I want to get a gf, and not pick up random girls on the street. I go to college now, and what is the best way to find a girlfriend here? Maybe, later in my life, I will try picking up girls at stores or malls. But for now, I just want a gf. How to start with that, since all I see is just Pick up techniques, to get laid with girls, with no relationship thoughts.

Hooking up and dating involve the same thing. You just dont' like the advice because you don't want to put in the work, so you put it all into a sphere of "just trying to get laid" to convince yourself you won't have to follow it. You treat women the same in either scenario, you just stop yourself from fucking in one.

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These hos ain't loyal

No, no you are getting me wrong here. I am doing my best to do all the work. I am reading books on being an alpha male, picking up guides, but to me they look more like random hookups. If you say that these work, then i will go with you.

Stop doing all that reading about pickup, you only need 4 steps (Sinns method for GF)

1-figure out what kind of girl you want, I'm talking about beyoung looks. What kind of quality, what you dont want.
EX: she have to be ambitious, love kids, adventures, patients, not overjelous. Can play music...

You cant just want have a gf to just have a gf, because that the same thing as pickup random girl. That the hard part of it. When you start pickup at an young age, you just want to have a relationship because you are lonely which is a very big mistake.

2-Once you know the girls around your social circle, start to use those qualifications you just write down. You gonna see who is actually girlfriend material who are just not. And by qualifying them you actually build very solid attraction.

3-Start to show interest in them once you done qualification. Usually this is a mutual attraction so you are actually really amazed by them, not some fake routine that gonna give you love. now you made connect.

4-After you know much better these girls, ask them out for dates, you gonna know that if they are really what you like, test them, bring them to places with children if you had that qualify, bring them on a totally random adventure, if they said they are adventurious.

And most importantly, you have choices dont focus on THE ONE. women are something commun, yes some of them can be amazing but there is more then one. Always keep your options open, Start to also work on your self.

EX: what you really passion about, what kind of life you want. what relationship you want to have your family, friends. need to workout maybe?

Being a PUA is not just about tactic, that barely the 10% of all what the game is about, you have to have the lifestyle of a real player.

To pickup 10s, you have to be a 10 yourself. Stop reading, start to life.

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Yeah, there are probably better communities to hang out with if you want to learn more about forming and maintaining long-term relationships. have you tried to google around?
Seconding this like all hell. If you feel peer-pressured or are desperate for a relationship, you may take whatever relationship opportunity that presents itself and end up with a woman you're not really compatible with and that will start all kinds of shit.

It's important to have standards and stand up for what YOU want. There's no shame in being single while browsing around for someone you like.

Why do you want a relationship?

Basically PU can help you build the life you want to have. If you choose to go for only sex or to go for a long term relationship, thats all up to you. I can say that PU skills have certainly not been in the way of a LTR!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

do you know what the difference between a potential girlfriend, and a random girl is? a bit of talking and getting to know each other, that is all, any girl you meet at one time was just a ''random girl on the street''

It is fairly safe to say that most of the girls you sleep with, will be open to having a relationship with you if you continue to see them, eventually you will just get asked out so she can keep you around for the sex and not lose you


the easiest way to get a girlfriend in my opinion, is to find out what you enjoy in your life and pursue it, chase after your goals and find motivation from within to do so, nothing you ever get or achieve will make you happy for anything longer then a moment, you have to find happiness from within, if there are things you don't like about your life or yourself, you should correct them and form good habbits, if you have never been able to get girls in your life then the main question is how motivated have you been to reach your goal?, how many girls have you talked to?, were they aware you were trying to get with them?

just know you should be careful what you wish for, if you are lonely or depressed and you think having a girlfriend will somehow make you happy, realize it won't fill that needy void, only you can fill that void, and the easiest way to do that is improving yourself and your life so you can be a person that you love and respect, you will project how you feel onto others, once you can accept yourself and feel fufilled you can start giving rather then feeling empty and trying to fill that emptyness with something from other people

GOOD LUCK

My only recommendation is to be natural. If you're in college you should be getting laid like it's nothing. Learn PUA concepts but internalize them, you shouldn't have to think about things.

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Hobbit: bph is a cool guy, eh talks about PUA and sex and stuff

If you want help with relationships, PM me and I'll give you my SPAM. I've learned a lot about relationship management, and I can help you out.

PUA won't work for getting girlfriends. It'll work for one night stands with low quality girls. You want a girlfriend, so I'm assuming you have high standards for girlfriends. The girls you want won't react well to PUA.

PM me if you want help.

This is a lot of BS. Pardon my french.

The rules of the game apply to everybody because in the end, they are all just ways of understanding human interaction. A GF can be found anywhere and everywhere. The world isnt divided into GFs and non-GFs. It is more complicated than that. Everybody is potentially someones GF.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

OK, yansaccnt, I'm not trying to attack you personally here, but I do need to make a point...

Whay are so many people pre-conditioned to think that the 'game' is a bad thing?

The skills of 'the game' help your confidence, your ability to talk with women, your style, your wit, your demeanor, your conversation skills, your mannerisms...

NOTHING about that is bad. Every trait, on the surface - hold merit.

The game is what YOU make it.

If you want to meet the girl of your dreams, the Game will get you past yourself to do that. If you want to meet that one and stick with it - great! But don't tear down the PUA community based on an ignorant position.

Hard fact is this: the VAST majority of women that are one person's GF, were the random girls a PUA fucked before you entered the scene. Never put a girl on a pedestal - there's only one way her image can go from there... DOWN.

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

PM this cat if you want to live in mediocrity.

Low quality girls? Maybe it's your game that has the quality issues....

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

You'll need to get the girl first before you can build a relationship. I'm sarging college girls that work part time at stores or hang out in malls. What makes your situation different from mine, hmm?

And how can you START a good relationship if you're not skilled enough in building rapport? How can you KEEP a relationship if you cannot manage the hormonal surges that happen inside a woman? How can you BEGIN a conversation with your target woman if you don't know how to approach her and give her fun?

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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High quality girls are attracted to high quality men or much accurately, high quality men can easily attract high quality women.
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Only take advice from people who know what they're doing. It will save you a lot of time, effort and money.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

Your choice, take my advice or don't.