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FIrst off, I understand how annoying it is but man you are goin about this all wrong. The first thing you tell us is that "dont tell me I didnt get into comfort" man, you have already decided that you are right, with that attitude you cant expect to improve. Next thing you do is telling us, "she is totally into me", again, that is how you see it, and you are not open to suggestions.
Frankly, if that was the case, you wouldnt get flaky girls.
Bascially, what makes a girl flake? She gets buyers remorse. There is something missing, she is not convinced that you are such a catch when she thinks about it. Normally that is because she doesnt feel comfy around you or that she isnt attracted enough.
Lets assume that you are right and that you got into the comfort zone and that you got her interested.
If that is the case, you were probably high energy and entertaining, a funny guy or maybe good enough to chat with and maybe meet again sometime. However, you werent good enough to invest in even though she may have invested in the conversation.
If you are too entertaining, you are a fun guy to be around when you are in the club but then what? Where is the rest? She doesnt want a guy who is just always entertaining, she wants a man who can be serious too, and emotionally stable and independent.
Maybe you were lacking in one of the more serious departments, the connection has to be there, otherwise you are just another guy, there are millions of guys who are equally attractive so why not go for one that is awesome.
There are a few things that scare girls away too, despite you being attractive. Drama, problems, neediness, anything that brings her anything negative. While I applaud the fact that you asked her what you did wrong and stuff (always good to learn), that translates as begging if it is done wrong. It is not about you, it is about her. She protects herself from guys who are too on, pushing too far. If you are that pushy before you ever date, how pushy will you be afterwards, she may never get rid of you. She wants an attractive guy who has mastered all aspects of life, maturity, humor, entertainment, emotional connection, seriousness, initiative, everything. She does not want anyone who could potentially bring any sort of problems. She wants it easy and troublefree, a breakup should ideally be, "hey we should break up", "oh, ok, have a nice life" that is her ideal no trouble partner.
So maybe something you did made her feel like you are a "problems guy", or you are wrong and she wasnt that "into you" or you may have had less "comfort" than you thought.
Dont worry about that, it happens.
Also if you spent 30 minutes plus in your sets that shows that you are difficult to get rid of, a "problems guy".
The more I think about it, that may have been the problem, you may have come off as too sticky, a chewing gum is good as long as you can spit it out when youre done with it, but it isnt good if it sticks in your hair.
Did you stay in long after you got the number? That could be one reason. When did you leave? How was her mood when you did? Did you feel out of material when you left or did you get the feeling that she wanted you to stay? I always leave on a high to preserve her great opinion of me.
One thing that I think you need to do is to practice reading her and learn girls language. Listen to what she means and not what she says. If she for example says "youre a funny guy" while she looks in another direction, she means, "you bore me, leave".
The way the girls wrote their SMS tell me that they were very careful not to upset you, you got the old "its not you, its me". Another clue to that you were being a potential "problems guy", amybe too needy. Now youre gonna say that hey I was playing it cool and that is possible. But girls can smell needy a mile away. They see right through you.
If you are gonna become great, try thinking like a girl. Its just like, you ahve all the men you want and you wanna choose the best. You dont waste time with everyone that is ok, just the best. Nothing wrong with that. I do that too. When I started out, I cherished each numberclose I got and pulled every string I could get. Nowadays, I send an SMS to maybe 1% of the numbers I get and call even fewer. If they arent worth the trouble, why waste time?
Hope this helps. _________________ I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.
bbardot: you just reminded me about porn
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