the whole hug shit happened*

Anymore advice/what to do from here? obviously I need to increase my value and for her to remain interested. I understand that I should wait for her to text me but if she doesn't then wtf to do?

When a woman is being cryptic like that, telling you basically that something's wrong but unwilling to disclose what it is she's doing so to either protect you, and/or to continue keeping you in a holding decision till she makes a decision on which road to travel.

I'd simply distance myself from her as you'll only be sucked into a vortex of drama if you allow this to persist. There is obviously something going on, and we can only sit here and speculate. At the end of the day she's not being very forthcoming and this will likely degenerate even further. Before any damage is done I'd simply extricate myself from the situation (be nice about it "Hey, obviously you're dealing with some stuff of a private matter that's probably not even my business, lets just cool it for the time being till you've figured things out").

I agree with Heavy, I have a feeling your gut is already telling you what is mentioned above. Follow your gut it rarely lies!


Good Luck Bro...Peace!

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Wrong hole? Hahhaa I couldn't resist after reading the title. But generally I would avoid fucking a fuck buddy in missionary since it tends to be very intimated and emotional. That seems to be the case here with you, that pause for water caught her off guard and made her thinking I bet. Sex is always more emotional to women than us men. Evolution made them that way. If you think about it, woman's sex organ lies deep WITHIN her, while for men, it's just hanging OUTSIDE of our body. Hence, sex always becomes emotional and intimated for women after a while. But you handled it well so it's all good. I do think she has some sort of feeling for you or some unresolved issues indirectly related it to you. But why bother? She doesn't want to talk about it and it's not like you guys are in a relationship. I'd just continue to fuck her like nothing happened.

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I too agree with heavy however she has asked that what happened be forgotten so I can't directly follow his advice unless it happens again. GKS's advice is pretty good.

I mean she asked me to forget that she cried and we continue like it never happened. Me randomly messaging her "I think you need time to figure out what you want" would just piss her off. We parted on good, kissing, hand playing terms, I don't want to remind her of her own sadness. Don't get me wrong I'm not going to become all needy and such and if it does happen again I will simply tell her that.

I think what i'l do is message her when I get back on monday saying "Hows things (neggy nickname here) , what is your schedule like for this week gorgeous?" then she either responds positively and we meetup. If she responds negatively then I know whats going down and I can move on.