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PostPosted: Sat Aug 04, 2012 1:30 am 
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I have been in the game for almost a year, have no AA or any problem with my game. Have done couple of approaches at the mall. My biggest problem is that the place where I live is a dead city, or at least the part of the place where I live is dead. Almost to no public transportation, no metro area or so. One needs a car and as a college student I don't have one. How can I meet more women here? If this keeps going on, my mental state is going to crumble. I need to meet women, close to my place enough or hers so that I can close. I don't enjoy clubs or bars, so day game is my only option left here. I have not gotten two numbers only, simply because I haven't had enough opportunities to meet women in my area. I don't know if anyone else is from here or had been here, knows any way to meet more women in their 19-20s, that would be really helpful. Or if you live in a deserted place, what do you recommend that I should do?


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Aren't there females at your school?


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Maybe you're over concentrating on achieving a lifestyle by itself. To my opinion, Game can be a lifestyle but only if you already have a life. Don't mean to say you don't have one, ok? it just looks to me like you're concentrating too much on meeting women you feel attracted to instead of attracting women to you.

Say you're a day gamer? You could concentrate on building up yourself a really desirable lifestyle; being a guy that women crave to meet. (instead of a guy just craving to meet women). Ok, don't know how rock solid is your actual life, im just sayin: if you're a day gamer, try, by all means, different kinds of day activities. Go rappel, biking, running, try a gym, practice soccer.. Well there are tons of day activities that can help you meet women. Have you actually tried them??

On the other Hand, you say you dont have AA, your city is a deserted place and stuff, but yet you refuse (apparently) to Really try different game scenarios. Why turn down the bar option?
Have you really played at a bar?, Would it be smart to try again and change strategies? What is the real reason you dont like those places?

Not saying that you HAVE TO go there; you don't, but if you think your day game is not working, try night game then but change strategies....

Now, on the other hand, why not trying Facebook or any other social network? Meeting women from your area and later meeting them in person can be both stimulating, different and challenging. Try it out!


On the other hand, as mystery once said, Game is not a thing you will become good at in a matter of days. It may take you days, weeks, months or even YEARS to master!!...

And finally, if your town is desserted consider getting a part-time job (good oportunity to meet people in general) save up for a car and go out!
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 04, 2012 1:52 am 
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Aren't there females at your school?
Yes, there are. I go to a large state university. You might be thinking, that I am such a moron, but there are close to no girls on campus now. Its summer and they all come in September. Although they come in September, I haven't approached anyone on campus before. Any ideas where to game girls on campus? Any ideas/suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.


