Hey guys, so I went to the gym and there was this SMOKIN' 9.5/10 Asian babe. When I entered the gym I saw her at a distance looking at me(probably because I'm Asian too). After I got changed and started working out I payed no attention to her and focused on my workouts. She'd ocassionally take glances at me, possibly to see if I'm beig a sleazebag and checking her out while she works out. But I made sure I didn't give her any attention and just continued with my workout.

So a few days ago I was in the gym and she was there again. Like last time I didn't give her much attention and focused on working out. It seems like she keeps on trying to get my attention. She's probably used to guys drooling over her and seems surprised that I'm not paying her much attention. When ever I'm in her line of sight she kept on glancing at me. When I walk past her I can see her from the corner of my eye looking at me aswell.

Anyway, I saw her move to a machine and she was probably working out there for 5 minutes. I had to go use a machine that would require me to walk past her, so I went to the machine and started using it. At this machine, she is out of my sight and I am out of her's. Literally 30 seconds after I get to the machine, she leaves her machine(even though she didn't even use it for that long!) and goes to the matt which is directly in front of me in my line of vision(probably 15 feet away from me) she works out there with her barbell, workin' that SEXY body of hers. I do my best to resist temptation and not check her out, but I can see her in the mirror ocassionally glancing at my direction again. It''s like she went out of her way to make me notice her. Unfortunately for me the piece of crap machine wasn't working properly so I had to move to another one that was out of her line of vision. I worked out there for a bit then decided it's time for me to head home. As I was leaving I had to walk past the girl working out by the mirror. She quickly looked at me and even turned and walked towards my direction a little bit then stopped. We made eye contact for the first time. I was a bit nervous and looked away quickly, the eye contact was only for a split second.

I should have approached her then and there but I'm a newbie and didn't know...

I need advice on how to approach this girl and game her! I'm still a newbie so I'm next expecting much out of this approach. I simply want to practise on her and get myself more experience and confidence. If it leads to something then FANTASTIC, if not then oh well.

She goes to the gym wearing perfect full makeup so she seems to be one of those girls that go to the gym to "be seen" and not one of those ones who only wanna work out.

This girl is seriously smoking HOT, perfect face and hot curvy body...its driving me crazy thinking about her dammnn..

ALL ADVICE is greatly appreciated, thanks! Peace.

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As you were leaving you should have:

-walked up to her and introduced yourself
-get her name, maybe fluff for like a minute
-tell her you've noticed her here before, maybe ask if shes from the area
-tell her you're looking for a workout partner to stay motivated and set up a workout date

The most important thing is to make this interaction really quick and nonchalant. You already had a time constraint (you were on your way out anyway). That whole interaction should prob take 10 minutes MAX.

I honestly think ignoring her the whole time was a great move since she was obviously interested. But at the end when you made eye contact and u looked away, that should have been the introduction.

Next time you see her, don't hesitate. And I mean as soon as you see her walk up to her and introduce yourself and go along w/ the above notes.

Good luck!

Fuck her brains out!!!!!

What i would do (and what i did with similar situation) is make eye contact look away and smile for 2 seconds than slowly remove the smile from your face .

Next time she comes near you she will start the conversation .

I asume you are nervous but dont be afraid to look in to her eyes .

And btw start doing sth because she will think that you are gay dude .

Sth? What does that mean?
Thanks for all the advice so far, next time i see her i wanna be bold and smile at her then chat to her. Unless it goes really well and shes gagging for me to number close her, i might not try and number close her yet. I might just end it with a "anyways i need to get back to my work, so ill see you around! My names ____ by the way " then shake her hand with a nice manly grip. The fact that i walked away from her will make me more attractive(the power of the walkaway) Then next time i see her in the gym ill chat to her again and number close her and ask if she wants grab a coffee.

What you guys think? Ill keep you guys updated on how it goes!

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Good luck . Btw (by the way) sth is sometihng.

Same thing happened to me im asian too

i just find it really awkward to game a girl whilst at gym

i feel like anything i say to her immediately gives her the impression im hiting on her regardless it being indirect.

Any gym openers would be great!

Soncheese x

Quota from rules of the game by Style :
"Women think this only when men approach them badly. This includes men who make them uncomfortable, creep them out, or seem to have an agenda. The biggest mistake a man can make with a woman is hitting on her before she's attracted to him."
I think this is a good piece of advise .

Good luck lm .

Hi guys. Just a quick update here.

I went to the gym a bit late today and she was already there.

