By picking up a girl, should I intend to get her as a girlfriend, or just to get sexy time on for one night, then move to another girl? Which is better? Pros/Cons?

up to you. what do you want from life? are you in a mindset where you want to have fun? or are you seeking for love and affection?
of course, be ready for all outcomes.. you might be sarging your future wife thinking she is a ONS, life is fortunately unpredictable.

when I was in the field picking up, some girls I knew would only work as ONS or at best short-term. others were more interesting long-term prospects. in the end, it all boiled down to two LTR candidates and a few girls I just saw once or twice before nexting or being nexted.
I was very open to all outcomes, and kept my options open till I had secured a full-time boyfriend position with my chosen LTR candidate.
for you it might work the same way, or you might decide that you want a steady date, and hence you would rule out ONS, or you might want girls who deliver ASAP since you dislike the idea of committing in this phase.

both have their pros and cons.

the many one-nighters can definitely be more exciting (a new girl every night, the rush of the sarge, the discovery of a new person's sexuality), but in the end you never go deep with any of the girls. you get lots of sex, but no affection.
the girlfriend should give you a lot in the affection department, and you are expected to invest emotionally in her, get to know her on a deep level, and be more than just her human dildo. of course, keeping the excitement there is going to require more work. you're not a new guy every night and neither is she a new girl every night. keep it fun!

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It's entirely a personal preference. If you're torn... why not try both? Easier to hook up a lot then get serious, than to get serious and then hook up a lot.

Meet girls, have sex with girls, and the choice will be made in a natural way since you will want to stick with "the one" any way.

There is also an option in the middle: friends with benefits. Basically that's what I've got goin now. I hang out with the girl, we do things together just like I would with any of my buddies. But we also fuck.

Regardless, at the end of the day I don't believe you should actively seek a woman to be your girlfriend. Just meet women, and if any grab your attention, you can think about it then.

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If you want to improve your pickup skill and inner game, one night stands.

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I had a date on Sunday with a girl that thought India was a country in Africa and when I said the last book I read was about spirituality she asked me if it was about ghosts. The thing is I was very attracted to her, she was very good looking. We had sex in her car and destroyed the car seat.

I havent replied to her texts and have no desire to ever see her again.

This is pretty much how its been since my last relationship. Im not exactly happy with it either. Loving someone is pretty intense. Its way more exciting than sleeping with random women you dont actually care about and have no desire to get to know deeply.

If I get a girl into bed on the first night I wont date her, which sadly is easier then you would think! actually I have a rule for my self that If a girl puts out within the first 3 dates I then I am only keeping her around as a FB.

My current gf and I didn't have sex for a month, I could have closed her after the first few dates, actually funny things is she was all over me on the 4th date, was ready to take my clothes off and I turned her down haha mostly because I really liked her and although it would have been nice to bang her I wanted to get to know her....its was actually disappointing! but she just passed my 3 date rule so I decided to keep getting to know her lol

Think about it this way, if it only takes you a few hours to have a girl spread her legs then how many other guys has she done this with? and how high is her self esteem?

This is an excellent example of the type of sexually judgmental attitude you should NOT adopt.

Your boy,
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so you work really hard to get a girl to sleep with you, but then you punish her for it?

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[quote="seagull_sfmv"][quote="dark one"]If I get a girl into bed on the first night I wont date her[/quote]

so you work really hard to get a girl to sleep with you, but then you punish her for it? [/quote]

What's wrong with that? It's like a shit test for the girl.

What do girls think about a guy whose talking about marriage and love the first date?

Same difference.

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It's a good shit test, but maybe it should be 2 dates.. dont want to hold urself back, and what if there isnt gonna be a date where you guys go at it?

The number of positive replies to dark one's ridiculous, sexually judgmental post is disheartening.

Surely you all realize the inherent hypocrisy in patronizing a forum dedicated primarily to increasing the speed and ease with which a guy can sleep with a girl while simultaneously disparaging girls for whom deciding to sleep with you is an easy choice. There is no rational justification for 'punishing' people who know what they want and aren't afraid to pursue it, which is precisely what you're doing by vilifying the ladies who want to grace your bed with their naked presence.

If I had to venture a guess, I'd say most people who adopt this philosophy do so out of a lack of confidence in themselves which prevents them from viewing themselves as worthy of sleeping with. Thus comes the thought that, "Hey, if she'll sleep with me this quick, she'll probably sleep with anybody!"

Do you really think you're on the same level as every other guy she's ever met? You don't consider yourselves in any way superior to those dudes? Really?

In my world, those guys don't even exist, because I know her experiences with me will dramatically outshine anything good about anyone who came before me. And if they don't? In that case, I'm glad this lucky girl was fortunate enough to experience two, or three, or a hundred great lovers in her lifetime.

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The right mindset should be my game is quite great that's why she sleeps with me on the first date. How many other AFCs out there that you think would know how to kino and escalate? And you know what, they all think like you, "if she sleeps with me on the first date, she must have done the same with all other guys", and they put sex off till weeks later.

Women are like hot irons. You hit them when they're hot. Period.

At least you won't have to kick yourself in the ass and wonder what could have happen later on. What important is what comes after the sex. If you treat her like a one night stand, she will be a one night stand. If you treat her like a gf potentials, she will be a gf.

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