ok so ive been talking to this girl over text for a little while now and longer than i want, im reconnecting with this girl after like 3 months not seeing eachother and she kept my number so i think we already built a good connection for todays situation, but, here is my problem we started texting and i started turning things sexual and it was going good for a little bit but, i got bored texting and i let the heat die down. i arranged a date, she said yes and flaked but asked for another meet-up. later i said to tag along with me and friends at a bbq but she wanted a more personal date, so i said we will later then. she texts me the next day saying how was the party, at this point i want to know how to turn this into a date because i feel we are texting to much and we might head into friend zone. oh i tried calling her but she doesnt pick up. what do i do from here. thank you.

Facts:
1) You had her going with your text-game for a little while.
2) You've never actually gone on a date.
3) She asks about your day and initiates contact.

You're right, you ARE texting her too much. The fact that you "let it die down" means you could have just said, something like, "I've got a few errands to run, but I will talk to you later. ;)" or whatever. Just imply that you're busy and don't have all the time in the world to be texting her. You can't fuck her through the phone.

You've never had the chance to build any real attraction or build sexual tension because you've not met up in person. This sucks. Have something planned that you would normally do (that she also enjoys) and invite her along. If she declines, then go anyway and when she asks how it was, have an amazing story to tell her because let's face it, you're awesome and had a GREAT time with or without her.

If you are concerned that you're contacting her too much, then FIND ANOTHER GIRL. I don't mean that you should write this one off, but you SHOULD find some other interest to preoccupy you. The new girl may actually turn out to be less of a preoccupation and more of a main occupation. You never know. But seriously, that's how I operate because I have a lot of trouble focusing on one girl at a time and still keeping my cool. You've gotta juggle your options unless you're dating someone in an exclusive relationship (in which case, you may still choose to juggle women, but that's your option).

well we have met in person but like i said a few months ago, i have other girls to text thats why im getting bored with this one on this situation but i remember in real life she is quite a bit of fun so i would like to turn this into a meet up, i like your advice "The fact that you "let it die down" means you could have just said, something like, "I've got a few errands to run, but I will talk to you later. " or whatever. Just imply that you're busy and don't have all the time in the world to be texting her. You can't fuck her through the phone." but how do i turn this text sexual again to keep us from going into friend zone or is there any other advice on just getting the date and not texting anymore, thanks
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In my opinion dude, I think it's ultimatum time. Be up front and tell her you aren't cool with just being text-buddies, perhaps word it differently, but make the point clear that either the 2 of you hang out - soon - otherwise it isn't worth your time just fluff texting all the time.

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[/quote] Just be forward. She's either going to say "yes" or "no," so just get the message out there that you want to have sex with her. If she's says yes, it's on. If she says no, you're in the same place as if you'd never said anything at all. Obviously, take Musterion's advice and word it differently, but you get what we're saying here.

You "What's up? Doing anything tonight?"
Her "We could [blah blah blah]"
You "Or you could come over and watch [some movie you know you both like]...you know where this is going, right? ;)"

ok sounds good, should i get the convo rolling a bit or just text her that, thanks

You should just straight up ask her and don't make it a huge thing. Just you wanted to go check out this restaurant and ask her if she wants to roll with? Then escalate hard in person.

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Direct, confident, assertive, etc.

If you are doing those things, you're doing it right. Those butterflies you got in your stomach in elementary school are the same ones you're getting now. The only difference is that instead of blushing and running to the opposite side of the playground with a shit-eating grin on your face, you now have the capacity to suck it up and just talk to her from man to woman.
Just make sure you're communicating your person when you decide what you're going to do. It's easier to escalate in person, as hawk alludes to, so it's advisable to save the "smalltalk" when texting and just get to the point.

ok thanks for the advice everyone, so here is what happened.

(this is what i said)

me: hay (name of girl), as you could tell im attracted to you, for several reasons. im a nice guy and i dont like mind games, i dont want to have a text relationship, i want to meet up with you and have alot of fun, thats what im about. if you like fun to, then give me a call and well meet up tonight and have a real good time .

her: hi, sorry for late reply. i was busy whole day! im sorry but i need to tell you that it's hard for me to hang out in my family so, i am sorry! cuz im asian girl so i hope you understand! and its near finals, so.....( i would like to hang out with you though!

me: yah thats fine i understand, i just wanted to be clear of where we were, hows your classes going?

her: ok. im clear! sorry i was in bible study!

me: stoped texting
soooo at this point i think im maintaining intrest, but where should i go from here, and how would you guys read this text situation is there intrest based off what ive told you. once i can get a meet up i feel then the ball will finally be in my court and i can shine but the problem is getting there

once again thanks i think this post just really uped my phone game