Girls sometimes conceive me as having high value or attractive and as soon as I open my mouth I ruin it.

One girl called me Hot, attractive - etc. And I just said the wrong things - I should hv qualified her but instead I tried to befriend her. Or usually I'll hv boring conversations - and I think, "Wow if another guy was in my position he would laugh, joke and be exactly what SHE wanted." I'm talking about the kind of guy that impresses girls - that we all want to be like.

How can I fix this?

Learn to speak.

I mean have some fucking confidence in yourself first. If your problem is the moment you open your mouth, like every sport, improve what you need work in. What type of question is that bro.

I go to the gym my chest is a bit flatter than I want, so I do chest exercises. So you have a problem with speaking, take a class on improv or comedy. Try and surrond yourself with funny people and listen to how they deliver or type of stories they say.

I (this might sound cocky) have been noted on my humor multiple times, even on this forum people say I am pretty fucking funny, what did I do to become funny. I put myself in situation where I am with hilarious people all the time, and I have taken improv ( i do stand up so I mean I'm different than most people) but the point is I study comedy because I love it and its a part of me.

I am not saying you should do stand up but at least study it a bit, watch some comedians (who doesnt like to laugh) and listen to how they tell stories, how they pause before the punchline, COMEDY IS JUST LIKE GAME, its an awkward moment where everyone is expecting something (to laugh), the comedian needs to time himself to break the ice (make people laugh). In game when you tell a story the girls are listening and want to hear what happens at the end, you have to pace yourself, get into it (get animated) and then bam make them see (paint a picture) the ending, make them feel part of it.

For fuck sakes, I was just in the gym when I saw some fat black chick trying to do zoomba, she looked like she was part of some indian river dance. Best part about it was she was wearing shirts that looked like they belonged in a gay pride parade, even better is she wore a shirt like it was shorts around her ass and shit, she thought it was stylish. But she was confident as fuck she shook her ass like it was a fucking snowglobe. It was awesome.

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Nahhh man, it's not like I studder, I'm funny, I make people laugh and all that - it's just sometimes in certain situations I don't perform to the girls expectation of me - like I don't know what to say to win her over/make her laugh. And I end up having a boring conversation.

Learn some great openers, memorize some interesting stories, learn some routines, jokes, or games...master them. Use devices that playfully tease, show them you're interested in them sexually but not too driven by sex, and escalate the situation.

Talk with lots of women, self-review your interactions afterwards. Remember what works and what doesn't. Take notes if you need to.

You'll start figuring out your own things to say, and you'll have the canned stuff to fall back on if you've just pulled too many bong rips.

Repeat.

If you're a good looking guy as you say and you're pretty funny, then it seems as though it might not be what you're saying that's the problem but perhaps the lack of sexuality in the conversation.

Make sure you keep a sexual 'vibe' about the whole interaction; touch her, make good eye contact, etc. Basically keep her excited and entertained, and you'll keep her wanting more.

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