So no blanking her? No coldness? Do I mention I know she got with someone yesterday?

ABSOLUTELY NOT. This will not end well, don't bring it up.

Besides, she can do whatever she wants with whomever she wants. You guys weren't dating, she made that clear. Sorry to be blunt, but it is what it is.

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I don't have an ego, I just love how awesome I am.

Just polite and distant, do your job, that's why your there!
Hell NO! Why would you give a fuck, he who cares the least WINS!

If she mentions it, tell her congratulations you wish her the best of luck...

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I'm over reacting to this whole thing... I need this 2 weeks. I need to clear my head of her and start again.

Doesn't she need to know that I know she got with someone? Then I show that I don't care? (even though I do seriously care..)

This is going to be the thing that will elevate you to greater conquests my friend. I was in a similar situation, went on antidepressants for one girl, and then snapped out of it. I know this is tough.

Keep your contact MINIMAL.
DO NOT rage on her. Act indifferent and upbeat (hard at this point, I know, but try your best).


You are deeply in the friendzone and you know it. She is getting with others. You care she is getting with them. SHE DOESN'T. Why? Because she thinks things between the two of you are friendly. HARD TRUTH: When she is sticking her tongue down another man's throat she isn't thinking about you at all. She is enjoying every bit of his saliva. She is letting him touch her places.

Now, think this over. You know you messed up (it's perfectly fine to mess up). You told her she likes you. And she doesn't care about it at all. Does she deserve your contact? Exactly WHAT is she bringing into this relationship you both have apart from her looks? You can even say that you need time off with her to clear your head. Because fucking hell, you have a crush on her, and if she doesn't understand that, make it clear. If she still goes "But why?" then she is stupid, because she is not respecting your subconscious feelings.

All the advice in this thread is great and is gearing you to MOVE ON. NO CONTACT. MOVE ON. NEXT.

This is going to be the thing that propels you into getting with many other women.

Good luck.

Take a step back, punch yourself in the balls, do a 100 push-ups, smoke a fatty!
Then take a look back, learn, move the fuck on!
No stop caring/crying rite NOW! Be a Man, not a little girl!

Get drunk blow off steam, make sexual comments to random women in a club!...the cold slap will do you good. Hey maybe one will even like it!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

That's the thing.. I can probably act up beat and happy.. I could even be happy enough to invite her to my house after work and try to get with her. (I'm actually considering this... bad idea?)
Exactly right.. my mind is wondering if she is at all thinking about me, when I know that she isn't.. I keep trying to tell myself that she is going to text me at any moment etc, when I know it's not happening.
I did mess up, and I'm frustrated at myself more than anything. It's my fault for not trying to get with her, and now look where it's left me. If I had just made the move - even if I had been rejected. I'd still feel better than I do right now. I have only myself to blame.. but I still want to get with her.. so badly. It is mainly her looks.. she's just hot, we both get along well.. but then she gets along with a lot of guys. To me she seems more unique, but to her I'm probably just another guy.
No contact is tough though, especially when we work at the same place. I say to myself that I'm not interested but when I see her again all the feeling rush back. I want to stay close to her, but the next time me and her get close like that (stroking her face, playing with her hair) I'm going to make sure I have the balls to make a move.

Is that what I should do anyway? Did she want me to make the move? She was absolutely loving it when I was stroking her face and hair etc.. she closed her eyes all in relaxation etc.. I'm pretty sure friends don't do that. I just can't believe I didn't make the move.. it's left me in such a shitty place.

I mean sunday I have the house free and alone.. should I just invite her and say fuck it?!?!?!? I'm so sure that she wants it to!!

Ah it's killing me! Haha

I mean if she says she can't I can just say "Your loss" and move on..

It would make the 2 weeks a hell of a lot easier.

Look man, do what you need to do. Everyone is telling you to move on. The two weeks will do you good.

If you want to invite her over and go caveman, then do that to ease your mind. I know the feeling, a knot in your stomach of something being unresolved.

However, if you get rejected again, you MUST MOVE ON. Just for the sake of it have some wine at your place when she comes over to you.

If it happens it happens. If not, then not. But STAY CONGRUENT WITH WHAT YOU WANT. You want HER. That's it. Persist but don't be needy. If she clearly isn't feeling it, then stop escalating and just watch your movie or whatever you'll be doing. Then tell her to go in a polite manner (I needa get up early tomorrow, blabla). Then you know what to do. Delete her number and any other form of contact information, and move on. How? Talk to other girls.

Okay thanks. It is the exact unresolved feeling you mention. I just want to go for it before she goes on holiday.. if she rejects me then she rejects me (when she is drunk she won't reject ANYONE.. so that's a good idea). I can move on much easier knowing that I've at least tried to get with her you know? Knowing that I've not tried just makes me more annoyed at myself. I'll invite her over next time she texts me, which should be tonight or tomorrow.. One last go I guess, and I won't be a pussy about it. Maybe I should have a few drinks myself...

Sometimes the best advice is NOT what you wanted to hear!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Ah I'm still torn.. because I know you are right too.. :/

I might just leave it... if she texts me I'll mention that I'm alone at the house sunday, and if she hints she wants to come over then I will let her (she usually wants to). If not then I will start the move on phase.

Today, repeat, Today!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I'm already drinking away....

Get out of the house. Call up your friends. Get drunk with THEM. Have fun with THEM. Smoke up with THEM. Go bowling with THEM. Anything. Get. Out.