So, while working on a girl with a b/f you are going to want to do some b/f destroyers and you want him to look like an AFC.

How exactly do you do this? I guess I am looking for a list of traits an AFC has and how to use those traits against a targets b/f.

I know the best thing to do is to ignore the topic and change the subject when she brings up the b/f. But, I have been working on a girl who has a long term b/f and feel like I need to do something else. I need to show her that I am better than her current b/f (I am). I just dont know how.

This is where listening skills come in handy. I like to have a friendly conversation and talk about things I value in a partner, which causes the target to tell me what they value in a partner and where their current partner is lacking. From there, you just need to show that you understand and appreciate the need for those areas and then DHV in them. You can DHV just by saying that you agree and that you value those areas as well, or you can show how you are better in those areas in a way that she can compare and see for herself. The key to this is doing it in a way that shows that you aren't trying too hard to impress her, its just a topic of conversation and you are stating your feelings on the subject, that's all.

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yes. rye lee puts it dead on. sitting her down and having a sincere convo with her about it can really put some value on your head. just be friendly. it demonstrates to her that you care, that you can be trusted, and that you are there for more then just getting in her pants.

that's where i usually f*** up

Thanks guys.

How do I tell her; where her current b/f is lacking without seeming like im attacking her or her b/f? The worst would be for her to become deffensive and think that i am trying to break them up or attack them.

Don't point out where he's lacking, talk about yourself. She'll talk about him and when she says something about him, you just voice your feelings on the subject. If for instance she says, "He's too jealous of me, he doesn't like that I have really close guy friends." Then you reply with, "I don't mind when a girl I'm seeing has close guy friends, because I trust her to be faithful to me, otherwise the relationship isn't going to work anyways and if she wants to destroy it, then that's up to her, not me."

The idea isn't to point out his weak points, but to show your strong points when she shows you his weak points. She WILL show you his weak points, because that's what people do, they like to vent about any problems they are having. If you need to get the ball rolling, then you can just ask her how her bf is and she'll probably just start telling you stuff, if not, you can always make a comment about something that you already know he is lacking in, or assume he is.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Like Rye Lee said, get her to talk and be sure to DHV on what she says but don't agree on everything. If you agree on everything you'll look like a bitch, try to play his side a little bit and then turn it around by saying that the guy is just doing that because he's insecure. Point out that everything she said was just him trying to live up to her expectations because he probably won't get a girl like her again.

Be sure you have some game, this is not a technique for the average guy. You should at least be a little more outgoing than this guy and shown that you have more value than him, or you'll just fall into the friend zone. Not everyone has the ability to be Alpha, but if you are be sure you're more than him and this should work alright.

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