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The most important part of sex, is the most important part of any relationship... communication. You must be able to communicate your desires, emotions, sensations... through your body language, as well as verbally if needed.
If a woman decides that she is going to fake it, insted of communicating then she is a fool. Everyone is a little different sexually, and you must communicate who you are to your partner in order to have even good sex, let alone great sex.
Doc, I couldn't agree more. Communication is a HUGE factor in having great sex. I've said it before and I'll say it again: If I'm with a girl and the clothes have come off, I'm pretty damn sure I'm going to get off. So that's not a huge concern of mine. I'm there to have fun, and make sure she's having a good time too. You've got to be able to tailor each experience to the desires of the person you're with.
Of course I've had a couple of one night stands, but it's so much more rewarding, and the sex is always more fun when you start to get to know the person better and can really trust them with what you like and don't like. And vice versa. That's why I prefer relationships, whether they be short or long, you build that trust and comfort to be able to communicate freely. Communication is something I really encourage with the girls I get naked with.
Not to say that you can't communicate with an ONS, but like I've said, it just feels more rewarding and fun when you've got the ability to go at it more than once or twice so you really get to know the other person.
Now as far as sex outside goes, and the girl dreaming of a nice warm bed with no twigs up her ass... Well... any and all sex I've had outside of the bedroom hasn't really been initiated by me. Again I think you're making a generalization about women based on your own likes and dislikes. And like it's been said before, the sex I've had, the majority (i'd say 90%) has been in the bedroom.
Concerning oral sex vs. fingers: It's taken me a lot of practice to get good with my fingers, but when it's good you can tell through a ton of different factors. Body language being the big one, the things she says and noises she makes and whatnot to a lesser extent, but you get the idea. Oral sex is something, i think unlike most guys, that I like to give. Because it's easy to get a girl off before even going in to seal the deal. Plus, it's alot easier to get head in return for your willingness to go down on a girl with your tongue

haha. Hours of oral is way too long. If you can't get the job done in under 15 minutes then I think you should change up your technique, or find another way to please her. Maybe you are doing a stellar job, but perhaps there's just a twig up her ass. Make sure she removes it, factors that take comfort away from the experience can be a bitch and really fuck with her mood.
I try not to trust what a chick says afterward because if you haven't been paying attention to the other signals(body language and etc) then it could just be something to stroke your ego as man. Which is nice, but I always find more satisfaction with the job that I've done when a gal collapses on the bed and takes 10 minutes just to catch her breath after a good O(with some great EC and a smile plastered on her face of course!). haha.
Overall, glad to read some of your advice. This thread, I think, can be really beneficial to the guys who are clueless that stumble upon it. You said you could elaborate for hours. Go ahead!