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She will now see if I stick with my word and he reckons no contact at all.She has to contact me, even if it's 3 months from now. Otherwise I could run into her somewhere but it has to be accidental and then she has to feel like I'm totally over her for her to see me in a new light.
I know this much about the game and that anything that isn't congruent/honest/authentic, etc but i like the word congruent will come through in your body language regardless if you're aware of it or not. That being said, think how having that mindset that I quoted is still putting her on a pedestal and how "she has to feel i'm totally over her" is only saying "i STILL need her validating me". The only way and I'm sure anyone will tell you this is to take her out of the picture completely and stop envisioning to two of you together ever again. I mean if the image that you WANT to portray is that you're over her, then there is no logical way to be over her, if you keep considering her in your life or future if you get me? This will probably make you sad that this is the way it has to be, but imagine say for 3 months you are "building yourself up" but you KNOW in your own head that you may be doing this for yourself, you're also doing it for her because you are still projecting a future together, THEN if/when you finally meet up, you're going to be seeking her validation with the image of "she has to see that i'm over her now" and if she has any woman sense will see right through and realize you're just posturing and we all know being fake alpha(insecure) is very unattractive.