Unfortunately without being mentally ready. I am currently seeing a cheerleader and she is a freshman while I am a junior. We both go to college.She is friends with the jocks and athletes and she keeps mentioning them whenever I am with her because I believe she wants me to know she has other options(since we aren't a couple). She tells me how she turns them down blah blah blah, but mentions how she finds this one kid cool and stuff blah blah.

Anyway:
Yesterday we went clubbing and her friends were there. I played a bad move by following her when she was saying hi to them; I believe I should have went and done my own thing. Also I was unfamiliar with the club so that didn't help. I had hints of jealousy...unfortunately. We were in groups of 2: Her friend and her boyfriend(also my friend) and me and her. At one point her friend got bored with her boyfriend and she told me to go cheer him up while she took care of her girl. She went on the dance floor and dismissed a few guys who wanted to dance with her. Eventually one succeeded in dancing with her while I was there cheering my friend up. I kinda reacted because I fell into the hoop she played and was a little annoyed at myself when I realized it. When we got home she said: ''I can tell you were upset that I was dancing with another guy, it's okay you can dance with other people''. I was annoyed and said ''I wasn't jealous''...even though I was a bit, but more mad at myself.


Any tips for the future? Should I just cut my losses with her? I like her but I feel that my inner confidence isn't exactly where it should be. She likes me also, but it seems that it will result in a shaky relationship. We have a one week break from school, so we won't see each other, meaning that I can get some self-improvement in. How do I handle this girl?

I don't see any reason to give up over something so minor. You're over-exaggerating the hell out of this in your mind. Just pick up where you left off once you get back from Spring Break, or better yet, invite her out with you during this time.

Yeah, it's the inner confidence issue that I have to tackle. I need to be in a peace of mind, do you know anything that might help reading wise(since I know you read)? She is going back home to her family in Albany for the break while I stay in Buffalo, so inviting her over is out of the question.


As for clubbing, I don't always have the best experiences there, should I just avoid them or should I keep going in and keep pushing.

reading is not likely to fix your inner confidence,

you could try to meditation, you could also try some counseling,

or just time and effort, and desensitization, be comfortable with things that make you uncomfortable

as for your girl, not sure if you are sleeping with her or not, but you should try to sleep with her if you like her, it will pretty much only go one of two ways, and if it doesn't go down then you got the same result as if you did nothing, no point in wasting your time overthinking things physching yourself out, she is into you and you have nothing to worry about unless you see her kissing some other guy, as for the leading you around introducing you to her friends, don't worry about that shit, minor details, and her talking about her friends to you is also no big deal, she is just letting you into her life, don't mis-inturperet and overthink all this shit, chances are she only means well and has no intentions of trying to make you jealous, you are just infact naturally jealous when you should just learn to let it go unless she crosses the line (know where your boundries are and what is acceptable to you and what is not)

I am sleeping with her, yea, and it's just been awhile since I have been in a relationship, I told her that, but thanks for putting it into the right light. Our lives are going to have to mesh together somehow. This should be good experience.