| please don't steer yourself down the wrong path,
indirect = show your intentions, after you can build her up to liking you, so it is more likely that she doesn't reject you (at least up front at face value)
direct = show intentions because you have them and it is how you feel and you don't wish to hide them or waste time on girls that are not interested
indirect will garner better responses since you are playing to not lose, you will lose less, but you will waste alot of time on girls who are not actually that interested in you, you end up thinking every time a girl starts to lose interest and drift away, that it was just something in your game, every time a girl flaked on you it was just a misstep in something you did, but realistically, you will still end up not sleeping with most of the girls that you approach, , the only difference is the ''rejections'' more often come in the form of flakes and lets just be friends, so you feel more like it was just something ''off in your game'' when really she just had no intention of having sex with you, right from the moment she met you, so she just talked to you and made a friend and wasted your time looking for romantic interests because she didn't want to be ''mean''
being direct screens more for interest, if a girl is not interested in you, she is more likely to not want anything to do with you, this weeds out the time wasters who might want to be friends with you, or have a nice new orbiter if they can manage it, it is a faster more efficient way to find girls to sleep with you on cold approach, and if you can handle the emotional stress and approach enough, direct will most likely get you laid much more often and much more efficiently, essentially, you will be playing to win, so if a girl doesn't want you to win, then it is game over with her, how ever if you can win the game, then she will respond well (see what im getting at?)
generally girls will know relatively quickly, within about the first 30 seconds of seeing/speaking with you if they would sleep with you or not, the rest of the way to sex is just doing your best to get there without cock blocking yourself, and if she was already not interested then going direct or indirect won't change anything, the only thing it might change is she might lead you on and try to be your friend because she doesn't want you to ''feel bad'', instead of just telling you flat out she is not interested and being honest with you, because you were honest with her
how ever the upside to indirect game is it gives you more plausible deniability in situations that showing your intentions would not be as productive for you in continuing an interaction, how ever continuing an interaction is not that conducive to how much sex you have, just specific goals require specific approaches, if you could get fired at your job for hitting on a girl you work with, going up to her and hitting on her might not be in your best interest
you have to consider the above, as being a girls friend, or a flirt buddy but not ever in your life having sex with her, is the same result as a rejection in the first 5 minutes, with either a ''no sorry'' or a phone number the immediately either goes non responsive or is flaky because she knows you are interested sexually, and she is not, if flakes are your problem, the likely cause is your ability to establish an emotional connection, or girls not finding you attractive, for the girls that are actually interested in having sex with you it has little to do with direct/indirect, if you were having problems with flaking I would suggest focusing on building more rapport with girls, getting them to tell you more about themselves, spending more time in set, really genuinely trying to get to know them as a person and make a good connection, however you don't have a problem with flakes, you are doing fine, 43% of girls you talk to, meet you for a day 2, that is good, if you can start turning those dates into sex, you will be doing even better, pickup is a numbers game and the sooner you can comfortable with the idea that you can't get every girl and rejection is a part of the game, you will be able to get much more efficient with how quickly you go in between girls, and how often you get laid (depending on what your goals are)
different people have different opinions on direct vs indirect, but realistically if you had sex with a girl that you were indirect with from the start, chances are you could have just been direct with her and gotten the same results, it is an issue of plausible deniability vs efficiency
GOOD LUCK
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