I don't know who else to ask so i want to ask someone with experience.

This is my situation:
Met this girl the day before new year's. We exchange numbers. Two days later, on my surprise SHE texts me first. We go on a date. After a couple of hours trying not to drown in the most beautiful eyes ever i realize that i really like her and i'm falling in love. We get along, i even told her some of mine personal secrets and i regret that now. First time i noticed something is wrong is when she told me she has a male roommate. When we talked about our previous relationships, she told me that her first boyfriend was 40 and she was 15. But i wasn't repulsed by that. Later that night i try to kiss her and she hesitates. I ask her what's wrong and she says she kinda lives with her boyfriend. Who is, i later find out, 11 years older than her and has 3 times more salary than average. -she is 25 and a student without a job... They have been together for 6 years. We were together that night for almost 10 hours talking and we kissed once and it lasted a minute. When she was going home, i hugged her and kissed her, but she didn't gave me her tongue. I really felt some kind of rapport with her as we were sleeping for 1 hour in each other's arms before we went home.

This is my story and the reason i came on this forum. I know the best thing is to let it go, but it's been three days since our date and i can't get her out of my mind. We haven't heard since. So finally here's my question:

Do you think i have ANY chance with her. Maybe not now but later. My plan is this: Send her a text that i want to be friends since we really connected and i respect her relationship and i won't do anything. If this works maybe i'll sometimes meet her and tell her all the dates i've had. I could slip into the conversation something like "i don't like in this girl this or that" and all this girls like me so she can see me as catch. And oufcourse"be there for her" when she has trouble with her boyfriend, which she clearly has. I think she has become too dependant on him. Or i don't know maybe she's still in love in him. I'm a year younger than her and that also doesn't help my case.

Plz i need some expert advice.

I'm no expert, but it doesn't take one to see where you're going wrong. These three points are all very bad warning signs.

You are not falling in love with her after a couple of hours. You are feeling needy, clinging attraction. That clinginess ends in despair 100% of the time.

Her first boyfriend was 40 when she was 15. This is illegal, unhealthy, and surely damaged her psyche. You don't want damaged goods, trust me.

She also has a boyfriend that she didn't tell you about. Don't get in the way of long term relationships. She cares more about him than she does you, I'm sure of it. She just wants an attention fix.

Finally, why is your proposed solution the worst possible one? You would retract your sexuality? No true man denies his sexuality. If anything you should refuse to have contact with her, because you can only think of her as sexy but don't want the drama that's coming from that.

She is a bad choice. Realize it. From there, if you make a mistake, it's your own damn fault.

I think you have a chance with her, money isn't as important to girls as most guys seem to think.

If you want to have a chance of actually being with her because you are in love etc. Then you will need to have sex with her if you ever hope on pulling her away from her boyfriend because this will cause her to cross the 'point of no return' and she will feel compelled to make a decision.

If you do not sleep with her then she will just go back to him no matter how good your rapport with her is, I guarantee it. Because at the end of the day he will seem like the easier more secure option and it wont matter whether he is the right guy for her or not. It is the nature of woman.

Meet up with her again and irrellevant of what she tells you about her situation, she just wants to be friends etc. She wouldn't come unless she was open to the idea of sex with you especially now that she knows what your stance is. So make sure you are confident enough to lead her to the bedroom.

You never know, she might even go back to him after all this but at least by 'planting a flag' you will have a fighting chance of making her your girlfriend. (see '5 crucial steps of sensual escalation' http://wayoftheplayer.com/the-best-of-w ... l-contact/)

+Slip n Slide is totally right about damaged goods etc. You would be best off running a mile in my opinion but considering your current state of mind I doubt you will.

Good luck

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Damn Slip Side beat me to this. I was thinking the exact same thing.

He is absoluty right.

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