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Please take the time to read my last post. It is worth it, I assure you!

First off, congrats! Sounds like you're making really good progress.

But I'm a bit sketch on the details - you said you had sex with her, and made her cum. But you didn't specific anything more than oral sex? Or is that what you meant by sex?

Otherwise, just play it cool. Follow the basics. It's a big step for her, what happened "just happened" and be careful not to smother her.

im happy for yah. You were able to conquer the oneitis and friendzone. A few not many can say they have accomplished. I can only imagine how your feeling. Congratulations sir

Yeah. Exactly, we only had oral sex. And that's not what I usually mean by sex, although it IS sex.

I would have liked more to happen but frankly I was too scared...

Well you're certainly out of the friend zone, for that you get a hearty applause!

Now you have this long history with her as a platonic friend. You just reframed the situation by entering a sexual relationship with her. Maintain that sexual vibe, not the platonic one you had before. You're well within comfort to have sex with her, and when you do it will probably be mind blowing.

You just said you were too scared. Guess what..? She LIKES the sexual you. Push those boundaries! Escalate escalate escalate! Show her how badly you want her.

Im going to keep escalating. Ill see her tomorrow along with my ex. Ill keep you posted guys.

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Something changed for the worse.
First the neutral news. I met her like three weeks ago and it was okay. The usual stuff. She acted as if nothing had changed really.

A week ago, something changed.

Last year she went to Berlin and banged some brazilian guy, something very unusual for her. Last sunday, he came to visit her and apparently she had the intention of doing the same. I was devastated. So touched that last week has been some kind of hell because of jealousy. And I totally screwed up...
She has this best friend of hers. Tweo months ago, I had been fucking a girl named Anna and I didn't know that Anna's best friend knew that. I had been drinkin. So I asked her "So you know I fucked Anna?" and she said "Of course I do, Anna (my love) told me everythin about it" and then some wire in my brain disconnected and I said quickly without noticing "Which Anna do u mean, this one?" while pointing at Anna.

Of course, one could argue that I just meant that "how could u think that I fucked your friend, I know that you know that we went to Ibiza together and shared the same room, but I am trying to say that this is not true". I don't know if m explaining myself properly, it's kinda confusing. The thing is, Anna got very angry afterwards when we were alone and she told me that she was planning to tell her when the right time came and that know she looked like a liar or at the very least like she was hiding something so important from her. She was very upset, and we ended up arguing.

That's the last time we met. 8 days ago.

This is too much. With economic recession in Spain and love recession in my heart I feel I cant deal with this.

Well, ill keeo u posted. Comments are welcome.

Thanks.

/bump

Updating info...

She asked me to go with her on holydays. We agreed to go together to Oporto, Portugal.

Long story short, same story as it has always been. Holding hands, massages etc. I massaged her bare ass and she complained a little but when I tried to go further she refused. I even ask her whether she would make love with me while we were visiting the city in the morning and she told me she didn't know. WTF? I strongly suspect she need me so much -in her very special way- that she does whatever she feels could work to keep me in the place she likes, as her eternal admirer that will always be there when she sends a SPAM or whatever.

I had a very bad week. I did an EMDR session with my therapist (google that if you are interested in therapies) and all I could do was cry and cry. For nearly 50 minutes.

And so new year's eve comes, and she will probably go to the same place I go. And all I cant think of is how jealous wil I feel if someone, anyone hits on her. Today she sent me a message like How do you do, handsome? In these lines. Whatever.

I need solid pieces of advice. Badly.

So nobody cares? Or nobody knows what to tell me? This is really important for me. You could really help me.

I understand that Anna cheated you with a brazilian guy?

I don't understand so well, you cheated Anna with Anna?