HB9 dumped her boyfriend today, texted to tell me this morning.

She texted me a bit after work before calling her now ex-boyfriend.
Afterward, I used an adaptation of Mystery's ESP routine on her via text. Gave her both numbers at once,

Me: The first, 3. Then... 7.
HB9: How... I'm confused...
Me: We just have a really great connection I guess.

Blew her mind (cheers to Mystery), then went on with

Me: Makes sense really. You want more fun in your life. Fun is what I do best.
HB9: You're right, I do.

Said she had to go because her eyes hurt from crying and mascara, so this is what I said.

Me: Blown off twice in one night? Ouch.
HB9: I'm really sorry, my eyes are really sore. Breakups are hard.
Me: Alright. I'll let you make it up to me tomorrow.

Trying to get in more DHVs now, and tomorrow I'll let her 'make it up to me' by escalating/compliance. She's said repeatedly she wants me to take her out to a club/party, but my nights are filled until the weekend. Any suggestions?

I think that I am receiving 2 flakes simultaneously now from 2 blondes. I think its because in my texts I am projecting too much neediness. Can you verify please?

Blonde 1: I wrote about this one in this thread. Meet with her in a club. K-close, direct game, #close. I came off as a confident guy.
Text game was great, she responded fast etc. We set up meeting fast for a pool and she said she enjoyed it because it wasn't some typical date.
Now she is starting to not responding to my texts. I noticed that I always initiate convo (sending her text almost every day) and that the texts might be interpreted as needy. For example:
**writes sth that has bad mood because of sbd**
I write her next day: (1) What happend? Work related or sth personal?
or another I wrote to her: (2) How you doing kiddo? omg sth reminded me of you today....

It's 24 hours and she didn't responded to (2).

Blonde 2:
This friday, #closed in club. In fact she #closed me. I was just saying "ok we should meet up sometime" and smiled and she said "ok i will take your #".

Next day (technically same day) after about 10 hours I wrote her
(3) "Hey. Didn't you just meet extremelly cool guy yesterday at *club name* "
She: "Orly? and didn't you met some pretty miss?..."
(4): "Oh ye, there were few of them and one special girl was pretty impudent " (she argued with me over something)

It's two days she didn't responded to (4). Is there sth particulary wrong? I it sounds to me funny

I freaked out she is not responding and day after it I wrote
(5) "Ok miss, how do you feel today?"

She didn't respond to (5) (24 hours) either. But imo (5) this is really needy...

What should I do? Writing them more messages seems to just project even more neediness.

Greetings from Denmark!

I've followed this thread for a long time, and it has given me a lot of valuable tips on text gaming, but now I have a problem of my own that requires help - so here goes:

I met this girl at a local bar about a week ago. She's kinda in my social circle, meaning that we've got quite a lot of friends in common, but we did not know each other personally. Last friday she came up to me while I was talking to one of our mutual friends, and we got into conversation and had a lot of fun. We ended up dancing, but at the end of the night she disappeared and I went home.

She had told me to find her on facebook, and so I did. I got her phone number without problems and started texting her. In the beginning everything was going well. I used a lot of call-back humor from the night we met, while also getting to know her better.

But suddenly the conversation died out, even though I tried to bring in new and interesting topics. She didn't answer me, so I decided to wait a day and text again. She answered, but very shortly, and she did not seem very interested. So I decided to stop texting her and deleted her number.

This saturday evening she suddenly texted me, asking me if I planned to go out. I played it a little formal and told her maybe, and she seemed very excited to see me again. I ended up going out with a couple of friends, and she came to the bar where I was to see me. Unfortunately, she had to leave almost immediately, so I couldn't close her, but we did text back and forth while she was on her way home.

Yesterday I texted her again, and conversation was fine. She invested as much as me, but it didn't seem to escalate, and the conversation was a bit static. This is where I need help. She seems kind of reserved, and I'm not really getting that closer to her, and I was hoping to get some help on how to move conversation to the next level and set up a day two. So here's a sample of last nights texting, translated from danish:

ME: Did you get home safe last night?
HER: Yes, I did How about you?
ME: Yes, but very late! So I'm looking forward to going home and relax tonight.
HER: You haven't been home yet?
ME: Yeah, but I had to get up early to look at an apartment. So now I've got a date with my duvet.
HER: Was the apartment nice? I've longed for my bed as well!

...

