| Okay. Reading the forum I come across threads and comments that shows many people don't understand some things that are important. So I just create a list what I can recall and you're free to add anything you have too.
#1. Being kind is needy.
No, it's not. In fact, it's attractive if it is for the sake of being kind, not for the sake of getting into the girl's pants.
#2. A neg equals an insult.
No, it does not. In fact, it's a compliment, you just make sure that the girl knows that even if you like something about her, it does not amuse you so much.
#3. Mystery method is outplayed, it's natural time.
Well...yes... if you use the exact same lines as in the book, you might have some problems, but the method itself, the guidelines it sets, is very far from outplayed. The rules of attraction doesn't change, and I still find Mystery method a great tool when I need to operate in a group, eventhough I myself prefer natural game.
Besides. I'm getting very tired of this naturals vs. scripted fight. Just take what fits you and stop bothering about how other people game.
#4. Dancefloor game is shit and for pussies.
Actually...the dancefloor is one of the places where you can escalate the fastest. You only need your balls for that, and a very good body language, since verbal communication is nearly 0 on the dancefloor.
#5. Text game is shit.
Even I rarely use "text game", only to fix dates. But that's a rather important aspect to think about it. I mean... many times I can't get the lay on the first night, so I am going to have to arrange a date somehow.
#6. Online game is easy for beginners.
It's indeed harder to game a girl online, if you don't have experience in gaming personally. Since you can only use your "verbal" communication as a tool, you really need a tight game to get the girl interested. Especially since there are tons of chodes and creeps who are harassing them online all the time.
#7. NLP is evil.
It can be used very badly. But it can boost your game if used properly, and it can even be used to help you improve your own personality. That is anything but evil.
#8. You should never tell a straight answer to a girl's question.
Most of the time, this is in fact true. But calibration is very important. It can come off as very arrogant and douchy if there's something she really wants to know and you just keep messing with her all the time. Don't take everything as a test. It's really all about calibration.
#9. Buying drinks, gifts, etc. is a turn off.
It's almost never necessary, but it is an easy way to isolate once you're in the set. Sometimes the girl truly doesn't have enough money, and you can just help her out. Of course you need to make sure she's not a gold digger, and make sure she has earned that drink with enough positive feedback. About the gifts... They should be never bought to impress the girl. That's the rule, other than that, you can buy her something small and cute and tell her it reminded you of her. This is a very strong way of creating connection.
#10. When you have a girlfriend the rules of the game change.
That's only partially true. Yes... some things become unnecessary, but basically you still shouldn't be needy, you still shouldn't make her think that your life would be over without her, you still shouldn't try to impress her all the time, you still have to work for that attraction to stay there, if you want that relationship to last.
#11. Playing video games will make you a forever alone virgin.
This is another bullshit. Take everything in moderation. If you play some video games, fine. Just make sure you go out a lot, have lots of friends, and have other interesting things going in your life besides your level 85 paladin and you will be completely fine.
#12. Getting drunk when gaming is a good idea, since it lowers social pressure.
It's not a good idea. You might feel more confident, you might even get better results, but you can't base your entire game on alcohol. What if you'll have a girlfriend? Will you be drunk all the time just to maintain the confidence?
#13. Masturbating before possible close will help since you will be able to hold on for more.
Masturbation will lower your motivation, your sexuality, and your confidence. It's anything but helpful. It's okay to jerk it once in a while, but stay away from porn, and try to keep fapping as rare as possible. As for holding on for an extended time, there are quadrillions of techniques about this.
#14. Freezing out a girl will always get her attracted, since she will wonder why you no longer care about her.
This might be true if she cared about you in the first place. But if she didn't she won't give a fuck about a creep finally leaving her alone. Freezing out can be very powerful but it is a tool that should be used with care, because it can fuck things up when used at the bad time. Freeze a girl out, when there was an initial attraction, but she did something that didn't please you(eg. a flake)
#15. Monogamy will lead to the death of the relationship sooner or later.
This is something that can apply to several superficial people in this modern society. But me personally, don't need a partner for long terms who can't keep monogamy. If my parents and grandparents could do it, then I can do it too.
That's all for now. I might add some things if I come across them or if something gets in my mind.
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