I've known this girl for over 2 years now, we hooked up a few times however due to our current work schedules, economic situation and home life, we basically have no time to spend together besides meeting up for lunch during out breaks. So our relationship now comes down to just talk and text.

So how do I keep the conversation fresh, un boring and have her stay interested in me. I feel like are convos are getting repetitive, and she's seems to be less engaging then she used to. She dosent talk about her personal life anymore, even when I ask her, her reply is "I have no life I work 3 jobs". Sometimes I talk about things going on at my job or stupid shit going on with my friends, but she doesn't seem to be as interested in that as she used to be, or we talk about movies and tv shows...but still isent the type of convo where she wants to like rip her cloths off and get me in bed lol. Its kinda dull.

As for talking about me and her's relationship, she usually doesn't want to talk to much about it or dosent have much to say about it...so i'm stumped. If my only thing with this girl is talk, how do I keep her with conversation?

Interest will fade away when there's nothing new to feed it. In your case there's nothing new and as for I understand you're not having any form of phsycial engaging in one another aswell, so there's nothing new on that part too. I'd cut contact for some time. Than you'll have to say something the next time you talk.

so stoping contact,,,does that mean not engaing the convos (which its usualy me who does soo) or completley ignoring her even if she texts/calls me? Should i do it like this:

don't start the convos, and when she starts it, keep it short and tell her i'm busy/tired?

Take a break skip a few "dates" say you are busy and make yourself have new plans, than reschedule it and tell her what you have been up to, you been gone for a week and she will want to know especially since she hasn't seen you in a week.

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what about small things like we always text eachother good morning/good night. should i not do that for the week im missing>?

Thats a big gay no offense... I mean I texted my girlfriend that shit but a girl I am not dating. I really dont mean to be rude, but it seems a bit off. I know you probably think so too thats why you mentioned it.

You don't have to completely shut her out, but like a chick I talk to if we talking that night I will say gn, but if we aint I wont.

I would recommend making yourself not as available to her as you currently are, its the whole cat string theory, right now she knows she can have the string. I bet you can even ask her in a cute way, "I bet if you wanted to you can have anything you want from me?"

Some variation of that, ask her. I bet her reply is yes.

I think you should make a bigger impact on the times you see each other rather than making small impacts every day. Sometimes less is more!

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your right