Hey all, so I was out Friday night and number closed this cute bartender that was being pretty flirty (important note, its actually her real number, used it and got the answering machine, her voice name and all imagine that). Also, I don't think she even know s my name. Either way I'd appreciate some advice on how to successfully call her up and take her out. Now I'm imagining I shouldn't ask her if she'd like to meet up for drinks, or at least add more to it than that. So I'd like to hear some ideas from you all on that. Also, its been two days, hopefully I didn't wait too long to call her (its a home phone land line so texting is out, but I think calling is usually better). Any advice on how I should approach this and what kinda date i should take her on? Thanks everyone

I think a dinner date would be nice - just call her up and ask her if she is free to meet up for dinner sometime soon. Just be casual... Good luck!

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I disagree with a dinner date or just that. What I would do is ask her to a neat restaurant that you just heard about and then take her out to a bar/club afterwards, get to know her emotionally during the date and then sexually escalate at the club/bar.

Make her validate herself and don't be a suck up or too nice. If you take her out to dinner remember it is a date and not an interview (dicarlo). You are having a normal conversation, show what you like, find out what she likes. Get to know her.

That is my opinion.

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Hey guys thanks for the responses. I just gave her a call a few hours ago and left a message. It was short and sweat and I teased her a bit in it (though its hard to come off as witty and smooth when talking to a machine). Either way I did the sushi/hibachi idea and left my number (I don't think it was a cell phone, I think it was her home phone). I think I succeeded in giving off the vibe of fun, easy going, yet not needy. It could of probably been better but all in all I'd say if she was attracted to me initially than I'm set. Either way if she flakes thats cool too, I'm really just happy to have approached her regardless. I was almost a little taken aback that she gave me her real # with such ease. I assumed in my head it would be a fake because her job kinda warrants that. Does that happen often with hired guns giving out their real numbers with no intention of returning the call?

First off, good work on the message - sounds like you pulled it off well!

And second to answer your above question, she probably does like you... I work as a server/bartender and I have to give out a lot of fake numbers just to get guys to leave me alone! I have a serious boyfriend, so I am not interested in any of these guys, but they tend to get the wrong impression, especially as alcohol is involved and they may believe I am flirting with them, when in fact I am just doing my job!

So, I am sure that she really does like you - congrats! And have fun on the date

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You might actually be able to help a lot more people. Now personally, it isnt some goal to get a bartender or "hired-gun" but there are always those moments. What would one do, in your professional opinion :p to stand out and make an impact.

Clearly you are busy and don't have time to chat, so I am guessing if I do want to date a bartender than I should speak to her when she isnt so busy, pretty much any tips?

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Thank you. And your tag is correct I loved getting a girl's opinion. I bet there is a severe shortage of that on this site.

Hmmm.... Someone to stand out and make an impact... Someone who can make me laugh generally gets my attention. I have actually never been successfully picked up at work by a customer, so I am yet to see something which works! Then again, I am very loyal to my boyfriend, so don't even tend to look at other guys and it makes matters slightly more challenging as he works as a bartender with me!!

Yeah, obviously speak to her when she isn't busy - I get so annoyed when people can tell I am really busy and they just want to make idle chitchat.

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Hey all, so I just got a ext back from her a few hours ago. She told me she was really drunk that night (even though she wasn't slurring words, acting tipsy, and what have you) and told me she appreciated me calling and I was doing all the right things but she's in a relationship that is somewhat serious and doesn't want to screw that up (still though she gave me her # with no prodding). She finished it off with the whole you seem really nice thing and i hope you come by again. Either way I'm glad she responded. I have yet to text her back. A female friend of mine read it and told me that from her perspective it meant "I like you and would like to pursue you but I can't." So I'll just text her back something easy going and light with a its no big deal/no problem feel.

I think your female friend is correct in her assumption. Yeah that's a good strategy - just keep things friendly and casual! [/quote]

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Sounds like a ploy to get you to come in to give the bar more business. I'd next her man. Especially since shes calling you "nice".

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Good call, I was thinking that as well. Though it does seem strange only in that she did not charge me for my cocktail. Either way, it is very possible and that thought has crossed my mind. All in all, it is what it is (what a pointless sentence I apology for wasting all of your time on that one .

Well, she did say she was drunk that night and people impulsively do things they wouldn't normally do when intoxicated. If you decide to go in and see her, you may have something going if she continues to buy your drinks. If not, move on.

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