| well this is my input for you:
I just had sex a week ago with a christian girl. I've been seeing her for 4 months now. She always told me that she wasn't waiting for marriage but the girl was 21 years old so obviously she wasn't going to give her virginity away to any random guy. I worked her for 3-4 months but actually I wasn't seing her that much... Once a week or twice MAX but... whenever I saw her, I made sure she wouldn't forget me. I made sure she had a blast. I made sure that I didn't talk to her every day but when I talked to her I would make fun of her, make her laugh, play some text games, be cocky... I'd always make sure that whenever she'd go to bed, she would think of me being a really fun guy to be around but not only that, I'd make sure that she knew I'm a very sexual human being and that it was OKAY to be... and I made sure that even though I don't go out with her, that in her head, I was her man.
She's my best friend cousin, I met her in a club, yet again, I saw her in a span of 3-4 months only twice in the club, but the 2 times I saw her, I promise you, we had a fucking blast. We were grinding on the dance floor like we were actually having sex.
You have to understand something that I am learning with this type of girl. Don't forget that they have remained virgin until 21-22 years old, means they haven't had serious relationships. Which means, they are used to be alone, they are used to turn back guys. They never had sex. They don't know how good it feels. So they don't get as emotionnal attached or as easily attached as other girls who have been having active sex life. They still don't know. So, you have to stop making her the center of your world, because if you do, you won't fuck her. Why? Because it will take time. And the longer you make her the center of your world, the more horny you'll get and the harder for you it will be... why?? Because you fucked before and you know how bad you want it... she don't.
So my tip for you:
Keep working her, take your time, don't see her all the time but keep building attraction and whenever you see her or talk to her... make sure you are FUN to be with. Kiss her, escalate, try to make her horny, if she stops you don't act like it's a big deal, but once again... don't always hang out with her, because you will KILL the sexual tension if you keep on repeating the same patern every day...so start seing her less often and start seing other girls and keep on working her out. Make her believe in her head that you are the guy that she has to fuck or she will be missing out on something.
And another thing, you have to UNDERSTAND where that girls come from, her values and that stuff... once you'll understand, every thing gets easier. Not only she'll be more comfortable but then you'll be able to decide if you're ready to be patient or not. It's very tricky. Because keeping a solid game over a long period of time without fucking the girl... I don't think it's an easy task. Keeping the sexual tension over a long period of time without losing it... it's not easy. The more you'll see her, the more you kiss, the more you touch and don't have sex... the more you eat that sexual tension... so you have to know how to handle it... which means... gotta have other girls around and see her less often.
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