This girl recently broke up with her bf who i am aquiantances with. We starting texting and finally hung out. We were making out through the night at parties and what not.

The thing is she was talking about her ex a lot. If we were making out the whole night does that make it less of a potential friends zone problem. i cant tell if it was good (she was opening up to me?), or bad (she was venting to me?) She apologized about bringing him up a few times and the only way i could think of to react was to tell her i understand and being nice about it. Although i dont want her to think im her therapist.

How would you react?

She invited me out to the bar the next night and i know shes interested but i dont know how to handle the ex boyfriend talk

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Whenever I'm with a girl and she starts rambling about her bf or ex I sarcastically yawn or pretend to fall asleep and start snoring. I know I'm coming off as an ass hole but for some reason I always get a punch in the arm or "you're such a jerk" as she's giggling. It gives me a perfect opportunity to escalate and I never hear about the ex or the bf again.

Next time she brings him up, let her get in a sentence then just change the subject. You're there to have a good time with her. If she wants to bitch about a guy, she has her girlfriends and gay friends to do that with.

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chances are shes not over him yet, which in the long run means it's not going to work (in the light of a possible relationship) in the short term, every time she brings up her ex immediately change the subject, don't let her see any emotion out of you except mild irritation.


again, the likely hood of anything more than a lay are slim to none. most of the time when a girl isn't over someone she will sleep with someone else but only to try and stop having the negative emotions shes going through, once this doesn't work they tend to lean towards resentment since they did something they now regret, being that the decision was made in the wrong state of mind.


Best thing you can do is go find a girl in a healthier state, unless you want a quick fuck but even then, this girl is going to be more trouble than a SNL is worth.


Cheers

Vitamin-J

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I used to have this issue long ago and I realized it all boils down to not caring.. I used to go for the change the subject/ignore her method. Now I just talk to her about it and ask penetrating questions because I don't care. I know im sexual enough to sleep with her anyway so why not be unselfish and talk with her about her ex boyfriend.

Personally I think it all comes down to not caring; if you are worried about being friendzoned because shes talking about her ex the chances are you will be friendzoned anyway. If you don't care what she talks about and just know you have what it takes to bed her and a lot of other girls if you want to, it doesn't really matter.

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She invited you out to a bar? I'd go. I mean, why not? You have a few options here in terms of what to do about all of the talk about her ex:

1) Ignore it. Change the subject. Continue making out with her, and possibly get with her. Don't expect a serious relationship, though, and expect things to get weird between you, her, and her ex if and when they get back together.

2) Listen to her. Be her shoulder to cry on. Get nowhere sexually. Prepare to be alienated if and when she gets back together with her ex.

3) Wait it out. If she hasn't gotten back with her ex by like, March, then she very well might be mentally secure enough to pursue a serious relationship, maybe with you if you play your cards right. Until then, though, you're just making yourself into a crutch.

Unfortunately, it sounds like her ex is still on her mind, and not in the vengeful, "I want to cut his ball off" kind of way. I've seen a few cases where situations like this have led to relationships, but if that was the case here, I think it would've already happened.

i wouldnt go to the bar. Call her up and change the plans. Tell her that she is coming over your house for drinks. Then, when she comes over you escallate towards sex. If she doesnt want to come over, its not a big deal. But either way you will find out her feelings towards you.

1. I would be inclined to assume she is kind of not really interested in anyone if she is opening up about her ex and her feeling about him towards you. So it's nothing personal to you. Bishes are emotional creatures yet fickle at the same time. One day she will wake up and be instantly over him.

2. You should just be a listener like her girlfriends would be.

3. Really ooze your not interested in her - yet be understanding and patient on what she has to say. She is out of a relationship and is feeling more vulnerable and less wanted (even if she ended it) - her attention detector is running high now. Exploit that - Don't feed it.

I think if your going to cash in on this stock - it's not going to be for a while/until her wounds heal... so for now.. keep her in your portfolio to cash in later and work on some new girls for the time being.

& if this backfires - she will most likely talk you up to her hot friends on how much of a good/trustworthy & supportive guy you are which should give you female rep points ... which u can use her to get closer to her friends or even use her friends to see if u can spark jealousy from her.

I've done this twice. One even made it clear when she broke up with her guy 'I was the only guy she could trust as most her other male friends want to get in her pants and take advantage of her'

2 weeks later - I received a text saying she wanted to get in my pants haha!

No, shes talking to everyone about her ex because shes in pain, shes not gonna "wake up one day and be over him" it's going to be a time consuming process and you don't want to be associated with her healing nor is that time really the time to try and build sexual tension. your not her girlfriend and you don't want to be, you want to be a sexual partner and you need to build THAT kind of relationship with her not the kind of relationship she has with her gay bff or her girlfriends, that's how you endup in a LJBF situation.
this will work only for sex and only if you can hold her in a sexual frame and chances are she'll endup resenting you after her head clears. (she's going to feel guilty about sleeping with someone for the wrong reasons, but hell, not like I haven't done it when I needed to get laid)
woman are a lot more like sammiches than stock, fresh they're great, wait to long and they're stale and hard to swallow.
sweet nice guy talk isn't the message you want her to tell her friends, threw her on the bed and fucked her till she was sweating and shaking for hours after is the message you want to her deliver

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