In regards to 'highlighting' your achievements:
You don't need to consciously do it. My point was that they have a 'radar' for picking up on your qualities that allowed you to achieve. I would avoid lengthy discussions about math and your research. This would be just as silly as a guy talking to a girl about football or the stock market all night long. Remember, they are not excited about those topics. . . they don't need to know the specifics of your work, just as that girl had NO idea what the hell English guy was studying. Also, keep in mind that high achievers don't talk to much about their shit. To them, it's 'normal'. It's somewhat boring. They do it everyday.
It's always the guys who have nothing going for them who blabber on endlessly about whatever the hell it is that they have never done . . .
I'm not sure which 'conversation style' feels more comfortable for you but I'm always corralling the conversation towards a 2nd meeting and/or a "let's go make out like a pair of high school kids." By this, I mean a girl can toss any question/statement my way and I will bridge from topic to topic until it ends up in one of the two results above. You might think that this is complicated but all you need is a few 'real life places/events" in your mind and a few "crazy fantasy stories" to share. Sometimes, I don't even get to the end of the flowchart before the girls stop me.
Last weekend, a group of girls standing next to us at a bar were chatting and I heard, "dildo."
K: Hey, I heard 'dildo'.
Girls: ?
K: It must be my selective hearing because I heard, "blah, blah, dildo, blah, blah, orgasm, blah, blah vagina, blah, blah. I have no idea what you're talking about but I like the topic."
So after some chit chat the tall brunette with curly hair asks, "So what do you do?" Let me tell you something. A girl never asks this question because she's interested in your work. She asks you this question because she's already attracted to you by the qualities that you've demonstrated. She just wants 1. Confirmation. 2. Justification. She wants to tell herself and her friends that, "Well, he's really smart." Or "He's got the coolest job, project" or "He's so adventurous." Etc . . . (Just like the girl you eavesdropped on)
I avoided the topic with a few bs answers, "taxi driver," . . . "low level entrepreneur" but I knew she'd press. . . they always do. My work involved a lot of travel to interesting parts of the World. . . and when the topic gets to this, it's a cinch to bridge to a 2nd day at a local place/event. She was punching her number into my phone before I had a chance to even suggest a few 'future events'. You'll want to figure out ways to bridge all topics to YOUR topics . . .
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On that night when her friends ask her to leave to catch the last train. She refused but wanted to stay with me. Game on!!! I knew it was a good sign. However, when I sugggested to go to a club, which I could isolate her and escalate Kino, she refused. Then my head went blank and got no tricks and topics to talk. I chickened out. I suggested to leave and meet up the day after for a museum & coffee date.
^This is an obvious invitation for a ONS. Once you accept the fact that women ARE and WILL be attracted to you, you'll see these invitations much clearer.
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I didn't see any problem when I tried to "kino" her. I did what I could. Since she didn't touch me back and showed any affection, I backed off a bit.
It depends on the girl . . . some will reciprocate, others will not. Just know that if she is standing there and ENJOYING what you're doing, this is a 'green light'. Keep going!
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Four days later, I organised a night out with my friends and her friends. it was ok that night. We danced so close together but not good enough to have a kiss close. I "kinoed" her a lot and she did give her response by touching me back. I thought it was a come on, but since her friend kept disappeared all the time, she always got distracted by this and kept looking for her friend. It annoyed me a lot. Eventually, I ended up on my own again.
Essentially, by not pressing further, you did exactly what she did . . . You backed out. She's thinking what you're thinking now. "Why isn't he into me?"
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After Day 3, I was s bit useless on txting her. I always waited a least a couple of hours to reply her messages. My original thought of doing this is to build a tension of attraction. This technique I copied from one of Slywalker's threads. However, when I revised back his thread last night. I realised I didn't execute it right because I didn't bulid a good rapport, let alone a kiss close in day 2.
You had PLENTY of rapport when you were face to face with her. Don't bother trying to do this with texting when you haven't progressed in real life. Texting only serves as reinforcement to what you do with her in real life.
Some of Chief's threads that you should consider:
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There is a part I of ^this thread as well.