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things that trigger asd
-lack of discression
-jugemental attitude sexually (calling girls sluts etc., the biggest thing about asd is it is a fear of being viewed as a slut)
-having low standards
-having an std
-not being cool enough to sleep with
-friends don't approve
-lack of probable deniability (guy is not leading/taking responsibility for escalation)
maybe she likes you, maybe she doesn't, but really calling girls sluts around a girl, is not a good joke to make, you want to at all costs avoid judging girls for being sexual, but rather be really casual and non chalant towards to the idea of sex, like it is just natural and no big deal, and just straight asking her for makeup sex.... not the smoothest of moves, would have been more productive to just actually escalate in person, hiding behind your phone and sending texts where you don't have to face any music is not confident at all and puts absolutely no tension on her at all, shutting that down is as easy as breathing for her and could easily be taken as a joke, if you like her, you should stop being a little vagina about it, and be serious, and express it, you can either directly say it to her face and express how you feel that way, or you can show her with your actions, either way, you can't pussy foot around this and expect her to take responsibility for sex just because she knows you like her, doesn't work like that, you have to lead things there and express your intentions more clearly, not just throw random curve balls at her hoping she does something with them
GOOD LUCK
Wow thats actually solid advice. But I was just JOKING when I made the comment about the sluts. I explained to her during the conversation that I didn't mind girls that gave it up so soon, but that its hard for me to see them in long term relationship status. I wanted to get through her head that I can sleep with a woman and be done with it and not be the type of guy that gets clingy and creepy. She is my roommate and I thought that this was the best course of action.
And as far as doing it in text and not in person. In all honesty I was just doing it to piss her off. She was already super pissed at me and I just wanted to push her over the edge. The purpose was more or less to piss her off. Her response just caught me off guard. Does that make sense?