So the question is what should you do to refrain from getting hit on?



Two options:


A) Stay Home


B) Get a sex change



Yup, that about sums it up.

so it seems there's a consensus on what you're talking about.

you said you hang out with a lot of gay guys... always have a guy with you when you go out.. guys will approach but not as much. then again, most people don't go to bars and clubs to just make friends.
You can also not dress up as much all the time or you could gain weight too but i'd advise against that one. You can also tell guys you have a boyfriend too.. that's always a fun shit test

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Actually, some of us do have an idea... and do have a problem getting hit on to much at times (when my students bring me in to thier set to wing and as soon as I open my mouth the the targets shift all thier IOI's to me... thats a problem)

As for the long time guy friend who just never gets the point... I know some guys who have done this, and I know alot of women who have had to deal with it. It's a hard one because there are a few possibilities, but I've yet to see any that are truly efficient.

Pretty much you have 3 options as I see it:

Ignore the problem, and nothing will change. He'll just keep at it... likely until hell freezes over.

You could let hell freeze over and sleep with the guy... granted I think that would be a kin to someone like me sleeping with one of my sisters friends who's had a crush on me since we were all kids... might not be the best idea unless your ready for some serious clingyness.

Lastly if you want it to stop, you need to put your foot down and explain that. Let him know you are just friends and thats all you'll ever be, and that it makes you uncomfortable when he hits on you. And also that if he refuses to respect your feelings on this that you can no longer even be his friend.


So as you can see each way has a plus and a minus... risk vs. reward. This guy is likely what we call a "plower" he just keeps plowing ahead no matter what the resistance... some guys think this is the way to attract a woman. Honestly those are the only 3 ways I can come up with right now to change the situation. The choice of what to do is now up to you.

Well, first you have to realize you're dealing with a straight, logical, male mind.

He's smart enough to realize that if he never hits on you again, the odds of you hitting on him are like non-existent, because, in our species, the male is the chaser, the female is the chooser. Just the way it's always been. Using basic logic, he figures the only chance he'll have with you is if he hits on you and risks rejection.

The guy has stones, I'll give him that. Most men, after hitting on a woman and not getting anywhere turn tale and never do it again. Either this guy is doing the same thing to women everywhere, and probably getting laid a lot more often than most men, or he's really attracted to YOU.

What I can tell you is, whether he shows it or not, every time you reject him, somewhere deep down inside, he's feeling that rejection. It sucks. He probably isn't letting it show, but I can pretty much guarantee that feeling of rejection is getting to him. Eventually, he'll give up. Eventualy, he'll find someone else or decide he's had all of your rejection that he can handle in a lifetime.

Honestly, I'd encourage you to look at this guy and try to figure out what it is that repels you from him. He's obviously got stones and that's a good characteristic. I betcha a dollar the problem is, he's too nice or sweet or something like that.

Another thing I can tell you is, I don't know any straight men who have female friends who are truly friends. I'm 38 and I've never had a female friend. I've faked it, more so in work environments than anywhere else, but if she looks at all attractive, I'm sexually attracted and I'd rather fuck her than have a friend. Just speaking honestly. From my perspective, men and women have NOTHING in common. At least, not enough to truly be "just friends".

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Straight men and women can't "just be friends."

My proof?

http://www.laddertheory.com

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If thats the same ladder theory i read a few years back then its not only hilarious but true in some ways. Good entertaining read as i recall

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ROFLMAO!

Jen, I would say your best option is to put your foot down and make it clear to the guy(s) that you'll never cross that line with them and risk losing their friendship.

Jen,

Play on their fears and insecurities, and make them pity themselves for the fact that they cannot possibly hope to handle someone as gorgeous as you. You will never be hit on by any of your male friends again.

This requires subtlety and tact, and a touch of the Dark Side, but I believe you are completely capable of it

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Roads, can I start laughing now? Or should I wait till later? hehe

subtlety and tact . . . to tell the guys "You have no chance in hell with me".

ROFLMAO!

Now, Roads, understand I'm not laughing at you bro OR at what you said. I think it's hilarious can I see a girl doing that in my mind. It's a very funny image.

become one of those creatures who call themselves "Emo"s

Lol just saw this post Tripp. Would've been buried under all the replies and other threads were it not for the server wipe. Awesome.

Yeah man, I think we have the same sense of humor. The only difference between you and me? Threesomes and foursomes

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LOL. A little bit of smashing AA will solve that problem.