Ive been surfing this forum for a little while now , and decided to sign up because i have a coupl questions of my own

Ive been reading allot of things like , keep it to a minimum and game her irl etc etc.
Does this apply to all cases? I mean , ive had 2 girls i hooked up with i chatted long on FB or whatever and then got on with them and now i met a girl i really liked, not only to game her but just to hang out with her. ive met this girl on a party , i do (salsa) dancing and after we danced she started a convo with me and we sticked talking till the end of the evening. I eventually asked her number, she doubted and gave me her FB. I dont really know why she rejected it because she seemed interested, i might have had insecure tonality in my voice because it was kinda a drum roll moment. But for the rest of the convo i was social , confident, and escalated Im pretty sure weve build a connection. Anyway i was not really into that as i tought she was only being nice (she still could be) But the morning after she added me instead of me her. She'd have to look up to find me on fb as i only gave my first name. Anyway started to chat and seems wer going to the same party in 2 weeks. I have problems with IOI's and IOD's as i get confused by these signals. for expample She doesnt give me her number but does add me on FB and asks if i go to this party

Long story short , ive been chatting this girl now for 2 days about our interests etc. Why would this be bad for my game?

Thanks in advance

sometimes girls are just confused themselves.
I bet you could have gotten her number too, because you could have said "i appreciate a live conversation more, it feels more real" or something similar.

anyhoo, you didn't lose anything yet, this will be bad if you won't keep it up and date her again using your communication channel which is FB...

yea this bitch sounds confusing, talk about mixed signals haha

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What we're going for here is showing that you're actually interested in her. If you stay on texting / chatting and don't advance, she'll get the idea that you don't like her. And if she gets that idea, she'll move on. Keep advancing as much as you want; if you want to go out with her, go out with her.

Yeah, it sounds like your doing well, but definitely ask her out. Unfortunatley, this whole txting, chatting thing is what the "norm" is now. I had a miscommunication for a date with a woman who was digging me (around my age, which is late 30s) and she thought I blew her off because she didn't see an email or txt from me. I actually did the genlemanlly thing and called, got her VM but left a msg...she didn;t think to look.

Sometimes it just easier to talk that way...I have a friend in a different town and that's how we communicate mostly..but you definitely want to get her out. The guys gave you some good advice, about saying live is more real and its more fun...unless there's a distance issue, there's no reason you guys meet some where to even chat...

I think the txt thing can be a little advantageous becuase you can think for some time how you're going to respond....but if you screw up...yeah, well, I guess it's in writing...

Thanks for the responds guys. Ive been chatting or more like texting cuz theres like 2-6 hours in between our responds. I like to chat with her playfully mocking and she seems to give signals of interest like ending with Greets! to xXx asking questions back etc.

Dont know what i want to do yet , ask her out before party or meet her there in 1,5 week.The thing is if she does not want to go out with me ill get awkward shit on the party. My care level is just too high with girls i like because theres just so few i am genuinly interested in out and inside.
Maybe its a idea to ask for her telephone number for SPAM or something first again? Be upfront with it like ; Hey im still figuring out why you didnt give me your number there cuz im pretty certain we have a connection here and being forced to facebook all the time isnt my thing

This relates to my total game i seem to attach to people fast if i like them , result is
i over analyze etc and just care too much in general. I should set myself in a other mind state i guesse

Bro its not that txting and facebooking is bad, but you have to do it moderately. You need her wanting more, leave her on the edge of her seat "so to speak."

Stop looking for IOI and IOD this is something you learn in PUA that is so stupid and not necessary. If she is talking to you then you have all the IOI's you need. Seriously a girl who is just not interested will leave.

If you can hear in her voice she is pissed and wants to go away, or is not returning eye contact, but not because she is shy, like she looks down and then tries to look back up, but is seriously looking for someone to save her, than YOU ARE FINE and have ALL THE IOI YOU NEED!!!

So all in all, keep texting cute and short. Don't over do it, you want her to feel like she wants more of you. I guarantee if you stop texting her today, she will text you back in like 3-5 days. (that not 100% things happen, but its like 80%)

If you want to make her a bit jealous, bring a girl to the party simply as a friend, and introduce this girl to people, she will thinking shes your GF, than you go up to her when you see her later in the party (not right away) and start talking she will ask who is that chick, you say a good friend from XXXX I just wanted to show her around, she wanted to meet new people blah blah blah! Than ask.... "don't tell me you were jealous" and smile/smirk. This is your chance to immediately grab her and escalate. She is now yours!

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Yeah i realise this and you couldnt be more right. Just that's hard for myself not to answer her Very good tip , my plan is to not answer her on her next reply and leave her for 3-5 days as you say. When she does reply me with something like why wont you answer i will answer with something like If you want me to reply faster ive asked you before you should give me your number. I hope this works cuz she's a pretty HB and it would be a waste elsewise. if she doesnt take any intiateve i like answer her again and we'll just meet on the party


Further on i will stop looking for ioi's etc you are right its total nonsence and i will try force myself stop caring/thinking about it.
Funny as you said about taking somoene , actually when i met her i was with a pretty HB myself and she asked who that was

I am glad you are realizing, but one HUGE mistake you said is if she asks why aren't you texting.

First if she says that, you are in, she is invested in you and wants more of your attention, but don't reply the way you did. Just say you have been really busy with work and family over the past week and can't wait to relax at this party, and that she better keep you entertained or your head will explode.

At this point you can even get sexual and just "push the envelope" when she starts replying less enthused that's your limit, than return to a normal mundane convo and then slowly end it. Remember you are a busy person!

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-Raphael

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Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html