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The problem most of you guys don't seen not to understand i was gonna write a post in the lounge is the concept of "Investment" when you make the girl work and invest, and then you proceed with the seduction and all the stuff you mention, it is a million times easier, you need to make the girl INVEST. What are good ways to make a girl invest, having sex with you for one, texting, coming to you, picking you up, paying for small things etc... Making the girl work "invest" will make things like attraction etc... way easier she will have to make up rationalization of why for example she slept with a guy....
Again focus on arousal and fucking a girl=attraction/relationship will be way easier to do the seduction, and even if the seduction does not work you already fucked her, a lot of the community guys are so set in their ways, that they can not picture this process...Poetic those have a point you still need to do the things he mentions, but again easier to do after investment/sex etc...
Why do you guys keep ignoring the fact that I'm for having sex with a girl the first night, but against not talking before escalation? I keep mentioning it, yes fuck the hell out of a girl the first night, but make sure she is an attractive person to you if you want to pursue anything with her.
Let me see if I can simplify it for you guys my process (only takes like 30 minutes guys and usually you know within 10 if it's worth your time):
Become Attractive to her- You need to be attractive to her not just your physical escalation or just allowing for sexual tension.
Connecting with her- If you want a relationships you need to connect your interests and how you guys will get along outside of just sex. You need more than sex if the girl is worth dating.
Sexual Tension- Sexual escalation and tension have to be built so that you can get laid, you can't avoid the process. If you want to fuck a girl it is essential to getting there.
Where did I ever say not to read 60 YOC? I said everyone should, why is that being ignored? I even mentioned to use 60 YOC after you become attractive to her rather than use his sexual tension to build attraction. I mention connection because while fucking a girl based merely off sexual tension is awesome dating a girl without a connection isn't too entertaining.
Don't ignore half the things I say and argue with me. I agreed on some level about the building sexual tension I merely mentioned why I think it is VERY important to go through this process rather than just physically escalate.
Here is a story from the other night:
I went to a Pub around here about 75 people or so go there. Probably 25-30 hot girls were there believe it or not, so wasn't too bad of a seen, some were taken some weren't.
I watched 2 guys work the room, encroaching on women and honestly their tactics were a very very tension building style, get inside their space, strong eye contact, etc. but they blew out the entire room in less than an hr. They left after getting shot down by every woman they approached. Now, if they would have had a conversation and let themselves become attractive to them and escalated at a proper pace they would have cleaned up because these men got tons of initial attraction cues as they started the conversation but lost the targets from being over responsive, too much touch, standing to close, to direct, etc.
I understand how to get laid, I also understand women as they usually say "You just get me, nobody understands me like you." This is after one night, not 1 month or something, I've had women tell me this after ONE NIGHT.
Sexual tension is essential to getting laid and I completely agree you need them to give you all these small commitments and the more of them you get the easier the relationship is to get to but I also don't see why on earth you wouldn't interview the women for the girlfriend roll, tons of women annoy the shit out of me from a relationship stand point, should I just date her because of her looks? Na, I'd fuck a woman for looks but not for dating.... Sorry my confidence is entirely to high to settle for a woman with a 2 personality and a 9 looks, that is really just an 11 on a scale to 20, not a good score in my opinion.
Use sexual tension and use 60 YOC but start out with a regular pick up where you start bull shitting and become attractive to them rather than just physical escalation or you will scare off a ton of girls that may be exactly what you are looking for.
Peace and Love
Vic