So after this weekend, I decided there was one thing that I really need help with. I'm one of the social chairs for a fraternity and my job is to make the party fucking awesome. However, I found this kind of hard recently. Here's the situation:

We were paired with a sorority last night there was a good amount of girls there. However, all the girls were in circles/groups in the middle of the dance floor kind of talking/dancing. All the guys were in groups as well except near the bar/edges of the dance room. I was guilty of this too a bit. I wanted to approach a group of 2-4 girls but I felted so out of my element going up and trying to start a conversation in a loud environment by myself.

Does anyone have an pointers on how to go up to a group of girls are a party where it's kind of hard to talk? My alpha/natural friend was sober the entire night and he was on the dance floor the entire time just goofy dancing with a group of girls. I don't know how well he actually did, but I hate this type of awkward dancing and feel extremely uncomfortable.

Just grab a beer and get everyone smashed its college. Obviously not... but the point is just get people involved by introducing everyone. You are the social chairman, so be social. Your alpha friend in all honesty should replace you. You need to work on yourself a lot more before you can help others.

Just man up and talk to them.

But seriously are you right for the job if you can't even muster enough courage to talk to girls?

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In the past I've been pretty good about it, normally i get the conversation started at the bar and then we all go on the dancefloor. However, this time it was get a conversation going on the dancefloor which is really loud and then lead them to the bar, which is where I can really do my shit.

I kind of learned you have to be able to laugh at yourself if you wanna go up to a group of girls dancing. Making a fool out of yourself and showing your comfortable around them will show them a lot more than most other things.

I grind my ass against the hottest girl's crotch to open up a dancing set. It's always funny. Then a minute later you dance behind her. Even if the hottest one isn't interested or you aren't interested in her, it shows you have good taste and balls to everyone else.

Another option is jumping up and down, pumping both fists in the air and yelling as you move through the groups.

Or, if it's your frathouse, you can TURN THE FUCKING MUSIC DOWN.

I was the social chair of my fraternity, and the only things I can imagine holding you back is fear that you'll get shut down and your bros will make fun of you. They may poke fun for 3 minutes, but then even the biggest ass in the house will get another beer and move on. It's not a middle school dance for christ's sake, encourage some interaction. Start a game of flip cup and drag ten people over to a table. Buy a cheap bottle of champagne and shoot it off (not aiming the cork towards anyone, of course), or have a theme night that encourages creativity. Make it a costume party, or boats and hos (personal fave) and you have an instant conversation starter over the clothes you put together.

And furthermore, as the social chair, YOU GET FIRST SHOT AT ALL THE GIRLS. Seriously, don't just use text messages to set up the party, meet the girl in person, go to their chapter meeting. Let them all see your damn face before the night starts.

Now, as for house parties, the vibe is very different. I always used open parties as a means of making money, so I treated it more like a business. For mixers, though, my tips should take care of most of the hard stuff. Regardless, the help is meaningless if you don't man up and talk. The sorority showed because they figured you were all cool to begin with, so stop assuming they dont want to talk to you.

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I agree with slipnslide. Just go up and grind a hottie. From the front so you dont frighten them. The women at frat parties usually want to fuck so use it to your advantage.

Go up to the group of girls that you want to talk to and make a joke about them acting like its middle school or something where the girls are in their own groups scared to talk to anyone.