| you should be yourself, but trust your intincts and apply them, instead of masking them out of insecurity, stay calm and go for what you want instead of being anxious about it, if you are ever in doubt of what to do or say, tell the truth and be absolutely certain of it
if you really really really must shit where you eat and make things possibly awkward and terrible for yourself, approach her, and say this
hey, I know we don't talk much and this is random, but I think you're really cute, and I want to get to know you better, I would love to take you on a date (the more confidently you deliver this the better, just stay relaxed like it is just another day in the park, you are just asking her to pass the salt)
then see what she says, either a yes or a no, either way you have your answer
now, if she says yes to a date, your goals for the date should be
find at least 10 things you like about her,
find a few things you have in common and talk about them,
find out what she likes to do in her spare time,
flirt with her, put her in a good mood and don't straight interview her, talk and do some conversation work, then question, then talk about it, then question, if she is speaking let her talk, the more she talks about herself the better
give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek at the start of the date, if you can have a date somewhere that you can sit next to her and get close so you are touching (to make her comfortable with being close to you) that is good, and try to kiss her at some point midway through the date, or if you haven't worked up the courage at least try at the end (on the lips not the cheek), if you absolutely can't work up the courage, you best try for date 2, don't worry about making out, save that for if you are in a location that you have sex at
that is pretty much all, there is no magical way to act or be, if you experience rejection on the regular, work on your social skills in general (there is no magic pill for this, but some e-books can give you a general outline to start you out if you are socially retarded), work on your body (hit the gym), work on your style, meet new people to expand your social circle and have more social options to hang out with so you spend your time socializing more often, and improve your lifestyle, also you will only become more confident from experience and facing your fears, doing things that make you feel uncomfortable until you feel comfortable doing those things, there is no magical pill, time and effort, go out to a place that has alot of girls and start approaching and gaining some experience, if you don't know what to do or say, the only way you are going to figure that out is by taking action and learning
GOOD LUCK
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