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do i continue to escalate the exact same way then? or should i just not escalate at all and just talk to her but seem like its no big deal?
this is my escalation process with her thats been going on for months:
ok well i will admit my escalation was a little off.
ive been doing the same process on her pretty much every single day, because we have study hall together and we sit next to each other in that class. nobody can see us really.
>first arm around her
>massage her side
>slowly move towards her crotch
>stimulate her vag through her jeans, but she always crosses her legs so i could never really get in there
>never tried to go in her pants, because shes a virgin and were also in class.
>sometimes massage her neck.
>lower back rubs.
>side rubs
>eye contact play every once in a while, but when we hold eye contact, i mean WE HOLD EYE CONTACT.
i dont even act like what im doing is a big deal i just do it and she accepts it passively
ive done this every single day,
never kissed her though. i know i should have but its kinda not the right place, because we are in class. Also i think shes only kissed 1 other guy before!
the thing is she kinda orients herself towards me, when sitting next to me while i lean back so shes kinda at a little bit of a distance so even if i wanted to kiss her id have to get her to really come in or lean in a bit. and sometimes she goes on her phone which really pisses me off! i try to punish this be stopping escalation a bit but i cant really figure out a way to keep her off her phone.
1.what should i do to keep her from playing with her phone while i try and escalate and qualify so that way maybe i could lock eye contact while close and kiss.
another thing
2.what do i do if she starts avoiding me? because we can leave study hall to go to other classes and now i think shes gonna start doing that because she thinks things are going to be awkward now. think i should freeze out if that goes down and start gaining social proof with her friends?
3.also is it ok for me to continue the way i escalate or should i pull back a bit on that. when will it be ok for me to escalate again?
i dont understand, i know alot of things nobody knows about her, i know she is writing a book no one knows about, i know shes wants to run away to LA with her bestfriend when they are older, etc... i dont get how i could get to know her more! the only thing i could think of is spending time with her outside of class with her friends, but her parents dont let her hang out with anyone and i cant get her to come and meet my friends for some reason. the only thing i could think of is coming/following her to go and meet her friends but i dont want to seem like a needy orbiter.
what do i do guys!
sorry for the shit load of questions, but this is confusing shit! its like im opposite the friendzone right now,where i dont think game will work and will only dig me deeper into this rejection.
1. when girls are ignoring you and playing with their phone that is a sign of dis-interest, watch a girls body language and how compliant she is rather then what she says, the way to get her to stop doing this is be more awesome so she actually wants to talk to you
2.if she starts avoiding you, let it be, go after as many girls at a time as you possibly can, you are in highschool flirt with all kinds of girls, the more the better, it will only help improve your status in school, you should be trying to get girls to hang out alone with you to do stuff, and you should be trying to get them to makeout with you before rubbing down their twats, get them to come to your house to watch a movie, if they have excuses, go work on a new girl until they are trying hard to get your attention again, don't work hard for girls, let them work hard for you and know that you will just talk to other girls if they play too hard to get
3.escalation, is basically meant to accomplish three things,
-check how compliant a girl is with you, (basically how much she likes you)
-make her more comfortable with being touched
-turn her on
kino is not some magical tool that will somehow magically get you compliance over months and months and months, by doing one linnear thing to the next linnear thing, it is simply to guage a girls interest, some girls will be more then happy to makeout with you after just seeing you, if you were to just go for it, you would get it, other girls will let you get as far as kisses on the cheek and will never allow you to makeout with them, an escalation ladder is just a smoother way to test this compliance, and when you reach a threashold (a spot where her comfort reaches it's height), then you can more smoothly move down the ladder and make her more comfortable with a level compliance that is high for her, then later on try to escalate to a higher level of compliance when you think she is comfortable, but really within a good week of knowing a girl, chances are your compliance is about as high as it is going to get as long as you run a ladder and see how far you can get, some girls will waste your time and make you think they like you so they can get attention (and they might like you), but the thing is you will not be able to sleep with time wasters without a giant waste of time, the interest is just simply not high enough
ok as for what you wrote about knowing her etc., girls make excuses for why they don't want to meet up with you, when they are not into you, it is their way of politely rejecting you, they will stay warm on the verbals and be nice to you (so they can keep getting your attention), but then they will offer little to no compliance (this is known as a flake), if she was really interested she would find an excuse to hang out with you, rather then an excuse to not hang out with you, and if she can go out with her friends, she could certainly figure out a way to go out with you, on top of that she said no to you when you asked to date her, there is more to this then just running your game, girls in highschool want status, and the most important factors in school imo will be
-how many people you know
-how good looking you are
-how many girls are interested in you
-who you hang out with
you should work on building a more social image of yourself, all this will do is help you get more compliance from girls (it will not nessicarally get you laid unless you have to balls to use that compliance and get them alone and escalate)
here is an idea for you
highschool openers:
excuse me, you are really cute, why have I never met you before? (or some variation on a compliment about how she looks, sexy or hot or smoke show, what ever you actually think of her physical appearance)
hey nice bum, where ya from?
stick to these kinds of openers and get comfortable with openly flirting with girls, some will like it, some will not, for the ones that do not, do not change it up, just stay confident in yourself that, that is just what kind of guy you are, stay cool and flirty
as for physical escalation in class, stay away from the vagina rubs and back rubs etc., stick to hands, arms, shoulders, knees, thighs, hugs, kisses on the cheek
and less is more, don't be overly touchy all the time super eager to get your hands on her, you just want to give the impression you touch people to stress points and it is normal and comfortable to make physical contact (just do it to make sure they are comfortable with you touching them)
save everything else for when they are alone with you, and try to get them to hang out alone with you, sooner rather then later so you can see if they flake or not, all you are trying to see is how comfortable they are with your touch, if they just allow it, that is all you wanted to see, you are basically just looking for 3 things from a girl
-will she talk about her self, and let you get to know her
-will she let you touch her
-will she be alone with you
if you have those three things, it is safe to assume that girl is interested in you, you can figure out the first two in class, what is left after that is inviting her out
once she is out, try to kiss her, enough kissing/making out and eventually a girl in highschool will just ask you out and you don't have to stress about this shit
GOOD LUCK, and remember talk to as many girls/people in highschool as you possibly can, the more popular you are in school, the better
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