You're going to need and entire mentality shift( I work on this with guys). You current mentality and ever the things you are writing are keeping you stuck in this same rut. You have to be more critical of what you say, because you're words are a directly reflection of who you are on the inside. You change you're words and you're thoughts change, hence the essence of who you are begins to change.

I can help you, I have worked with a good number of introverted guys who are now social butterfly. Email me EddieFews@wayoftheplayer.com

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I used to try to talk to random people, and speak more with people i know but i failed. Currently im doing nothing in this case.
Due to my character and inexperience i cant think of any possible one. Thats why im looking for help.
I never speak much so i will fail. In everyday life i dont think its problem, but i dont know how i can get a girl.
Im rather looking for method to get a girl than changing into very talkative person.

go out for a week and ask one girl a day for the time

next week go out and say hi to one girl a day for a week

next week go out and say, hi how are you to one girl a day for a week

eventually build your way up to saying hi how are you and having a conversation, try to come out of the conversation learning something about the other person, when things get boring try to make them interesting for yourself

when you are feeling comfortable with starting up chit chat, start to practice hitting on girls, just express your intent, show her that you like her and remain congruent

once you feel comfortable with speaking directly, just keep practicing, get girls home, make out with them, have fun with them

once this becomes relatively simple but not so refined, just look up some methods and see what little tweaks you can add to your game, field test them out and see if you like them

and always go out every day until you are satisfied with your results, you have to make it a habit and find discipline to do so, it gets much easier when you become comfortable with approaching, then you can find the enjoyment in it for yourself

qet: Seriously, you could learn sign language. If you don't talk much verbally, you can communicate with your hands. I use ASL quite a bit on a daily basis.

pumpington
I tried talking to people, but the thing is i never feel good when im talking too much and i dont like talking at all.

No chances to get girl without talking too much?

there is really no way around it, you have to at the very least go meet girls, you can search out a shy introverted girl and get along well barley talking to each other or just sharing each others company, but if you are looking for some magical spell to make lot of women magically just come to you and start moving things forward for you so you don't have to put any effort in, sadly this will never happen, you just have to go do the things you are not comfortable doing until they are comfortable, you don't really have to do anything you don't want to, but you know deep down if you don't take care of this, and you don't take action into changing your life, then as a result nothing will change in your life, if you are not that ''good'' at talking, then you can practise, social skills can be built, if you are introverted and socializing takes alot of energy away from you, then seek out those that you have chemistry, but even in this case you still have to put forth the effort to seek those people out

and yes, you can get girls without talking too much, there is a pua method written by 60 years of challenge that has alot of theory based around the whole premesis of talk less escalate more

how ever, confidence still has to be developed, things still have to be lead by you, you still have to make yourself vunrable, you still have to make the first moves and go for it, you still have to meet her, you still have to ask her out, you still have to kiss her, you still have to just go for it, you can't sit back and expect it to come to you

GOOD LUCK

i once slept with a south african girl shortly after moving into the neighbourhood. she was a neighbour. she liked to pleasure me whilst i read from the pages of a magazine.

being comfortable with talking definitely has its advantages.

Can pumpington, or anyone help me and tell what i should do?

Majority of face-to-face communication is non-verbal rather than verbal. This means that what you say conveys so much less meaning than what your body says. To get a girl, familiarize yourself with the non-verbal component, here: http://dataguru.org/love/strategy.asp

Starting from the Brief Abstract, go to paragraphs 5 and 6 in the link and internalize the body movements involved in the public phase of courtship. To internalize this non-verbal communication aspect of getting the girl:

• 1. Read paragraphs 5 and 6 at least 10 times.
  
  2. Write the entire sequence without looking at the link. After writing the entire sequence, check for accuracy. Repeat writing at least 10 times or until you get everything perfectly done.
  
  3. Next, go out to a public place and observe couples, especially strangers who are talking for the first time. Observe body movements that you've read about in paragraphs 5 and 6. Observe at least 10 couples. Familiarize yourself well with the body movements.
  
  4. Next, master saying these words with their corresponding purposes:
  
  • Hi. --> Opener
    Come. --> Invitation to date.
    Let's go. --> Bounce to the fuck close place.
    Take off your panties. --> Last minute resistance strategy.
  5. Master the eye fuck routine. Check out the scientific details, here: 2-vt136689.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=15
  
  6. Learn and master Warped Mindless' ESP Escalation Model, here: esp-model-of-escalation-vt97891.html
  
  7. Work out 30 minutes before you go out sarging and wear a red shirt.

You'll only need to say four sentences. If that is still too difficult for you, go back to my first recommendation on page 1 of this thread.

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Geez dude, there's 2 pages of guys here trying to give you what you are asking for. Just be honest with yourself now. You want a girl but you don't want to change. At least it seems like you don't want to change. Do you want to be able to talk to people? Because that is the only way that is going to happen.
My suggestion to you is:
Go find and meet with a therapist. Therapy can help you discover why you don't like talking to people.

Ive already observed people for some time and their movements are different, but i will have a look for more. As i suck in social things and im really bad at talking could you give examples of those lines so i could see what it should looks like?
Also i think i will need to say more than four sentences on this date. Am i right?
Sorry but its really hard for me i dont know how to properly talk to people.

Please do not abandon me and this thread, i really need help of someone like you.


@Pokee
Therapist wont help. School psychologist i used to talk to did nothing. Thats how i am. I want to be able to get girl without talking much. I know i need to say something but i dont even know what to do.

Have you ever read Sixty years of challenge's stuff?
There's much less talking involved and I personally really liked some of the things that were mentioned

EDIT: just realized that since I have a very low post count, some of you may think that I'm spamming, but I seriously am not... just a newbie trying to help

I'm talking about a professional therapist. You know, one that you have to pay for. There is a huge difference in the quality of therapy you will receive.

I dont have money and time for that. Also Im fine and i like myself. I dont like much talking. I prefer silence over it. I want to find a nice girl. I dont need to change.

Rule No. 1

• Information overload is bad for you. Act on the steps before you read anything more. If you don't go out to sarge, the information you got here are plain useless.

Rule No. 2

• Quote:
  Ive already observed people for some time and their movements are different, but i will have a look for more.
  If what you see doesn't fit the nonverbal patterns as described in the public phase of courtship, then you've just seen a guy getting blown off non-verbally.

Rule No. 3

• Quote:
  As i suck in social things and im really bad at talking could you give examples of those lines so i could see what it should looks like?
  Also i think i will need to say more than four sentences on this date. Am i right?
  Focus on just that four sentences. You'll have to communicate the rest non-verbally. You'll have to commit to us that you'll have to do your best in mastering the non-verbal component of the opener right down to the f-close.

Conclusion

• If in doubt, see Rule No. 1.

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