I just didn't see any openings for me to approach her today...she had headphones on the whole time and seemed really into her workout. I got maybe 1 or 2 glances from her, but not as much as the previous day when she was giving me mad IOI's.

I just didn't feel like there were any opportunities for me to go in and make a move on her. Or maybe I'm just being an AFC? What advice would you guys give me if a girl is wearing headphones?

I'm so pissed I didn't take my golden chance when I had one the 2nd day I saw her. Ugh. To be honest I'm not really bothered if I crash and burn , I just want to experience approaching a girl and chatting her up. Doesn't matter if she rejects me, I'll just go to the gym at a different time to avoid her if I have to.

Here is my planned approach. PLEASE let me know what you guys think of it and how I can improve.

Me: (Walk towards her direction, catch her eye and give her a smile. If she returns a smile I'll approach her. If she doesn't, should I leave it??? what you think?)
Me: Hey, I've seen you around here a few times, what's your name?
HB: Hey, my names __insert name__
Me: __insert name__? cool. I'm gonna take a guess and say your......chinese??
HB: Yeah I am!/Um no I'm actually _____ (whatever she says)
Me: [Ill fluff a bit about the country shes from]
HB: So where are you from?(If she doesn't ask then I'll ask her "Where do you think I'm from?)
Me: I'll give you three guesses!
HB: [she tries to guess my country]
Me: [Shell probably get it wrong so I'll end up telling her]
Me: So how long have you been coming here for?
HB: (What ever she says)
Me: Hey listen I'll let you do your workout, nice speaking to you My name's _____ by the way (I shake her hand with a nice firm handshake), See you around!

What do you guys think of that? Please give me advice on how I could improve. I'm very much a newbie with 0 experience. All help is GREATLY APPRECIATED. Thankyou!

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Go up regardless. Dont let your thoughts put you off. Whats the worst that will happen?
The fluff after that is good.
Maybe ask what shes up to tonight?
Scrap the nice speaking to you, thats a kind of needy, however if thats you who are; a polite guy then do it. Personally i wouldnt.

Why not grab her number there and then?

Good luck with whatever happens mate,

Regards,

Boyo

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I'm not sure if I feel confident enough to number close her then and there...This is literally the first proper approach I'm ever gonna make, I'm like the king of AFC's. I was thinking that the next time I see her in the gym(I think she goes mondays and thursdays) I'll get chatting to her again and be like "Lets go grab a coffee sometime" if she agress I'll ask for her number. But I guess when I approach her if it seems to be going really well and she seems to be attracted to me I could just number close her then and there. Just depends how confident I feel. I don't wanna be a shaking mess when I try and number close her lol. It's happened to me before. A girl actually approached me and asked for my number, when I got my phone out my hands were literally shaking. I managed to calm down after a minute but it was the MOST HUMILIATING THING EVER! She didn't txt or call me after that..

anyways thnaks for the advice dude, will take it all on board. If anyone else has some advice it would be great!

My number one problem seems to be approach anxiety! I always worry about how to start speaking to her and what to say. I got my opener, but the going up to her and speaking to her part is what always scares me the most.

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I need help guys!

I'm not scared of rejection, but I'm just really bad at approaching people! It always ends up being awkward, I don't know why...I was ready to approach the HB9.5 I talked about in this thread, but I don't know how to just go up to her and get chatting to her without it feeling awkard and forced. I wanna make it feel natural if possible...It also doesn't help that this girl is always wearing damn headphones!!! I'm getting all these IOI's but the fact that shes wearing headphones makes my approach a lot harder!! If she didn't have headphones I could just say "Hey" to catch her attention. But since she won't be able to hear me I have to think of something else...Also, when I get nervous it's really hard for me to smile for some reason....

I've got work this weekend so at work I'm gonna practice by smiling at all of the customers I walk past and asking some if they need help with anything. Hopefully this will help me with my approaching skills. I really wanna get it done and over with and approach this girl on Monday before her interest dissapears!! She is so damn hot, she keeps teasing me with her sexy body like adjusting the strap on her tank top when she's within my line of vision. I wanna EAT HER OUT so bad!! I dunno if shes just cockteasing me or wants me to approach, I don't care, I just wanna approach her and find out.


HELP ME OUT GUYS! I'm so sick of being an AFC and letting opportunities like this pass. I'm not gonna pussy out this time!!!

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I'll help with you disarming the headphones, the rest I'll leave up to what's already been discussed it seems pretty good to me.

