I from time to time joke about having a threesome with my gf and another girl, she will usually laugh but that is the extent of it, last night she brought a threesome up out of mid air! she was turned on and said she might consider it down the road if it is what I want. I did not really know how to respond so I just kind of said I would love to but I feel like it could cause problems and jealousy....as I thought about it more it became more interesting to me because I never thought this was a possibility! I brought it up again after making love, and she did not seem as into the idea as before (mabey the wrong time to bring it up), when I asked if she was serious before she said no...which confused me although I probably could have chose a different time to bring it up.

So I guess my questions are (and I would like to hear from people who have has threesomes with gf's):

1. Is it a bad idea to have a threesome with your long time girlfriend? will it cause problems? jealousy on either end?

2. Will she see this as cheating? or see this as a sign that since I sex with another women she can now have sex with with another guy? or sex with another women?

3. How do you go about having a threesome? how do I bring this back up to my gf and how do I find a girl who my gf would be comfortable with? I was thinking one of her friends but this could cause problems!

4. Any thing eles I should know about?

P.S I really love this girl! I think a threesome could really spice things up in the bedroom! I would no be willing to ruin our relationship over it!

I had a few with my wife, she was at a point were she even got everything ready for our date.

We fucked two girls, and the second one twice and things were absolutely awesome by all accounts and then three days later she turned on me completely, invited all her old ex's back into her life and ran off with another guy in the space of three days while I was buying flowers and picking out upgrades for wedding rings.

The worst experience of my life right after the best which I'm still recovering from.

The distinction was that she was ok with just sex, but once I made even the slightest comment about being emotionally invested in the girl that's what turned my wife. I playfully asked the girl to be our girlfriend while I was fucking her and my wife was holding me ...I wasn't really serious and to you and me this seems like a non-distinction but women see it far differently. At least my wife did.

That said, my wife was a very unstable person to begin with. I did sell her on the idea originally because I was not satisfied and did not want to go outside the marriage by myself as she offered. She had problems to begin with with sexual inadequacy and inadequacy in general due to medical problems.

Your mileage may indeed vary since I'm sure your gf is healthy but if she's running hot and cold about it, it's best to forget it and enjoy what you've got IMO. Back off the porn if you're watching it until she is enough for you again. If you keep bringing it up it will backfire hard and you're not going to see it coming until it is too late. I am getting this vibe hard from your post.

I believe there are women out there who are both bi and into threesomes but they are damn rare in a relationship sense and not a one night stand sense and even if she is bi she will usually want to be with one or the other in a relationship.

There is no magic answer here : it all depends of your relationship. That said, she seems open to the idea and willing to fulfill this fantasy. You should make clear what the expectations are : a one-night threesome, or something with emotional involvement, like some polyamorous may do.
If you go emotional, it may indeed end up with jealousy. Girls are usually more jealous about emotions than just sex (reverse for male). Keep in mind that, depending of your relationship balance, she could perfectly claim to have a MMF threesome. Would you be able to handle this ? Worth talking with her about it.
Not cheating as you talked about it together. Yes for the opening of her partners... And sounds fair, no ?
I avoided good friends, because of emotional involvement. And you cannot dump a friend if things do not go well. Try to find out open-minded people. I'd suggest picking someone who is already in an open relationship, to avoid her expecting too much from you. If she's cheating, she will usually not involve herself too much, but it can turn to drama (but you may like drama, can be fun)
Trust is important. Talk to your gf and make things clear about expectations and limits.

Sex with you and your girlfriend is an intimate moment.. For you to bring up a threesome right after it suggests that you were thinking about the threesome while you were being intimate with her, which is probably why she reacted differently. She probably felt a little sting that you were not 100% attentive to her, but instead off in your own little fantasy world.

^^^^^^

next time u have sex make sure she is aware of you re 100% attentive and reactive to her body, give her the best sex ever. Talk dirty, tell her how much u love her tight pussy, and that it is ur pussy and she is ur baby (emotional stuff + dirty talk = winning) really get her juices flowing, foreplay that chick up, eat her out rub her clit when ur doing that and yea shell be happy again.

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To put my previous post into a little better perspective...


How would you feel if you just emotionally and physically exposed yourself to the girl you love more than anything, and you made love to this person.. then after you finish and you tell her "Wow I love you, that's the best sex of my life.", she turns to you and says "So, do you think we could get another guy in bed some time?"

Wouldn't that make you feel a little inadequate?

Hahaha. I wouldn't care, but I guess I'm older than average on this forum.

Well your gf has a vagina and feelings enough said.

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