| I like this thread,
it's interesting but sometimes if you don't test compliance far enough soon enough, you can run into girls that are just absolutely after attention, and you start to see this pattern after a while, you see her at the bar, you are touchy, you move things forward, it's all good, she moves, it's all good, you go for a kiss, RED LIGHT, these are the same girls that were telling you about how sexy you are after you started hitting on them, the same girls that liked the idea of a date with you, the same girls that gave up their numbers, same girls that continued all night to come up and talk to you and ask you to dance, but as soon as you get to kissing or asking them home, NOPE, no compliance, kissing might make her horny, and if she doesn't want to sleep with you at all, she will draw the line somewhere around this point, but it isn't an indication of much to have compliance at this level, you can get plenty of girls to be fine with kissing you right away as long as they find you attractive enough and you have the balls to just do it, this is just like a check in your head that she is willing to make out (in isolation making out is like, the be all end all of getting her ready, it's just fun and easy, suck a face, vagoo gets wet, taaaddaaa magic pua technique)
so, how do you correct this, and screen these girls?, every night you go out, is one night stand night, if you go to a bar looking for girls, why the fuck would you get phone numbers?, take girls home, sleep with them, get the phone number only if this is impossible, this cuts down alot on time wasters, so easy to screen at night cause it is more socially acceptable to just walk up to someone you don't know, throw your arm around them and say something retarded, people will just crack it up to, ohhh one to many to drink, you can walk around throwing your arm around people just like... this guy... this guy right here... hes the man right here this guy... I like him, Hes a good guy, anyways, you guys have fun, THAT GUUUUUUUYYYYYYYYYY!!! (points at him with a shooter motion), and most people will just give you a smile and seem uncomfortable at most, if anything goes wrong, it's no big deal, you're in a bar, alcohol is your excuse to fuck it up, if you were drinking alot of a little doesn't matter, they don't know the difference, it's your spot to have fun, its a spot to socialize, it's ok to randomly talk to people and touch, usually its crowded and loud (depending what bars you frequent) and since people have been drinking everything is easily forgotten and forgiven, for all they know you just had one to many and are some slammered dude just trying to hard to party
now, in the day a tad different, can't screen as hard as fast with it comforming to social norms, it's a little out of place to just throw your arm around some random person during the day, it's easy to do your sets quicker, the goal is getting dates arranged, and quickly screening more girls for lower levels of compliance, while organizing flakes, rather then less girls but screening harder and investing more time individually into the girls, more flakes to deal with, but less talking or escalating to deal with, you just tell her what you want, blah blah blah, cool place to meet up, lets do it, get the number, done, text her for a bit, set it up so you know each other, cut off contact before it becomes a regular thing, bobs your uncle she either shows up on the date or not, organize the numbers after the fact and keep getting more
now, in both cases, there will still be chicks that waste time, why?
only two primary reasons I can think of
1) some chicks just love attention and will do anything at all costs to get it because they desperately want to feel loved and accepted by all, so they fake interest to get attention
2) some chicks have big problems with facing tension, they have no backbone, and will go as far as pretending they like someone or making out with someone, just so they don't create an awkward situation or step on anyone's toes
either way, alot of these types of time waster chicks, are hot in person, but cold as soon as they don't have to see you, it's so easy for a chick to just not answer her phone, then blow some guy off in a club or on a street and just say, FUCK NO I'D RATHER FUCK MY OWN ASS WITH A SWORD, and risk a male on female ass beating or yelling fest, the chicks know they are chicks, not too many have balls when they only weigh about 100 lbs, there is only safety and security for them in groups, and often the guys making these approaches are neither bold with their screening to force a no, or persistant in moving things forward and staying in set long enough to get a no, or approaching girls in situations where the girl feels safe enough to blow him out confidently (or at least try to), and if you are not willing to get blown out, you probably have never had a one night stand (or at least led your way into one)
there are also chicks that are unavailable and screen out for different reasons, such as liking you, but having a boyfriend at home that they don't want to tell you about, then giving out their number just for emergency purposes, or they have shitty friends that blow you out, or have other things going on in their lives
then there is the second category, and most likely the biggest reason why most guys get flaked on that have problems with flakes, and that is the connection, you can flirt around, have fun, be touchy feely, and hahahahaha jokes and giggles and laughs, but if you never take time to stop, look at who your dealing with and take some time to actually get to know them, and let them get to know you, no connections will be established, and the rapport stays light and superficial, instead of becomming Pumpington that hot cool guy she met at the club, you are instead, random hot club guy, and the club chick will be saying, ''yeah I remember him.... he was fun, nah... don't care if I see that guy again Jenny, I don't even know him, he probably just wants to make out anyways... that's all we did at the club, he probably doesn't even know my name''
without that connection, that feeling like you know someone, why the hell would you want to hang out with them, it's like meeting some dude first day of work, and you don't even catch his name, he gets your phone number, then hes all... yooo, lets go hang out and drink coffee together, most of people would not just be like... COOL coffee with random stranger I don't know, I'll get right on that, I'll pay too
Last edited by pumpington on Mon Aug 06, 2012 4:12 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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