So this past weekend me and mutual friends were going to go clubbing. The girl I am interested was going to go too. Anyways last minute she says she won't be able to make it because she has to pickup her sister from work..
Anyways this totally ruined my night and I went to the club and left almost right away because I was not feeling it at all...

It turns out she was kidding and did show up. Anyways later that night she txted me asking why I was not at the club. Anyways I have never given her my number so I guess she got it from a mutual friend..

Anyways the following evening I called her.. it took me like 2 hours to man up and do it. (no joke)

We made plans to meet up and hang with mutual friends again. She was with her little sister.. either way I did not even get a chance to talk to her one on one we watched a movie and all went out to dinner then home. Anyways what should I do now? Should I call her and ask her for a one on one date this weekend?

She is a very good girl I know this because my best friend is her cousin. I am not sure if she is just being nice or actually wants to date me. Anyways please help me my head is so scrambled and confused because I have been over analyzing this for way too long.

Its always best to just call a girl and have a conversation for the sake of conversation, they'll usually mention hanging out with you first, just call her and make conversation.. Call now, with no expected outcome. Call her and just talk

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Yea just call and hold a conversation with her. Tell her you think her little sister is awesome and has such character (or something like that). Talk about the movie and dinner. If you were a good listener (I hope you were) bring up things she talked about and have her elaborate on them. I'd even have her put her sister on the phone and chat with her for a bit about something. The more people that like you and are around her is only a plus. A girl isn't going to ask your buddy for your phone number and then call you asking where your at if she has no interest. She might have thought she wasn't going to make it to the club and then found some way to get there cause she really wanted to see you.

Okay So I am going to call her today! I feel weird asking girls out on weekdays? Is that normal? Maybe its because I work Mon-Fri and have to getup super early. Anyways do you guys think its better to wait for weekend?

Or instead of calling her to ask her out and stuff should I just call her to have a convo?

First off, you say anyways a lot. Anyways, great job on mustering up the courage to call her. You should be proud of yourself. She did even ask for your whereabouts, which clearly insinuates she cares about you even remotely. I think like these other chaps are saying, you should call her. With the mindset of having a good conversation, and simply enjoying yourself. Just make sure you are not boring and "Umming and Uhhing" a lot as this will cause the conversation to get rather dull and lose attraction.

If you don't know what to discuss, find out more about her in a playful way. You can start off the conversation (and I heard it on this site -heres a bit of my twist though) Ashlee, I just wanted to call to congratulate you! She'll respond what? Then you respond "I was thinking about you and I wanted to say congratulations to ruining my entire morning laugh. Can you do me a favour and come back later though. I have a big business meeting and I dont want to randomly shout something inappropriate. I really like my job.

I really think that is a cute way to start a conversation. I know its canned but add your own twist. The original lines I read was just congrats I am thinking about you.

Then she will probably ask what do you do, or whats the meeting for. If you dont have a meeting, just say what you do for a living still. Make it sound passionate.

For example: I could say, I go around the neighborhood, collecting bins and such to protect the worlds environment and removing debris and trash. I know some might find it petty, but I really do think I help clean the world up or I am a garbageman. Both sentences are true, one just sounds better.

Then you ask her what she does, what is she passionate about. Then escalate sexually and potentially find out if you two can meet up and such. If you don't want to do this, make sure to leave the conversation at a high note. Leave her wanting more. Just make up the excuse (if you use that opener) Oh shit! My boss is coming, he probably wants those reports. Do me a favor! she'll say yes. Stay out of my head, for just 1 hr, then you can come back, and wipe your feet on the door mate...

Thats just food for thought. Hope it works with what ever you do.

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Thanks for the tips I appreciate it. I guess I just have call her I guess and try to get get to know her better.

I am starting to get pissed at myself for really putting all my eggs on one basket with this girl. Its just the first girl that I really feel like she is wife material. I need to get my swag back!

You need to relax. Try this exercise it often works wonders with clients in therapy who are overwrought with anxiety. It's actually a yoga breathing exercise.

Breath deep in from your belly for 4 seconds

Hold for 4 seconds.

Exhale for 4 seconds.

Hold for 4 seconds.

Repeat.

Remember this, this time to call is as perfect as any other - you aren't expected NOT to be anxious as you like this girl, and that's perfectly understandable and OK. Give yourself permission to own the experience. Once you call her you'll likely feel a blip of heightened anxiety but it'll slowly dissipate, you won't die, she won't laugh at you (women get it), and before you know it you're conversing perfectly fine with a girl you like - it's a great learning experience.

Now call.

No! You don't just call to have a conversation about nothing that's why the OP's in damage control now. He' needs to let this girl know he's interested instead of wasting time.

Right here this was a complete waste of a time & money going out with friends when know your real intention is to get in his girls pants. Having extra ppl there is not going to help you get laid.

I suggest you tell her you want to hang out one on one and you best go for the kiss. She's either going to reject or accept it.

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Yea I'm thinking the one on one thing is a must do. Ill probably call her and invite her out for coffee or something? Should I wait for weekend when we both have next day off?