This girl finally contacted me via text pretty much saying she didn't feel about me what she should be feeling in this point of the game been only seeing her for a couple of weeks and that she's sorry and hope I'm not mad at her. This has happened before but I wanna know the right way to go about this. I know I'm prob never seeing her again but should I text her a interesting response play It off so i dont come off mad or not text her at all

She's 99% lost for you. I would text "No worries." and move on. More girls are waiting for you. Eventually, if she sees you with other girl, she might feel envy and wants you back.

If you can swallow your pride and don't want her back then text back saying thanks and no worries, and could she give you some honest feedback on where you're going wrong as you've decided to improve yourself. She will be feeling slightly guilty and will probably say yes. Listen to what she says without criticism, the information is gold dust.

Some guys might find this really hard but if your self image is that fragile you will always come off 2nd best in PUA.

I think everyone here has a point, just ask her for advice, its good to try and improve your overall game. Girls know best, they always tell their friends about you, show you dont have a fragile ego, and willing to take the constructive criticism and advance your game even more.

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That's pretty inspired advice. Getting an ex to tell you where u went wrong is like getting the answers to an exam u just failed. The best part is the next time your take the test the questions will be exactly the same

Thanks guys I appreciate It. I didn't get all the replies by time I texted her back I said no worries..As good as advice I Might get from her I kind of just wanted to keep I short and sweet she was not initiating text/calls all week playing games thought it might have been playing hard to get but in the back of my mind I knew she lost attraction and felt bad tellining me..it was crazy it was almost like A 360 turn around in a day but it is what it is..hopefully she sees me with some other girl

You have been seeing someone for 14-21 days and they randomly send you a text saying they don't feel the way they should at this point in a realtionship? This has happen to you more then once in your life?

This is clearly a test/challenge. She is seeing how you react to losing her,to see if you care. If she didn't like you 1: she would have just stop talking to you and not respond to any text. 2: she gave you a reason to respond with an open ended question, I hope your not mad at me. This is a bs tactic women use to reject men, but still be wanted by that man.

Wtf would any man ask a women what they did wrong? The women doesn't know what you did wrong,they only know how they fell. Men are controlled by logic, women are controlled by emotion. Men need to understand why they feel a certain way, women do not want to understand why they feel a certain way they just want to feel and not understand. Ever hear a women say I shouldn't feel this way but I do? It's because they don't understand their feelings but they like how they feel.

Don't respond "no worries" or that's cool. Your implying that your upset but trying not to act like you are. The correct response is " I know what you mean, I feel the same way, I just didn't want to be the asshole to say it"

By doing this you have done 3 important things.
1) you implied that you understand her feelings
2)you implied that's she's a mean person for saying that to you and she now feels guilty
3)by saying you feel the same way, you imply that she did something wrong with you and it's her fault that she wasn't into you.

She will not expect this reply, she expects you to be upset because she's so great. Now when she texts back, don't respond,for at least a day. Her response will be something generic I.E I'm glad you feel the same way and/or I'm glad we can be friends. Your response is a one word response I.E cool or okay, she will try to get you to converse, do not reply, for at least one week and do not reply directly to anything she says. You want to flip the tables and take it from her rejecting you into you rejecting her. This will mind-fuck her. Once a week has past on a Friday or Saturday night invite her out with a group of friends. When she comes out with you,ignore her all night till the end,give her 20 or 30 minutes of attention. Word of warning she will try to make you jealous do not become jealous at all cost. Once you have done these things it's an easy transition into booty call status.

You NEVER have to respond to texts like that. Don't mope just move on.

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@ Jericho brown.. It was not totally random because we had plans to do something later but she even started the text with "this may be out of left field" we talked a couple of times this week and everything seemed normal. We were not talking as much as we were last week which striked me weird because we went out a couple of times also last week and had an awesome time. It seemed like a complete turnaround but I did not really think anything of it at the time I honestly thought maybe she did not want to talk everyday like we were cause were still just dating so I played it cool and only talked to her couple of times this week cause i went overboard before with talking and i was not making the same mistake again. Then I get this text so i was kind of left confused. I just said no worries because this was before I got your thread I probably should have said what you said but I now know if that ever comes up again. I liked the girl which sucked but regardless I am learning. thank you all for the comments I appreciate it!!

im doing this exact thing if im ever confronted with this scenario. very smart

If she was a total bitch about it you could have texted back "Is it because I told your friends that you were getting too fat?" Then don't reply.

This is insanely logical. Definitely doing this in the future brah. Amount of times I've fallen into the "THis isn't working but lets me friends" trap.

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So freaking true!

"hahaha slow down there cowgirl! Mad at you over what? We're two adults who enjoy each others company. Your honesty is quite refreshing. Hows your week been going?"

few weeks is nothing, it may take more spending time with her to 'feel something' - don't even stress this just play it cool, keep your expectations in check - that spark she's not feeling is a result of u not building enough attraction is all, be understanding, but dont dwell on it (things are only as big a deal as u make them out to be). Focus on getting her out more and showing her an awesome time and the rest will fall into place.

Remember, the vast majority of girls are used to the guy bolting after hearing this...See this as an opportunity to display your more desirable attributes.

You had me up until the bolded point. 'Freezing her out' for a week is incongruent with reframing the situation as him rejecting her. In fact, it will come off as pouting behaviour ("you did something I don't like therefore I'll ignore you/not msg you"). If he truly was unphazed by the "lets be friends" inference he'd continue talking to her as normal rather than going quiet. Also, she already has low investment in him, breaking rapport with her at this crucial time will likely be counterproductive to creating more attraction.