I want to cry right now and punch a hole through the wall.



A year ago, I was nobody. Never kissed a girl, and paid for sex twice. I went to college and could count the number of friends with my hands. I was introduced to PUA and I began to care about my body. I dropped 20 lbs and changed the way I looked. By the time school started in the fall, I went from no one to hyper social. My social circle expanded drastically by joining a fraternity. Instantly I was meeting over fifty people and gradually more and more as I was introduced to friends of friends. Every time I walk on campus, I would say hi to at least one person I know.

In truth, I neglected a lot of the PUA techniques. At first I was confident, cocky and everything an alpha male PUA taught me. But as I was swimming around HBs from party and party, I began to let my guard down. I began to show my true self around them and to this, there were still women who came up to me and told me they liked me.

But like a curse all my life, I only get girls that were around 3-5s come to me even throughout high school. I felt it was time for me to go for a reach girl, someone that I find attractive not just on the inside but on the outside as well. I got a HB8 earlier back in February, I was truly happy.

Later on, I began suspecting that she really wasn't attracted to me. She put no effort into the relationship at all, and I pushed the problems to the breaking point not wanting to get played not only to realize that I already did get played. She confessed she never really took my seriously and that once her crush of 5 years said he was into her, she left me in a heartbeat with no remorse. I asked her what she found most unattractive about me and she said my race.

Looking back, I came so far...I got my first girlfriend who is attractive (HB8) and not like the 3/10s or 4/10s that tell me they're into me. I had my first kiss with her. I had sex with my girlfriend...the first time I had sex without having to pay for it. Only for her to end it by dumping me for another guy and telling me she didn't take me seriously because of my race.

By now you're probably wondering what ethnicity I am...I am Asian and I went out with a beautiful Caucasian woman. That was a huge accomplishment for me. I was never attracted to other Asians and even though there were some girls that wanted me who were of different race (Mexican, Caucasian etc...) none of them were hot until this girl. And then for her to tell me that we didn't work out because of my race makes me so angry and frustrated.

I feel so broken. I know starting out in PUA that people say "race doesn't matter", and for a while I believed that but hearing her say that puts things into perspective. I am depressed and frustrated...I really need someone to talk to and I feel that only the PUA community would truly understand me because none of my friends know about PUA and all my struggles to become the person I am today.

Don't listen to that bitch.

"I never took you seriously" Either she's one of the biggest bitches on Earth, or she's lying(might not even conciously lying... I'll explain)

Sometimes even girls don't know why did they lose attraction. They don't need to know it because they feel it. And that's pretty much all that matters to them. Chances are she'll never tell you the real reason because she doesn't even know. This "race" thing is just something with which she justifies her behaviour.

And now we're back to the first thing. She uses your race to justify the loss of attraction. But you were obviously asian when you two met so that means to her that she wasn't interested in the first place. See how all these things click? Things aren't always what they seem.

All you need to do right now, is clear your head. We've all been through this. The first break-up is always hard especially when it's so harsh like this one. Find something productive to do to get you busy. Take up a hobby, go work out, and go meet people. Go out with your friends, have fun, just do ANYTHING to convince yourself that you're all good without her. If you're having a good time without her, your mind will realise that you didn't need her at all. This forum has some very good and patient people who are all here to help dudes like you from all over the world. You're not alone, and if you need someone to talk to about things like this, you bet you've come to the best place. Up with that head, and go for it! It will get better, trust me.

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I just want to add that before all of this, I was just desperate for a relationship because I have never experienced one...and now that I have I wished I never did.

I don't think race was the problem. I'm Asian too, wasn't born in US, have accent, yet I have never been with an asian girl in my life. All the girls I have slept with were white or mixed and a few black. If anything, race gives me an advantage, it's so easy to impress them by go against the stereotypes and make them think twice. Of course, there are girls that straight up telling me they don't date asian. I moved on, there are things in life you can't control. Attraction is one of them.

Second, with internet nowadays, the culture barriers have been smashed. There are ton and ton of white girls that are obsessed and in love with asian cultures. I wouldn't stress over just one girl's opinion like your ex. The girls I have been with was ranging from 7s to 9s, I have never gone below that. Aim higher, they will give you shit test because of our race, but show them who's the boss

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