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Ok! people seems forget that you are going out to have fun. You are going to clubs and bars because you actually enjoy meeting new awsome people. You are not out, because " you have to close this HB or that hottie" You are out because you enjoy the music, dancing with girls or just having fun socializing with strangers. IF you are going out 3 times every nights just for sarging and you dont even like the places you go. Stop going to club for pickup, start to pickup in the daytime!
Yes, drinking is allow, but you are not suppose use it as a way to get BALLS. Look at your grand fathers or their fathers, they went to wars, build towns and cities out of nothing and make our country rich. Look at men throughout history. Look at the great inventers, conquerors, rulers, and warriors. Would they be afraid of that 120 pound girl? do they have time to think, " omg, what if she reject me, what if ..." HELL NO!
So she is hot, so what, she's gonna turn old and die like every other ugly chicks in the room. Too many guys think wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much. IT’S JUST A GIRL! Why are you thinking so much about something that you are PROGRAMMED TO DO NATURALLY?
Omg, not like before pickup, you havent talk to a girl before...
Our culture has brainwashed us to be the men in our movies: our lovable loser AFCs who will always get the girl in the end. This is not a movie, gentlemen; THIS IS REAL FUCKING LIFE! Women find you the sexiest when you are a man! When you smack her ass after a good dinner, when you tease her for doing something girlish. When you stand up for what you believe in, when you have passions that rule your life, and when you treat her like a woman should be treated.
Drink because you are there to have fun with your friends and your wings, not because you need godamm balls. Be a fcking MAN.
I've definitely done both, through my years on this earth, I definitely believe the times I was more sober, the better things went. When I used to drink a lot and do a lot of drugs, if you did pick up a girl, she was most likely just as wasted as you, if she wasn't, she definitely didn't think too highly of you soon after. Ironically, I hooked up with a buddy's wife like this once (before they were married or even dating for that matter). I was HIGH as hell on esctasy and probably doing coke too - it was a long time ago. Her and I were able to laugh about it after my friend and her started dating. But keep in mind, I wasn't doing this to pick up girls I was doing this to get F'd up and see whatever happens, happens. I even asked her what it was like, she said I was definitely saying the right things, but after awhile, she could see through it; or even better, the next day (I was visiting a bunch of people) she really could reflect what a lunatic I was. I really didn't care, it was a different stage in my life.
It's funny, I was thinking of this post and a lot of the stuff Valentyne said and it even brought me back to my HS years!!! I was like damn, I haven't thought about this in awhile. Anyway, I met this girl, I was pretty much the same lunatic in hs as I was in college, anyway, I forgot who she was friends with, I probably did something cheesy talking to her, who remembers, but at some point, whether she asked other people or realized herself, I wasn't a bad guy. I meet her at another party, I am destroyed again (let's say I'm 17,18) and I'm actually getting a good wrap with her - how I don't know. I even tell her how great I think she is, mature, who the f remembers, all I know is she's definitely buying it. So, I see her a third time, I'm quite sober at this point, hanging at a friends, I'm sure we're drinking, but I'm no where near drunk or buzzed and she's trying to talk to me, I can't answer crap back...I feel stupid...I mean she's being the aggressor here, she's trying to create something between us and I'm like an idiot, kind of ignoring her. So, she just figured I was a liar and full of crap. I even try to get back into her graces at a later date, not happen, she justthought I was full of shit and a loser.
Ok, I was a lot younger here, damn I was a kid, but it definitely proves a lot of what Valentyne has been saying....I prefer not to be drinking when I speak to women, sometimes your just out and you end up talking to people.. but you young cats, if you're out on a mission, you guys probably go to more clubs, granted, everyone is different, but when I was in my late 20s taking more control of my life, I did much better with the ladies...hell, I head a steady gf, could easily get stuff on the side, got engaged, could get stuff on the side, then eventually married (that all stopped by my own doing, I definitely had opportunities though)....
To each his own, but I would prefer to start meeting women not in bars or clubs though...