I would just make it look like going that way anyway as you walk past her, then over the shoulder do a double take, like you've just realised 'oh it's you' and mimic to her taking off your imaginary headphones / ear buds out while keeping eye contact (A small compliance test).

She'll probably do one of 3 things :-
(Don't take these as gospel, I'm just trying not to over think it too much)

*She'll not comply and would just ignore you (unlikely given what I've read)
*If she removes her headphones slightly (or one of her ear buds), she's probably invested in what she's doing so try disarm her.
*If she takes them off/out completely, she's probably interested in talking to you.

Just try timing this pass when she's resting inbetween her sets.

Then just ask her opinion on something, like the vest/shirt you're wearing literally anything to invoke her to giving a response.

Fluff talk and take it from there.

Hope this helps

That's awsome man thanks! I'm definitely gonna do the headphone thing, I'll walk towards her direction, do a double take, then take my headphones off to signal to her that I want to talk.

I dunno about using an opinion opener on her though. We've definitely noticed each other by now and I definitely think we're both aware of our mutual attraction(unless shes just cock teasing me) so it seems a bit silly of me to use an opinion opener at this point, I think going a bit more direct and acknowledging the fact that we've noticed each other would be best.
I was thinking of opening with this:

"Hey I see you all the time, what's your name? "

And then I've got a few things planned that I posted on this thread earlier:

HB: Hey, my names __insert name__
Me: __insert name__? cool. I'm gonna take a guess and say your......chinese??
HB: Yeah I am!/Um no I'm actually _____ (whatever she says)
Me: Ah right cool, we're you born there, or did you grow up here?(If it's a country I know something about I can come up with better fluff than this)
Me: Where do you think I'm from? I'll give you three guesses!
HB: [she tries to guess my country]
Me: [Shell probably get it wrong so I'll end up telling her]
Me: Hey listen I'll let you do your workout, nice speaking to you Smile My name's _____ by the way (I shake her hand with a nice firm handshake), See you around!


Do you think that's too many questions?? I estimate it will probably take 3 minutes, I wanna keep it fairly short, dunno if thats too short. Know a good canned routine I could use on her incase my mind goes blank? Something not too complicated or try hard.

Also, what's a good number close line I can say to her? I'm thinking "Let's go do something sometime, grab a coffee or something. Let me get your number."

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Yeah I understand what you're saying about the opinion opener, it might be better idea to just go for a slightly more direct approach.

The questions seem reasonable in your script but try using them sparingly as you seem to have got the fluff talk part nailed, so you know you need to expand on and relate yourself to her answers - Try to avoid asking more questions about her actual answer wherever possible.

If it's just a barrage of questions she'll feel like your interviewing her rather than talking to her, so in relating to her answers it will help decrease some of that tension and start building rapport.

If you feel all is going well but you can't judge if you should try close her or not, I'd try arranging a workout date together (you seem to go at the same times anyway), it would be a great chance for a bit of Kino, standing behind her in the full length mirror, helping her with her range of motion with some of those cute dumbbells women use.

If you ever see a new guy/girl on an induction with a trainer, observe especially if it's a female being taught, they lap that stuff up and it's so natural.

Also at my gym it has a healthy snack bar and tables there which is a quieter and more relaxed setting and it would be perfect for a seemingly natural bounce (a change in the surroundings) to grab a fruit smoothie or whatever, if you have anything similar at your place I'd certainly try using it to your advantage.

(you could also try the above at the end of the first interaction, saying you're gonna finish up doing your workout and suggest you should both hang out afterwards - It would be an insta-date)

The more different scenarios she's in with you, it will feel like she's known you longer than you actually have, its a great little piece to add.

Thanks brotha, I definitely need to work on my conversational skills and will remember all of that.

It's a little bit harder to fluff about her country if it turns out to be a country I don't know much about. For example I could say:

"I'm from Vietnam": You're from Vietnam? Ah right cool, I've been to that vietnamese bubble tea place around the corner, best bubble tea i've ever had (dunno if this sounds kinda lame, using food to relate to her lol)

"I'm hmong": You're hmong cool! I don't think I've ever met a hmong person before, nice to meet you "shakes hand

"I'm from Taiwan": You're from Taiwan? ah right cool, I've seen quite a few taiwanese films, really good stuff (I actually have, but I dunno if this is a bit too geeky or needy)

Those are some examples of how I would fluff about her country lol. Hopefully she turns out to be chinese so it's a lot easier for me to fluff about.

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