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PostPosted: Thu Sep 20, 2012 2:44 pm 
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Hey guys, what's up?
I'm here to share with you another problem that I face when gaming.
Normally, when I'm with a girl, I'm not much talkative and tend to invest on kino (which is good).
I can go forward really well kinoing her, but after some time things start to get awkward because I don't have ANYTHING at all to say to her. I can't think on a subject to strike up a conversation, even if I start think hours earlier. I can only think on closed end questions and those kill the conversation. So, what I want to know is: How do I find subjects to talk to? Are there any good books on this subject?

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PostPosted: Thu Sep 20, 2012 3:01 pm 
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This gets asked all the time. Do some thread searching why dontcha? There's a ton of books on how to be a better conversationalist. Show interest in the things they are interested in. That's a start. From there it's all about small talk: current events, "nouning", jokes, DHV storytelling,...and the list goes on.

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PostPosted: Thu Sep 20, 2012 3:19 pm 
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Could you recommend a few ebooks on the topic?


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Sorry, I know that this was obviously asked before and in fact I tried using the search feature, but when I try to go to page 2 after searching, the search says that it didn't find anything. I even posted a report on this issue before opening this thread on the technical issues forum


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Forget books, simply talk to people - the more the better.


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PostPosted: Thu Sep 20, 2012 7:29 pm 
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Forget books, simply talk to people - the more the better.
Simple talking to people will, over a long enough period of time doing trial and error, eventually work. At some point.

Personally I talked to people all the time while I was in high school, college, and now as well. I don't always know what to talk about and sometimes the conversation runs dry and I'm just drawing a blank. Then I end up asking close ended questions, or trying to get back to a topic we recently discussed. Talking to people and just doing that isn't enough.

Recently I've watched all of South Park on netflix, as well as all of breaking bad, a bunch of anime's, etc.. I started to notice conversations were getting a lot easier after watching that cause it's something to talk about that other people like to talk about. So I went back to netflix and looked up the list of shows that're popular on netflix and watched even a few I didn't care for to see what it's all about. Simple watching these has helped my conversation because it's a pool of things to talk about.

I've also summarized a few stories about my life DHV stories. Someone already noted this. In my experience telling a story about something fun and exciting is good if it gets interrupted but people are still interested in it. If you catch someone's interest they'll ask questions about it. If these questions lead to other topics, you have more to talk about. Just be cool and don't force the idea of finishing your story, cause they might come back to it. If not oh well it still brought other things to talk about.

The cube in the dessert seems to interest most people I talk to [which you can look up online]. But some girls are on to it . This gives something to keep the convo going.

Read the news and keep up with current events also. You here about Jason Russel? Crazy right. It's something to talk about also. Or some article you read on cnn.com about something you find interesting. I read one about cocain found in a nasa shuttle hanger and that was interesting to talk to people about.

Mostly all I've said was to have knowledge of interesting things to talk about.
Do that and talk to more people as well.
But there are also techniques of how to talk to people, I don't know a whole lot about them.

Does anyone else know more about this?

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How about one day just make it your mission to carry a conversation with a girl, forget kino, iois all that jazz, just simply go out and talk. By isolating your weakness, you can put your complete attention on it.


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