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You gave me some very good ways to meet women, but lets deconstruct them one by one.
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Maybe you're over concentrating on achieving a lifestyle by itself. To my opinion, Game can be a lifestyle but only if you already have a life. Don't mean to say you don't have one, ok? it just looks to me like you're concentrating too much on meeting women you feel attracted to instead of attracting women to you.
I do have a life, although I grew up in a big city, but I grew up mostly isolated from the rest of the neighborhood. Family pressure, studies in HS, made me an introvert. I went to counseling, read books on conversational skills, social intelligence, and how to make friends. Next, I had to fix my personality to become more confident, smooth and dominant. Then I had to learn how to start gaming girls. All of this, including approaching took me 1 yr. What was common knowledge for many, but it wasn't for me. I had to learn it the hard way.
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Say you're a day gamer? You could concentrate on building up yourself a really desirable lifestyle; being a guy that women crave to meet. (instead of a guy just craving to meet women). Ok, don't know how rock solid is your actual life, im just sayin: if you're a day gamer, try, by all means, different kinds of day activities. Go rappel, biking, running, try a gym, practice soccer.. Well there are tons of day activities that can help you meet women. Have you actually tried them??
I don't have what you call a social circle on campus, but I know quite a few people who are my friends. I do enjoy many things in my personal life, but not having a car, and living off campus where there is no mode of transportation over the weekend, is really drawing me back from living my life to the fullest. If I knew I shouldn't have come to this dead city. I am in one college clubs which is called "pro-life" club. Its anti-abortion. What kinds of college clubs do you think women love to be at?[/quote]
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On the other Hand, you say you dont have AA, your city is a deserted place and stuff, but yet you refuse (apparently) to Really try different game scenarios. Why turn down the bar option?Have you really played at a bar?, Would it be smart to try again and change strategies? What is the real reason you dont like those places? Not saying that you HAVE TO go there; you don't, but if you think your day game is not working, try night game then but change strategies....
Yes. I have gone to two nightclubs and couple of bars many times with my friends. I personally don't enjoy drinking, and I don't have any fun there.
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Now, on the other hand, why not trying Facebook or any other social network? Meeting women from your area and later meeting them in person can be both stimulating, different and challenging. Try it out!
Good idea, but I am not sure how this will go. Pre-selection and looks are huge components online. I don't have any female friends (no social circles, I am not a loner, all of my friends are guys, who also have no gfs). I am average looking. I don't care what a girl thinks of me. It honestly doesn't matter to me. But, what I do care about, is that she will not reply to my post after she sees my photo. I don't have any deformities, except for that I am not as tall as all other handsome guys. I am being very realistic here. No, it doesn't bother me at all. I have fixed my inner game, and making more stronger every day. I think most girls will just toss out my message. If you think of it any other way, please share your ideas here.
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And finally, if your town is desserted consider getting a part-time job (good oportunity to meet people in general) save up for a car and go out!
You tried to help me out in many possible ways, and my responses might seem that I am just putting out all the negative ideas here. But, I am just being realistic here. If I had been living in a metro area, then I don't think finding targets would've been such a problem for me. On a personal level, I am 21, had been single for all of my life, and you know the hidden word behind that message. This is what has been driving me crazy, seeing everyone else living a different life from me.


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PostPosted: Sat Aug 04, 2012 12:50 pm 
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I have been in the game for almost a year, have no AA or any problem with my game.

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I have not gotten two numbers only, simply because I haven't had enough opportunities to meet women in my area.


hmmm, something seems fishy here
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what do you recommend that I should do?
what have you done so far?


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hmmm, something seems fishy here. what have you done so far?


Unlike those who live in a big city, i live in a suburb. this city has a mall located at about 10 miles from my home. i have a private student shuttle to pickup students from my off-campus apt. to campus, back and forth. Next, I have to take another shuttle from campus to go to the local train. from there I take the train and then another 30 min bus ride to go to the mall. in total this takes me like 2 hrs, plus delays takes me more. to go to the mall. public transportation at my place is not like that of NYC or LA. I don't have a car. So far I have gone to the mall, approached several sets. At first, they didn't work, so I went again and again. Somedays there aren't enough people at the mall. And, right now there aren't enough targets on campus. Its summer.


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hmmm, something seems fishy here. what have you done so far?


Unlike those who live in a big city, i live in a suburb. this city has a mall located at about 10 miles from my home. i have a private student shuttle to pickup students from my off-campus apt. to campus, back and forth. Next, I have to take another shuttle from campus to go to the local train. from there I take the train and then another 30 min bus ride to go to the mall. in total this takes me like 2 hrs, plus delays takes me more. to go to the mall. public transportation at my place is not like that of NYC or LA. I don't have a car. So far I have gone to the mall, approached several sets. At first, they didn't work, so I went again and again. Somedays there aren't enough people at the mall. And, right now there aren't enough targets on campus. Its summer.
Bingo.

You can pick up girls during the commute. You cannot pick up girls if you don't want to see the opportunities. Campus is teeming with girls. If you want the nerdy types, the library is the place to sarge. The canteen or restaurants are teeming with girls too. The halls offer plenty of opportunities.

Based on your posts in this thread, you have extreme AA. Only a couple of numbers for almost a year, wtf? :twisted:

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This reminds me of a favorite quote from David. "When you find yourself making excuses, throw your hat over the fence so you have to climb over to get it. Or better yet, just tell that whining voice in your head to shut up and do it."

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hmmm, something seems fishy here. what have you done so far?


