my problem is that iv been friends with this polish girl for about 4 months now and we hav come very close to each another. i fancy her so much but she has a boyfriend who lives about 100 mile away from us. she sees her boyfriend maybe once a month.

i can tell she finds me attractive but im not shore she will finish her boyfriend and start seeing me becuase they have been togehter on and of for about 4 years and also he is polish like her.

but at the same time i dont think her boyfriend truely likes her becuase he always make her upset and if she ask him does he love her she gets no reply.

i no she like my company becuase she always texts me when she not with her boyfriend and she asked me go poland in a coupl of weeks with her ( skiing ). when ever she sees me she cant stop smiling and she is always linking my arms and pinching my cheeks.

i dont no what to do becuase i dont want risk losing her as a friend becuase i enjoy been with her, but i like her that much that i think it would be rong for her not to no how i feel.

i would be very happy with any help that i could get xxx

You're LJBF'd. There's a reason she won't let go of him. He's hitting the switches. Sure, he may be an asshole, but he's still hitting the switches. For you to EVER have any chance with her, you'll have to hit the same switches, but harder. And, being the "nice guy" that you're currently being won't do it.

I see LJBF on this as well. However, you do have one huge HUGE advantage, and that is proximity. You said it yourself, you are there while her boyfriend isn't. All you have to do is run some boyfriend destroyer techniques, while at the same time displaying the positive characteristics she found attractive in her boyfriend. You've already got trust and comfort, and from what you say there is a glimmer of attraction---so run your patterns and amplify the attraction. Simple right?

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how do i find out how to push the right buttons with her, and how can i get rid of her boyfirend?

The buttons are the same with any girl. The basic attraction switches anyway.

1. Leader of men
2. Preselected by women
3. Willing to emote
4. Protector of loved ones

Also, be willing to put your balls on the line. If you want her, you HAVE to be willing to lose her in the process. If you're not willing to lose her, you don't have much chance of even getting her.

Do a search on some b/f destroyers. Just keep in mind, she already "knows" you, so you have an extra effort there to make. It most likely will make it harder on you. So, is she worth the effort? And, as I said, be prepared to lose her out of your life.

thanx m8 you are been a great help, should i try and show her that her boyfriend maybe doesnt like her. i can tell he isint that interested in her

1. he will never say that he loves her.
2. hes always telling her she is fat ect.
3. he lazy and expects her to do everything etc cook clean wash his clothes when she goes see him.
4. she say he always makes her angry and that he is stupid

what are the best things find out about him that i could use to take him out

Here's one link:
bf-destroyer-vt6736.html?highlight=destroyers

Here's another:
bf-destroyers-afc-vt11862.html?highlight=destroyers

What you CAN'T do is put him down and build yourself up. That won't work like you think it will. You have to build him up bigger than what he really is. Get her to saying he's NOT like that. Then, DON'T jump and say "oh but I am!!!!" Just let her realize for herself what he really is, while YOU build attraction with her.

boyfriend destroyer...

when she complains about something, about him... exaggerate it, but never, NEVER insult him.

ex:

HB: boyfriend hasn't called me in 2 days
You: that really sucks, my sisters ex stopped calling her before they broke up, it turns out he had knocked another girl up, and was spending time trying to talk the knocked up girl into getting rid of the baby
(additionally, mirror that behavior yourself, don't call her for a couple of days)

escape from LJBF
Your at an advantage, in that your already DEEP into comfort. All you really need to do is establish attraction, and sexual tension.

DHV yourself, slowly move topics of conversation to sexual subjects.

Show pre-selection... sarge other girls. Talk about them openly with her.

Grab some friends, and this girl, and go to a nudie bar. Ignore the strippers in the background, talk to your target.

take her on a shopping trip with you to a "novelty shop". Initially shop for "non adult" items like t-shirts. Ignore the porno and sex toys. Act comfortable, relaxed, and unphased. If she starts looking at/talking about the "adult" merchandise, be cocky/funny and relaxed about it. If she never makes the "non-adult" to "adult" jump on her own, try making a joke about the sex dolls yourself. It's of the up most importance that you don't come off as creepy.

The goal here, is to establish in her mind that you are not just a friend, but also a sexual being, without being creepy, overly direct, or appear to be hitting on her.

Kino escalate! When you get close enough to her that you feel sexual tension build, PULL BACK! sprinkle in lots of "this is so wrong" and "I don't want to ruin our friendships"[/b]

i never fort of it like that, thats got be the best bit of advice i cud of ever had.

should say shit like, your boyfriend must treat you all the time, noing that he never ever treats her like bringing her flower or shit lol

im impressing her already but how can i pull all th estops out to show her that im better than her boyfriend.

any1 have any attraction tips for me

Ahem . . .
Any questions? lol

yes! number 3 please.

if i understand that right ... it means willingness to express emotion? could you give some simple advice on how you use those four switches when building attraction? i believe i understand those and have my own ideas about using them.. but i benifit from others experiances also.

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Yes, that's what it means. Ok, for example, going into a club, with male and female wings. You are the leader of men (1), preselected by women (2), sets will fly open for you. You demonstrate either through DHV stories that you are a protector of loved ones (3) or if something happens with a wing while at the club, you can demonstrate it that way, and if that happens you also show willingness to show emotion (4). If that doesn't happen, if someone that's drunk steps on you, don't be dramatic about it, but don't be afraid to say ouch either. Serves the same purpose (4). That's just an example of course.