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How many PUA's have gone "heavy kino" with girls who didn't want it? How often has persistence strayed into the territory of something more sinister?
Well I tend to pick up with the philosophy of:
No battle plan survives contact with the enemy, which is really REALLY true. The real world is always full of surprises.
Kino for instance is not always appropriate and, sometimes other escalations are better. You have to gauge her personality and situation to see which one is best. Like, I was attracted to this nerdy chick (I have a thing for them) at a programming conference I went to, and there wasn't a lot of heavy Kino I could do in front of the crowd that was there. Doing so there would've made her personally & professionally uncomfortable, and definitely cast me as a creep in front of her and a bunch of other professionals. Instead I escalated by inviting her to play a few deathmatches on a fast-paced mobile game that relied on fast skill with her on the couch at her booth. It was fun and we laughed, traded barbs, and got into each other. It worked purrrfectly to get her to come out later that night where I could seal the deal. And what's nice is we're still friends, and help each other out with our business goals now and then.
The problem with some PUAs and definitely PUA students is that they tend to rely more on mechanical usage of techniques or dogmatic adherence to PUA ideologies (especially douchebag ideologies) than they do on sizing up the situation correctly and adapting. That's quite obviously dumb because real life is always full of surprises and never conforms to anybody's ideology or strategy all the time, so you have to be verrrrrrry flexible.
Tools are what they are, tools. There is no "guaranteed method" for everything like a lot of PUAs selling shit want you to believe. They say that crap to sell dudes the crap they're selling. A guy's personality is at the core of his PUA skill and the tools are used when they fit the situation.
And as far as attitude, I think this community can sometimes have a lack of free thought. There's a lot of PUA teachers & PUA peers saying that you need to act a specific way or do a specific thing to get women, and that you should think about or treat women in very specific ways. Fucking nonsense, use the skills to enrich your life and keep living it according to what you think is right.
Like I always treat my closes with very high respect, get to really know them, and try to become their friends. Some of these girls have become my really close friends and I can rely on them (as they can on me) to be there & help. And the ones I've closed in the professional circle have definitely opened doors for me in various organizations I wanted to sell to.
I think those of us who are nice prove that nice guys can fuck all they want too!