Hey, so weekend's been kinda crappy...

Invited a girl I know through friends to a party. We ended up sitting next to each other around a bonfire, talking to each other for about three hours. Made her laugh, everything felt just right. Once even asked her whether she'd be into me to which she replied: "why d'you think I'm sitting here?" Accompanied her to her car where I tried to kiss her Good-bye, which she vigorosly refused, telling me BS ("You're too old for me!" / I actually AM seven years older and she's just finished school). Kinda REALLY caught me off-balance.

Dunno what happened there.

Last Minute Resistance? She suddenly seemed really all serious about it... Still feels like a kick in my stomach. I just can't accept that that was it [yet]. Still thinking about what it'll be like when I run into her next time.

What's even worse... she has now officially "rejected" me, a situation you should never get yourself into...

She was definitely into you.

But three hours gives you plenty of time to both make her attracted to you and for you to screw up. No need to take that long on you right after she explicitly said she was into you.

Only explanation is that between the moment she said she was into you and you walked her to the car, you did something to change her mind.

7 years difference is nothing . . . Well, depending on what generation you are.

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Hey, thanks for replying...

It IS really strange... we were actually REALLY having a good time, there were no awkward moments, --- it was the perfect night until she just plainly refused me @ her car; - maybe I did too much at once? She even stayed with me after her friends had already left, ... it's like I'm cursed or something ???

1. How old are you?
2. Is she religious or different in any kind of way?

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I'm just 17, i'm not that old in this game, but one thing i know is how to avoid rejection. I first always look at her in the eyes, there you'll see what she really wants, there are some who look at you an look at your lips others look at you directly into the eyes. Try grapping her hands or her body and see if she responds too, thats another IOI. Just try to get closer to her and see, you need to have a strong control of the frame, if you see like she is going to reject you, just back off first and go with things like "whats wrong with you? i just like you as a friend" or "you're way more younger than me, i don't see you that way", she'll then feel guilty like if she ACTUALLY was going to kiss you, and you rejected her. There would be a point where you can go and kiss her. I'm very carefull in this part, and every time i do it i always get my kiss.

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Carlos Amaya

Thanks for your feedback...

I'm 27 (which makes her 20) and we're both neither extremely religious nor speeecial (I guess).

@ Carlos: doesn't matter that you're just 17, I guess you DID make a point there:

It's not good to delay the kiss until the very last moment, it should rather come naturally while you're both having a good time (could that be it?). I DID kiss her on her cheek twice though which she seemed to enjoy.


Anyways... what're your thoughts on following up on this after this pretty obvious rejection?

how did you kino escalate throughout the night??

Its possible that you did not escalate enough throughout the night. So once you went in for the kiss it thrown her off and made her resist.
think if it like this...

The pool is cold and you put her feet in the water to get her used to the temp before she got in.. but then you pushed her into the pool when she wasn't ready...
Lame analogy i know.. but i think you get the point.

Maybe you didn't do it fast enough so she thought you were not into her so she tried to find something to disqualify you as a potential suitor.

When you guys were sitting down, you should have been kino escalating or creating sexual tension by looking into her eyes etc.
At that age there's a lot of pressure from friends etc. maybe she just thought that kissing you wouldn't be worth all the gossiping that would ensue.

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Never mistake activity for achievement.

i think that's a great analogy.

compliment her more.

easy fix.

you need more qualification.