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Hey man, sort of depends what your goals are and what you consider an efficent means to achieving those goals,
you have to figure out what you want, and take action towards getting it
I live in a large city, and the amount of people out at a bar or club depends on the venue, biggest club in my city will probably have about 500+ people on friday-saturday night, while the pub near my house probably will only have about 15-20 on a friday-saturday
when I go out at night to a nightclub I usually don't even think about this shit, sometimes I'll actually just be going out to drink with my friends and not really thinking about getting girls at all, but just go socialize for fun because you might as well just go to a bar if you are not going to meet people or dance (cheaper + better atomsphere to just relax and talk)
but if getting a girl is the goal then there are some things that are somewhat important to keep track of, when socializing with girls, try to keep mental note of who is friendly, and who invests back into attempting to have a conversation with you, as well as who you find interesting to talk to, don't stay too long or anything, just meet alot of people and have fun, then once you have broken some ice with alot of people, you can return to sets you liked and start hitting on the girls, or return to talking about something that interested you with the guys in set, usually if the night is good and you are having fun you can get some phone numbers and some make outs, and maybe even a few drunk guys will just randomly buy you drinks
can't really tell you how to act or anything, be cool and fun to be around is pretty vague and it is just about as useful to say this as.. JUST BE YOURSELF
but that is pretty much what it breaks down to, be confident and have fun, don't turn this into a serious live or die situation, just hit on the girls you like, if you want to go home with one, then open as many sets as it takes and handle the obsticles (logistics etc.) 1st, you have to know relatively quickly if the girl is available or not quickly if you are after a one night stand so you can move onto other girls if they are not, and obviously you are going to want to ask them home, if you have not realized that allready (I know that sounds obvious, but some guys think they are going to neg a girl into asking them... doesn't work like that)
anyways, lead and test compliance, have fun
talk about few topics that interests you (if it is interesting to you, you can make it interesting to others), if others don't find it interesting, then obviously you wouldn't have much in common/much chemistry with that person, and might as well just get to the point and tell them what you are after, or move onto a different girl that you have more to connect on
not really any magical sequences or anything, just time and doing it a whole bunch and you can usually tell through body language and interactions the girls that like you and the ones that don't (obvious things like approach invites, big ioi's, girls approaching you, and girls re-approaching you after you break the ice), and if you know she likes you after that it is just about cracking her open socially and connecting as well as figuring out where her comfort level is (while lowering asd) as well as figuring out her availability
GOOD LUCK
Not sure why you are wishing me good luck, but I'll put you down as a large city, goes out at night and "doesn't keep track".
There's plenty in that post though so thanks for writing it regardless!