Unlike those who live in a big city, i live in a suburb. this city has a mall located at about 10 miles from my home. i have a private student shuttle to pickup students from my off-campus apt. to campus, back and forth. Next, I have to take another shuttle from campus to go to the local train. from there I take the train and then another 30 min bus ride to go to the mall. in total this takes me like 2 hrs, plus delays takes me more. to go to the mall. public transportation at my place is not like that of NYC or LA. I don't have a car. So far I have gone to the mall, approached several sets. At first, they didn't work, so I went again and again. Somedays there aren't enough people at the mall. And, right now there aren't enough targets on campus. Its summer.
so what is your solution to these problems you perceive yourself to be having? do you have any ideas for something that could be put in to motion in the short term, rather then the long term?


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Heh hikefish, so close to haifish (shark in German)
Anyways
Just take one day and think to yourself "do I see any women", don't be picky or anything about it, just literally take a 360 view and take notice anything that has a vagina and what doesn't (I'd say boobs, but some men are severely overweight these days)
You'd be surprised at how sorrounded you actually are, I thought I literally saw 2-4 women a week, then while I was walking down a grocery store aisle I remembered someone told me to do this and I looked around and literally saw 5 women in that single aisle, to be honest I just believe your not looking, how "out there" are you putting yourself? Does the lady on the bus have a daughter? Is there ONE girl at your college during the summer? Have you kept up any old contacts? Have you tried a dating service website? (if im allowed to mention them I hear good things about plenty of fish and okcupid) - have you gone to the bar NOT to pick up women but focus On having a good time? Women like men who are fun and will come to you if your that guy

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Have you kept up any old contacts? Have you tried a dating service website? (if im allowed to mention them I hear good things about plenty of fish and okcupid) - have you gone to the bar NOT to pick up women but focus On having a good time? Women like men who are fun and will come to you if your that guy
I dont have any social circle. I would love to use POF and other dating websites. But, a lot of things count into those things. Looks matter hugely. I am not ugly looking but, I am not like brad pitt or clooney, or ryan gosling. There are very cute girls on POF, but i dont know what kind of game i can run there. I do wanna have fun with women, I mean I love it when girls laugh with me, and we are having a good time. I personally dont like drinking, so bars and nightclubs dont work for me.


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oops it's "Haifisch", close enough
and you are just pussy-footin around, USE POF, use okcupid or whatever; what's the worst that can happen? a woman says yes, marries you, then divorces you 2 months later and takes all your stuff? I'm telling you 100 different ways to meet women and you're saying "well no, women will judge me if i do that" - NO SHIT; that's how gaming WORKS
"I don't know what type of gaming to use there" - the english one, say hi, get her number, take her out on a date in real life, and ect. once your online it doesn't instantly transform into some halloween movie, the girls online, guess what, are girls in real life too (sometimes... lol)
and "I personally don't like drinking" - I NEVER told you to drink... let the women drink, let the women be easy, and let you reap the benefits, who goes to bars to drink anymore anyways? you're just there for the girls who cares what happens around you?

in all honesty, grow a pair, you want to meet women, they don't knock on your door naked asking to be fucked, go out there and say "hi" to one

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oops it's "Haifisch", close enough
and you are just pussy-footin around, USE POF, use okcupid or whatever; what's the worst that can happen? a woman says yes, marries you, then divorces you 2 months later and takes all your stuff? I'm telling you 100 different ways to meet women and you're saying "well no, women will judge me if i do that" - NO SHIT; that's how gaming WORKS
"I don't know what type of gaming to use there" - the english one, say hi, get her number, take her out on a date in real life, and ect. once your online it doesn't instantly transform into some halloween movie, the girls online, guess what, are girls in real life too (sometimes... lol)
and "I personally don't like drinking" - I NEVER told you to drink... let the women drink, let the women be easy, and let you reap the benefits, who goes to bars to drink anymore anyways? you're just there for the girls who cares what happens around you?

in all honesty, grow a pair, you want to meet women, they don't knock on your door naked asking to be fucked, go out there and say "hi" to one
You are right. Looks like I am making too many excuses for myself. From now on, I am going to cut the crap, and start doing what you guys are telling me to do. And then w/e happens will happen. Either online or in real life, I am going for it. Thanks everyone.


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