LOL, now that I've got your attention.

Guys, you can't get fixated on one person, now matter how good you "think" she is. I've seen it time and time again. If you actually DO get your one-itis, she rarely lives up to the fantasy in your mind.

Then you're let down, realizing it wasn't what you thought it was. I mean, really, you spend most of your waking moments building this concept in your mind of who she is and how she acts and what she likes and just how marvelously you two vibe with each other. Then, when you FINALLY get that chance to find out . . . all you feel is . . . is THIS it?

Where's the connection? Where's the romance? Where's her fabulously sweet, kind soul? Where's ALL the stuff I just KNEW we had in common? Suddenly, your heart and soul just drops.

So, depending on your particular one-itis situation, either PULL THE TRIGGER or MOVE ON.

Oh the title was just uncalled for Tripp. Turned the PUA world upside down for a second...

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Good Point! I get messages from guys that say, "I'm dating these two HB8's and a HB10 but there is this one special girl....how can I get her?" I agree with LA, most people build these women up too much in their mind only to be let down.

Here's a few ideas for you one itis guys out there. If you've known her over 6 months and you're not sure she knows you even exist, MOVE ON!

If she has already had the LJBF speech with you, pull the trigger to build attraction and escalate kino or MOVE ON!

Don't let this stop you from going out, improving yourself, and your skills. If anything sarge a little more to improve your skills and remind yourself how she really isn't all that special.

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ROFL . . . well, at least it got your attention Roads, hehe.

Your so right Tripp. I normally get it after 3 or so months of being with someone. I believe they call it love. Or as i like to call it inflatuaction. (I cant spell, oh you noticed)
And i've had it when i've not actually had sex with the girl and its sucks. Thats why im here.
Im dating girls but never normally goes nowhere, but when i do get emotionally involved with someone again. Bam! one-itis all over again, whats a man to do huh, its a disease, which useaully has 2 outcomes, marraige or suicide.

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I wonder how many posts on this forum are about one itis? I know as many as I see and answer I am guessing maybe 20% or more. That would be an interesting one to figure out. Also, everyone feels there situation is different and special somehow. Why else would they continue to post the same damn thing, outside of laziness from not using the search tool.

Just felt like a little rant! If I offend anyone...who the hell cares.

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hey mozy. It's definitely infatuation.

Ok, in your mind, you have to set up this framework. When you FIRST have contact with a girl, about the time you're opening her, you have to place yourself on one of two roads. Either the Lover or the Provider road.

YOU do this IMMEDIATELY in your own mind. What you want to do is place yourself on the Lover road, NOT the Provider road. If you're with a girl for 3 damn months and not getting anything, you're definitely either LJBF'd (fucked in the wrong way, lol), or on the Provider road, which is fucked almost as bad.

You want to personally and privately put yourself onto the Lover road immediately. You turn up her attraction to you. You build up her comfort . . . a little . . . while AMPING up her attraction. This will steer you to her Lover road, which means, if done right, you will be hitting it within a week or less. THEN, you need to make sure you have the proper perspective of your relationship. Don't get PUSSY WHIPPED. Take that sweet treasure that's between her legs and bring it down off of the pedestool. Trust me. 9's and 10's really DON'T want their pussy put on the pedestool anyway, even though they will attempt to make you THINK they do.

I hear you man, cheers for the advice. The reason i found PUA because last girl i got it bad for. It just gets get me that cant get back with her. Dont get me wrong dont wanna marry this girl, i just want fun for another 6 mths or more. I do but i dont wanna be her. Its kinda hard cus her BF is the murderer livin next door. And i just seen her out the window. I dont wanna see her no more. I just met a great girl but its got one itis written all over it. I'll figure it out soon. I just need to move on

WHOAAAA, that sounds like stalking. Step back man. She ain't worth that shit. Find other girls. You don't have to stalk ANY girl. And you shouldn't. Move on.

No, chill ya beans, i cant help it if she's stood outside my house, laughing, with a cat in a box for some reason? Actually i think im gonna go up to her flat now armed with my telescope, na joking.
I just wish they would hurry up an move, i need to move, someone needs to move!

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