so i just recently moved out of my parents house and i have my own place. so you no what that means but anyway, today i was at a family bbq and my sister brought her friend over to the bbq.
but my question is, how do i send her a message on facebook? what should be my opener? should i say ''hey ''her name'' this is blah blahs brother, this might be weird but what do you think about exchanging numbers and maybe going out for a drink sometime?
we never really talked before but she does know who i am. i seen her checking me out''looking up and down at my outfit today when i walked in the door'' but idk.
i do want to hook up with her.
can you guys give me a step by step opener? after i get the number im fine after that, i just need help with the opener.
can you guys realy help me out and help me get the number.

edit: i would post pic if you guys let me

oh well here goes nothing, i just sent this,
hey, this is '''''s brother me. i know this might be a little weird of me asking you this, but what do you think about us exchanging numbers and getting to know each other a little better? i think your cute as hell.
what do you say?

did i dun goofed?

lol

going direct is bold, may pay off, may backfire. good luck

better to go bold than to ask thru my sister right? cuse that shows your weak.

Honestly, you seem so fucking attached to the outcome, I expect you to seriously crash and burn.

Good luck though! let us know how this works.

will update

by writing "this might be weird" you made it weird!

you should have simply written her, mentioned something from that day (bbq) and then after building comfort ask her for a drink..

Lol no you've got this all wrong. Your message to send to her made me cringe. You don't need to say who you are because she probably knows. You don't need to say "this is weird", because by saying that you make it awkward and weird. The saying goes "it's only as weird as you make it".

Add her, nothing wrong with doing that to someone you've met. Talk to her. Have a 5 minute banter and if it is flowing well create sort of banter to ask her out. Just be flirty.

Remember only use FB, texting etc with a goal in mind. This goal is to get her out with you. Don't have aimless and pointless conversations but at the same token you need a quick banter. You can't just blurt out "come out with me".

And dude seriously, asking her out for a drink? I think you need to read some more material.

1. She will not respond to your message at all - and most probably smack-talk about you with your sister.
2. She will politely turn you down by making excuses or directly saying she is not interested - and also smack-talking about you with your sister.
3. There is no 3.

Look, if you've barely talked to her at the bbq, and then directly asked her out over the internet (?) - you will only be portrayed as 'your sister's creepy brother'.

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You made a few mistakes its hard to say whether or not you can recover from this because you went out of order. You should of referenced something from the bbq that is witty and funny. You have to get the juices flowing before you make some moves.

wat? this is what i put
hey, this is xxx's brother me. i know this might be a little weird of me asking you this, but what do you think about us exchanging numbers and getting to know each other a little better?
i never asked her for a drink

wat? this is what i put
hey, this is xxx's brother me. i know this might be a little weird of me asking you this, but what do you think about us exchanging numbers and getting to know each other a little better?
i never asked her for a drink

damn she just sent me a reply on facebook , and im affraid to open it, what do i do!!!!!!!!!!!!

and i lost lol
here is what she wrote.
Hi [:)] no it's not weird at all but I'm kinda seeing someone at the moment but ya we can still talk and be friends if u want

i put its all good...