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You seem to be a leader of the forum Jerupa.
I don't expect to see you on this thread for very long because i'm about to flame you. But since i also believe you didn't quite get it, i'm going to make a crystal clear summary of my point somewhere tomorrow.
I am no leader here, just here to learn and study if you will now, But feel free to flame me I can take the heat.

Tho I didn't meant to dig you or anything. But I am glad you going to make things clear as I was going on what your pro cheating essay projected.
How old are you?
28
Wat is your experience in LTR?
Can't say I been in many tho not to say I dealt with other people's LTR's.
Would you consider yourself psychologically monogamous or physically monogamous?
Both.
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You see i have all the reasons to believe you haven't got the slightest bit of experience in life. And instead of debating me you should be glad you encountered me. I write this post for people that are willing to think out of the box and improve theirselfs and the lifes of their partners. Read what DJ_Z wrote. He talks about relativism. That is something like being able to detach yourself from groopthink and grow a mind of your own. But after reading your post i'm so disappointed that i might have to consider you a lost case.
So because I don't agree with your thinking I must not have the slightest experience of life or think out side the box? You don't know what sort of life I have lived nor what I have done. I am not going to post my life bio here, but least to say I do think outside the box. I just don't subscribe to your outside of the box thinking when it comes to cheating.
What is your solution?
Um be honest with what ever girl you date or get in a relationship with. And if you DO have a kid with your girlfriend and/or the girl you slept with do your part and help raise the kid.
Read better my friend, i don't cheat around. I have no relationship where i'm dishonest.
Wasn't trying to imply that, but from your "essay" you try and make it that it is okay to cheat on whom ever you are with.
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And this is were you get personal. You tell me i have zero interest in an open relationship because i get more of a thrill from cheating than anything else. Dude let me give you some advice. If you seem to know what i think stop reacting to me and start posting for me
You think this is me
- I get a thrill from lying and being dishones to my girlfriend
- I love violating the rules i've set up in my relationship
- I like to give a false identity of who i am to the person i love most
SINCE I GAVE YOU 0,0 NO REASON TO THINK ABOUT ME LIKE THIS I NOW HAVE ALL THE REASONS TO BELIEVE THIS IS YOU. So for all you childish unexperienced posters out here. Let me save you from dishonesty and pain by telling you this story.
You gave me this sort of impression from your "essay" on your pro cheating stance. You show zero interest in getting into an open relationship in it, yet very much promote one to cheat, even going as far as to post steps to hide it. Better yet you don't post any cons of cheating don't even acknowledge any of the cons of it other than society saying it is wrong. Read your uh essay again, I know you said you are going to make a full out one, but going on the one you posted do I have any reason to think different of you? Yes you did say you tried an open relationship but it failed but you showed way more interest in cheating than open relationship.
If you feel so strongly that guys should sleep around then shouldn't you be one that is promoting open relationships then and not cheating? It is FAR MORE HEALTHIER than a relationship of cheating. It is your choice if you want to cheat. But don't try and justify it as you will lose that battle. Just own up to your behavior and let others know that it is who you are. Hopefully you think more about cheating not so that you will stop as well I don't expect you to, but more how you go about things. Maybe instead of getting into relationships you sleep around or go friends with benefits or open relationships. All of which are healthier than cheating.
As far as your story goes, sounds like you got into a relationship that got toxic and it became a drug for you. I had and ex-friend who had a similar story as you actually and he had kids with her even. End result was far from pretty to say the least, I can tell you for him at least he ended up getting hooked on weed and pretty much drinks and smokes all the time now and he is now married to another girl. One of the reasons why the divorce rate is so high is people don't get into healthy relationships, this is one of the reasons why I been in so few LTR's as I care to much about being in a healthy relationship than an unhealthy or toxic one.