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Recently, I realized I lack of strong frame control so I started to focus on that. It's actually funny how easy it is to pick up when you adapt a correct mindset and just go in direct with a strong frame and your own reality.
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I have no problem with online game. However, I still want to learn how to maintain the same frame in person as for those girls I went on date with, they could sense the difference in frame control and eventually I lost their interest. I'm open to any suggestion on how to or any exercise I can do to improve my frame in person.
Hey mate.
this is very interesting and i respect your honesty in this. The interesting part is just the fact that you are daring to go as fas as you went online, but then in real life seem to be hesitant...
To you and to charblad the following:
When thinking in frames or conciously mending and bending your mind, you are doing it wrong. We are talking about direct game here, which is actually not game at all. It is a ventilating your desire, casting away your fear for what might happen. It is, unlike many other people, exposing yourself and your true desire. True desire is emotion. Frames and conciously thinking stuff is logic. Direct game has nothing to do with logic.
Therefor, when you think that you need to maintain a frame or maintain a mindset, it is logic making plausible excuses for fear. You guys, with all due respect,
are afraid.
There is no way of training it. You either get yourself as far as conquering it or you dont. Direct game is black or white. You either do it or you dont. You dont try. You dont train. the only thing you can train with direct game is the show you create around it.
its like benjee jumping when you are afraid of heights. You jump or you dont. There is no training. you cant train benjee jumping from your kitchen table. You cant train telling your true desire to a woman.
To GKS, the only thing you have to do is follow your desire. That is all. Your desire is the reason those girls give their number to you. That is the reason they are there on that date with you. They expect your desire, they expect you to move on them, the give them the thrill of sensual and sexual tension. So the only thing you go to do is follow your desire, then be able to control it so you dont spray your offspring within 30 seconds. You will feel the anxiety, you will feel afraid, believe me, i have been there a lot, and it doesnt really go away, ever.
Direct game is going for what you want. It is facing that fear and deciding if you succumb to it or not. There is no trying. There is no middle way. Its is completely one way or completely the highway.
One other thing, and i find it strange that you havent noticed this before:
when you have expressed your sexual interest in a woman, everything changes, instantly. If she doesnt run away, you have an instant deep connection with that woman. As if you both share an amazing secret (and understanding female sexuality, you better keep it a secret). Whithin this connection, everything is possible, and you are in control. She is waiting; So you can tease her, whisper her x rated plain rough fuck talk, hit her ass whenever you want (ofcourse if you play it cool, you do it in public in such a way nobody can see it, EXCITING!!), you can tell her anything, and she will love it! Give her amazing sex, and you got a fuckbuddy who is quite faithfull actually.
Also, and this is the most crazy shit i realized quite a long time ago ( i even wrote a post about it): when you have this type of connection ( i really cant find any other wording for this type interaction), and you look all the pua material there is, you will look at it with total different view and you will realize that all this material is gold! It is absolute gold! but motor of all that material is you own attitude. If you are willing to go direct, can you imagine what you can do with the plain old Mystery Method? Dressing up like a fool to meet women.... some people laugh at this, but if you are willing to go direct, you are a boss, you will not mind the clothes, and
you will use the Mystery Method and it will hit like a fucking bomb.
So in short: follow your instincts, your desire. Face fear and decide what you want to do. Any term or frame or concious mental aiding are excuses for the lack of balls on your body.
If you have more questions, shoot!
I wish you good luck!
CHAT
