in real life, I'm totally useless when it comes to dating.

I've read theories, methods, etc from Sasha daygame to David Wygant.

I kind of wish I hadn't because I'm still too scared to do anything.

I can't do a lot of the things in the nethods because I go to a small university (around 8000 students) with a 6:1, girl:guy ratio. I'm afraid things will travel around.

I guess it has to do with my self esteem. I feel that I'm ugly.
I'm asian, and not the good looking kind of asian either. I do dress nice though. I like wearing ties, a nice dress shirt with the sleeves rolled up, some slacks/khakis, and boots. I don't see many guys wearing stuff like me at the college I go to.

I feel thatacne is a big factor even though my buddies have told me that it's really not as bad as I make it out to be.
Also, I don't have a very nice looking face. My sister says, I'm handsome, but I think she wants to spare my feelings.

I've never approached a very pretty girl before. I've never kissed a girl, and I'm about to turn 19.

There are seriously pretty girls everywhere, but I never approach them because of 2 reasons)
1) they'll think I'm ugly
2) they might be taken.

How would I walk up to a girl who's walking on campus to class?
I mean, theoretically, I could walk up to her and tell her that she is very pretty and that I would like to get to know her more or I could say I would love her company while we walk to class.. It seems to be ok in my head, but when I ALMOST try it, I keep thinking that she's going to think that I'm weird, and that everyone is looking at me and judging me, even though they're probably too busy with their own lives to notice me. I end up not doing anything.

It's an irrational fear, but I don't know how to get past it.

also, for some reason, I think girls don't like asians as much as other races.
Even if they like asians, I think I'm on the uglier side of the race.

I don't know how to get my self esteem up.

It is all mental and inner game, stop reading books about game, you gain nothing from that, just go out and start small banter. First start off just talking to guys, see if you are socially awkward 100%, if you can't talk to a dude than you have issues (no offense)

Read books about self-help,inner-confidence, and just how to cope with life. Meanwhile go out and just say hello, start indirect, I think that will help you the most. If I was with you I would train you as this is what I do.

I tell all my "clients" (so to speak) to start singing and dancing in public, if you can get to that point you realize that people really do not give a shit about what you are doing and it is all in your head. As for now, I just want you to approach 5 people, and be able to know their eye color within the first 5 seconds. This will help you train yourself with getting eye contact immediately, as well as getting comfortable with holding it. After such you can just leave or if you are feeling brave continue the convo.

If you are ever stuck midconvo as generic questions or statements.

So what are you doing here?
Do you go to school? If so follow up with you look like a psych major, definitely a psych type of girl (or what ever you want really that she looks like)

Then after that transtition to, so when you were 5 ur telling me you wanted to be XXXX, hey at least thats better than wanting to be a princess.

Then start a new thread, talk about something you have in interest. Then ask for her number and see if she wants to grab some food or coffee. Then continue talking, DO NOT END THE CONVO AFTER U GET THE NUMBER.

RECAP

1. Approach and Find our Eye Color
2. Start conversations
- What is she doing at that time, why is she at the place you met her
- does she go to school
-whats her major
-childhood dream
-something relavent to you and ur dreams (DHV here)

- where does she work (if she says school)
-Childhood dream
- something relevant

(these both can lead same place as you can see)

3. Number
4. Try for insta date
5. Continue conversation


Hope this helps bro!

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Aspiring Artist

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You have two choices brother.

(1) Be a Jerk.
(2) Be a suave PUA.

My advice?

Be a suave PUA.

Read the newbie resources or get some of those Carlos Xuma motivational audios.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Right, whats up with everybody? Suddenly everybody feel bad about being asian. Stop that, being asian rocks!

Think about pandas, black and white and asian and everybody loves them.

Anyways, I can totally get that it is difficult to get out there and put yourself in the line of fire, but it is something that you need to do.

Very likely you will feel humiliated and you will feel ashamed, at least the first times. Then you will learn to do it right.

Contemplate this quote:

"Yeah, I stayed. I stayed because everytime you threw a brick at my head or said I smelled; it hurt, but it could never hurt more than everyday of my life just being me."

That was said by an asian too. Kung-Fu Panda

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

u forgot calculators and math

Do what works for you... For instance I could never ever emulate Sasha Daygame or even take anything away from what he does. Running down chicks in the street and leaping in front of them is def not for me. I recently came upon a book called 'Minimal Game' which I really wish I started with.

Fucken gook, Stop reading, more approaching.

That's literally it. You'll actually start seeing real improvement. Your brain is probably filled with way too much mental mathdebation(see what I did there?) from reading so much.

Just stop. Go out and field test some of the shit you read. Or better yet. Go out and just talk to a random girl you meet.

You sound like you dress similar to most fobs and there isn't anything wrong with that. You dress different from everyone else? Nothing wrong here. You dress a tad bit more formal than most. That's definitely good.

Don''t ever blame it on being Asian. We are awesome. There is no rule saying women don't get aroused by Asians. There is a rule however, about women not being aroused by pussy little bitches, who don't approach and blame it on being Asian.

Looks matter so much less than you think. Just approach every girl. I mean it seems your campus is abundant of women. Just approach every and any women you see. Right off the bat just go in and introduce yourself.

Excuse me but where is the Economics building? blah blah. Oh I know where it is I just wanted an excuse to come over and tell you how cute you are. Hi I'm .... and convo goes from there.

If your interested in daygame. I do this little game where I try and get as many rejections as possible when I ask for a number or something. Set yourself a target, let's say 15 rejections. Go out and talk to a girl, and after a bit of expressing what kind of person you are, and what you think of the girl, ask for the number. Try and get 15 rejections. Because frankly I think that is really hard already.

And By this game I don't mean, just be a fucken douche and get rejected on purpose. I mean, actually do your thing, and see if she'll reject it.

But all in all, try and fix up your mindset. Realise that the less you care, the happier you are. Oh okay so a girl rejected me, that's cool, only another 6000 girl on campus, no fuss.

But seriously, play that game and try get rejected that many times, I guarantee it'll be harder than you think, and after you'll realise it ain't as hard as you think.