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So recently i have been seeing a LOT of guys post and send me PM's regarding approaching during the day.

So i would like to start a thread about why YOU find it difficult or hard to approach during the day.

I will answer back all responses. Also you can leave a comment on my blog i would like to get a conversation going about this.

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I'm now living in a small town and you see the same people day to day. I've tried approaching them asking for directions or some information and they reply usually in a friendly way.
I've approached them to give them random compliments and then walk away and they reacted well.
But when I approached them and say something like: "Hey you look so cute that I've to come and say: "hello" at the moment I try to say my name is: _____ " they usually reply something nasty or they just walk away as fast as possible.

So after 20 or 30 approaches like that I don't dare to do that anymore over here... Specially because you see them every now and then because there is not so many people and if they see me around they do anything possible to avoid eye contact and be as far from my presence than possible.

So I'm trying to come up with a plan to meet them little by little, give them the chance to get to know me and escalate things from there. Any suggestions?


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So recently i have been seeing a LOT of guys post and send me PM's regarding approaching during the day.

So i would like to start a thread about why YOU find it difficult or hard to approach during the day.

I will answer back all responses. Also you can leave a comment on my blog i would like to get a conversation going about this.

http://theattractiveu.com/why-do-guys-f ... -day-game/


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Maybe because it looks like totally unnatural?


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PostPosted: Tue Jul 31, 2012 12:15 pm 
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I think most people fear rejection. It can break a mans heart.


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I think most people fear rejection. It can break a mans heart.
Exactly. and the only way to fix this is by getting out there and getting rejected. I've been rejected in public.

As a matter of fact i was getting off the train, and a girl i thought was attractive was standing there and like 3 other old guys just chilling standing behind her talking. So i approached, when i approached EVERYONE got quite just to see my approach. It was funny.

She told me it was awkward because her mom was coming to pick her up, i think she was like 16 or 17. A little to young for me. haha So i got out quick.

Its situations like these that makes you fearless. You just have to want it bad enough and get out there. I go out and day game for 1 day a week at malls for 3 hours just to game + all the day game i do throughout my day. Then hit the field hard on the weekend(most of the time i have dates set up from girls ive met during the week)

This what it takes. In this game success is made by repetition.

i have a article coming in a few minutes on "How to directly approach a women during day game".


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I'm now living in a small town and you see the same people day to day. I've tried approaching them asking for directions or some information and they reply usually in a friendly way.
I've approached them to give them random compliments and then walk away and they reacted well.
But when I approached them and say something like: "Hey you look so cute that I've to come and say: "hello" at the moment I try to say my name is: _____ " they usually reply something nasty or they just walk away as fast as possible.

So after 20 or 30 approaches like that I don't dare to do that anymore over here... Specially because you see them every now and then because there is not so many people and if they see me around they do anything possible to avoid eye contact and be as far from my presence than possible.

So I'm trying to come up with a plan to meet them little by little, give them the chance to get to know me and escalate things from there. Any suggestions?

Hmm.Sounds like it is just a town of nasty people. ;-)

That is quite strange for everyone you approach to respond negatively. Maybe its your body language, eye contact?

Also maybe try going to another town close by that way no one knows you there.

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Check out this new post guys, will really help you with directly approaching women directly during day game.


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Hey I usually do day game but always with people that I know, coworkers, friends of friends or girls that asks me a question or talks to me for any reason (since they talk to me it's so easy to lead the conversation anywhere else). When my friends introduce a girl, I'm usually able to get a number or facebook but that is way too easy.

As you see, there's absolutely no risk of rejection. I was just wondering if what You say about daygame approach works the same with young girls (16 to 19 yo). Should I come up like you say? « Excuse me, you just walked past me and I had introduce myself because you look gorgeous » (or anythig like that). I guess some of them would be bitchy and be like "why are you stopping me"

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Good point.

Yeah with younger girls you can come direct. I've found it that younger girls are sometimes more open to those spontaneous day game approaches.

Yeah just walk up...'Hey Excuse me...(Pause)(Smile) I just noticed you walking pass and i thought you look gorgeous. I had to come introduce myself and find out more about you."

And go from there. Or you can try going indirect. i find it easier and makes more since to go direct during day game. Since there are A MILLION people you could have randomly asked "your question"...She will know you are hitting on her. haha.

