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Well what you and your girlfriend have is not real love - psychologically speaking. In Robert J. Sternbergs 'Love Theory' he said a real love relationship is comprised of 3 basic factors such as: Intimacy (Conversation, discussing secrets), Attraction (Physical Attraction, desire for that person) and finally Commitment; that is, the relationship is solely between two people. If you take 1 out of these 3 factors away, not only are you left with non-love, but with a stereotypical relationship. When you have Attraction and intimacy but no commitment it basically say's, "Hey I like you, you like me, but thats as far as it goes; we talk but I only like you for your looks and I still desire other people." So from the very start it's fallacious. It's your life, do what you want, but you should think things over. Enjoy ur day.
- Pink
Yeah well... I don't try defining love. I know that I feel good with my girlfriend, and I know she does too. She's not my wife, I'm not planning on a family any time soon. Also, by this definition, a threesome with my girlfriend would instantly mean it's not love since a third person was involved, and that's not something I agree with. I like sexual diversity. And I know that so does she. I never act like my girlfriend is my property, and in return usually I get the same. I'm not trying to prove you wrong, I'm just saying I have different opinion on what is love, than the writer you were quoting.
If I'd really like to get into details, taking into account I do biological studies, love is hardly anything but biochemistry, sparkled with the human emotional intelligence level.
Btw... I have something that really bothers me in your argument, and that's looks. I banged way better looking women than my current girlfriend. I believe if two people are happy in any kind of relationship as it is, then it is not necessary to try thinking over it. Since our life is not endless, in my opinion the whole purpose of it is to be happy, not seeking ever-purity or something like that.