ME: I feel like watching a good movie. Can you recommend one?
HER: I can recommend handball on TV2 (danish TV-channel) But The Butterfly Effect is a pretty good movie.
ME: I had forgotten! Are you into handball?
HER: It's exciting I've played myself.
ME: I think so too Why don't you play anymore?
HER: Haven't got the time And I like running better.
ME: Were you any good? I run a bit as well - I should do it more often.
HER: Hm, after 7 years of practice I should be able to play okay.
HER: Yeah, I should run more often too
ME: I hope so I suck at handball, so I stick to soccer. Are you training for anything special?
HER: Soccer is great too I'm planning to run the Copenhagen Marathon. My training programme begins tomorrow, so I've got 20 weeks.
ME: Cool! How did you get that idea?
HER: Because I've done it before
ME: Awesome! Then you can - almost - outrun me
HER: I'm not at my best now, but I will be
ME: If you need me to drive behind you and cheer for you while training, just say the word
HER: Haha, like that would help, but thanks
ME: I'm pretty good at it! How fast did you ran your last marathon?
HER: It wasn't a marathon, but 58,5 km on 6 hours - and a half-marathon on 2 hours.
ME: That's quite good. I suppose you have a goal for this years marathon.
HER: Yeah, or maybe Depends on how my training goes. But I'm off to bed - goodnight.
ME: Goodnight. Sweet dreams.

I hope the sample isn't too long. As you can see, I have no problem making conversation through text, but I'm having trouble taking it to the next level and get her to commit to a day two. I hope you can give me some advice on what to do next, and what I could have done different.

Thanks in advance.

Well, there could be a number of reasons for her not replying. Maybe that date wasn't as "hot" as she wanted it to be. Make no mistakes, dates can be fun, but unless there is a sexual undercurrent in them, there's not gonna be much you can do with a woman. Never, and I repeat NEVER take kino-escalation too lightly. That is one of the reasons why I keep blaring on and on about why people should get the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder pdf, if they have a issue with the escalation by themselves.

I suppose you blew it with your (4) text, when you decided to call her "impudent", which could be interpreted in a ton of ways, good and bad. Don't use such big words, if you are unsure about your partner's capability to pick the right meaning out of them. That's a tip for the future.

I'd say give them a final try. But, these situations look dead in the water to me.

Okay so this is about the girl that made me go into the game. We meet at a party and hit it off. But because I was AFC, I didn´t go after her.

Months later when my game is upgraded, I write to her and we have awesome conversation on facebook. I initiated writing her like once a couple on FB over two weeks, there was some good conversation. Then she went away however, but we said we would have a date when she got back (I did the slow game, since we have many mutual friends).

Anyway, I forgot about her and a month later we run into eachother at a party. It goes good, we talk alot. I get her number and we kiss and make out when she leaves.

then we start the text game

Sunday
Me - the misses reports in (inside joke)
her- already awake? good job!
me- you to, I slept like a baby
her- me to:)
yadayada
She stops answering suddenly, I figured it was because I waited too long to answer one text

Tuesday, I initiate again on FB though
ME: aliens are coming to kidnap all sexy warriors (her being a warrior is an inside joke). Don´t worry, you´re safe. I just wanted to say goodbye:)
her: haha what?
me: just wanted to let you know I´m on a study break (study breaks is the excuse I used to chat her up a couple of months back)
her, like five hours later:haha okay
me: yeah, so you don´t happen to be kickass in astronomy?
her: sorry sorry
me: well youre pretty cool still:)
her:

Could I get some advice on what to do next?

From what I´ve heard she doesn´t date or kiss or sleep with alot of guys, so I thing I might have scared her of or something, as I have a reputaion

Edit: was just told by my friend that she said I kissed her. Kind of proves her insecurity. But I know she reached for me to kiss her aswell. My friend also told me that she doesnt like me but doesnt unlike me. Very cryptic. Hope this info helps

Hi Don.

I was texting with this chick for quite long, and wasn't getting anywhere. Then I read
somewhere in this topic that you have to be direct and let her know what you want. Guess what? I think it worked.

ME(talking about exams): 2 down, 3 to go.at least I think:P. How's your studying/confidence about your term?

HER: Congrats, you little geek (when you give all exams, you'll be GIANT geek). I don't have the motivation or concetration, how do you force yourself to study?!?

Then I fell asleep. Texted her in the morning.

ME: I fell asleep.I'll tell you my secret when I see you. I think your problem is you can't focus because you're constantly thinking of me?

HER: haha, your cause-effect links are brilliant:). If I see you in person, then I won't be able to study at all!:p so, you're doin' good? what should I say about that...XD

ME: haha:). I'm not doing SO great, maybe I won't get an A's from these two I wrote yesterday! You see what you're doin' to me!:) Nooo, when you see me, then it'll be easier for you to concentrate .

nothing.

ME: (this was a subtle call for a studying pause and drink )

HER: hihihi, yes I got it:)!! But I got my studying plan in order and I think I'm in my room next 10 days, maybe only in bar next to my house. so you're invited to come down here;).


Now, is it desperate to go on that, because she lives pretty far from where I live? I mean is it better to wait until her exams are over or what?

Also, I don't know what to text her next to keep building the escalation...
And what do you think, is there something happening at all?

Thanks in advance!