So yeah just try different approaches.

Check out this post on how to make a direct approach work during day game.

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Also im looking for bloggers to wirte and keep their journal on my site.
fill out the forum if your interested. Really think it will be good for the community.
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Thx for the reply. It still feels weird for me to talk very direct. You see, I am beginning in the game. I have very good skills when it comes to speaking to girls or boys and I think i am a natural. The only thing is that I have no problem talking to girls when I'm comfortable with them but I still have to reach this point with unknowns. I just have to get rid of that "this is weird" feeling in my head.

And thanks for your blogging offer, but I'll have to turn it down for the moment. I'll be moving out of the family house in 3 weeks and, as you know, it will be game on! I've already changed my state of mind every single time I speak to a girl. I'm already getting some results, but I will invest much more of my time then.

I'll PM you tomorrow. It would be nice to have someone to discuss with about daygame since I will probably put night game aside to concentrate on daygame (it feels more natural for me)

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Thx for the reply. It still feels weird for me to talk very direct. You see, I am beginning in the game. I have very good skills when it comes to speaking to girls or boys and I think i am a natural. The only thing is that I have no problem talking to girls when I'm comfortable with them but I still have to reach this point with unknowns. I just have to get rid of that "this is weird" feeling in my head.

And thanks for your blogging offer, but I'll have to turn it down for the moment. I'll be moving out of the family house in 3 weeks and, as you know, it will be game on! I've already changed my state of mind every single time I speak to a girl. I'm already getting some results, but I will invest much more of my time then.

I'll PM you tomorrow. It would be nice to have someone to discuss with about daygame since I will probably put night game aside to concentrate on daygame (it feels more natural for me)

Sounds good bro! Same here.

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so currently i live in a populated area or the bay area in a certain section of a city but i travel alot to other sides since i go to school on the other side of the city. i do approach girs then and there but i take about 5-10min to debate with myself whether or not to approach them or about what i should say so that i dont come off as a creep or make a fool of myself. i take public transportation and i see almost the same people day after day. also i do see the same people casually then and there on the street even though it's a populated area. i guess i fear that i might be labeled/known as "that guy" who gets rejected by all these girls especially since im somewat still a noob to pua. i also fear that it might dlv my status and decrease my chances of getting a girl. i have thought about going to different areas where people dont know me or will never see me so that i can practice and improve. any opinions or thoughts?

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I wouldn't mind day if it's a girl by herself. But if she is with a group, then nope. Day game is unnatural cause ppl don't expect to get hit on. But that's good and bad. Could totally surprise a girl by going direct game on her when she's just by herself.


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so currently i live in a populated area or the bay area in a certain section of a city but i travel alot to other sides since i go to school on the other side of the city. i do approach girs then and there but i take about 5-10min to debate with myself whether or not to approach them or about what i should say so that i dont come off as a creep or make a fool of myself. i take public transportation and i see almost the same people day after day. also i do see the same people casually then and there on the street even though it's a populated area. i guess i fear that i might be labeled/known as "that guy" who gets rejected by all these girls especially since im somewat still a noob to pua. i also fear that it might dlv my status and decrease my chances of getting a girl. i have thought about going to different areas where people dont know me or will never see me so that i can practice and improve. any opinions or thoughts?
i definitely understand your situation here. See i actually put some rules on my day gaming.

I TRY not to day game around my work place where i know i will see the same people UNLESS she is SUPER HOT and i just have to talk to her. Like the other day when i met this hot latina chick in front of Starbucks.

If you are worried you will see the same people, then make a wise choice for yourself. Just because you think a girl is attractive doesn't mean you MUST talk to her. Its your choice if you feel like you should then go for it. You will see 100 more attractive women in the next 72 hours anyway. So if you feel that you shouldn't game in those particular area's i say don't. Go to places a few miles away from you, where you don't know anyone. After a while you will improve and be able to game in your local area's. Me, i personally don't care, if i get rejected in front of everyone. Most guys don't have the courage to go for things because fear.

So go for it man. Maybe not "game" the chicks you see but just start conversation.

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My fear? Not finding any HB's in the environment :lol: Would be a waste of time haha :cry:

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