Hi Don,
Need a good opener for a girl which I met but barely spoken. So basicaly I have to remind her who I'm cuz I think she don't even know my name and don't have my number.
Oh and I had to call her day after new years eve to hang out a bit cuz it was last day she's staying in my city but I had too big hangover.... So what you think about this:
"Hey this is your boyfriend from 2011. If you still in (city) maybe you want to meet up?"
EDIT: Oh I forgot rule to tell her... So maybe this one is better
"Hey this is your boyfriend from 2011. If you still in (city) let's hang out."

Hey Don,

Again, thanks for the tip. I checked out the link; it looks very useful. I've been studying some NLP but rarely put it into use because I'm still learning it. What other NLP tricks you got? Sorry for all the questions!

okay so theres this girl ive been talking to for quite a while now ill call her M. M texts me alll time time and almost always sends the first text.
M tells me things she doesnt even tell her best friends and always tries to get me to say things "i love you".... however i hardly EVER see M and she usually has some excuse as to why she cant hang out.
M has also told me that shes been into some other guy for a while, but she always goes off about how she hates him and how hes an asshole.
so what do?

Hi Don,

I met this girl hb 7.5 at new years eve party, managed to kiss close and #close, did well on kino. She even told me that I should invite her for a drink.
Now, should I call her or text her? And what should I text in case texting is a better option?

hey don!
can u tell me what can i do in a situation like this and whether this girl is interested lmao i dont wnana mess things up! so lets call this girl X
i met her in a club and yea number closed dance for a bit held her hand a bit of kino here and there and she told me to call her and well i didnt(mistake #1 i know lol) but we have been texting back and forth which im glad keeping the 1:1 ratio so yay lol
and i've asked her out for coffee and this is the specific text thanks mate
Me: All caught up with your beauty sleep now? hahaha. My school started a bit late so yea thats whyy.

X: Yes i did i ndeed but im still absoutely wrecked. Lol im sodrowsy form my med as well lol so ur gonna be here for Chinese new year?

Me: feel better then!:) ill tell u what, when u get better lets go out for coffee!...its gonna be a riot and nah im not here for cny unfortunatelyy

X: Oh so ur leaving soon so. Yea sure But if im out my canadian frd will b there lol. Shes not leaving till 23rd. ( Her canadian friend is staying here cause she came to visit)

Me: Thats a 2 for 1 special and as awesome as that sounds lmao, i actually wanna get to know u like alone so hmm let me think how thats gonna work loll.

X: hahaha u could think of way to sort it out. Dats ur job lol otherwise u could wait till nxt time ur bk lol what u up to?

Me: ooo playing mind games with me now eh hahaha ill figure something out! i wa sjust out with my fam chilin and stuff..

END
thanks mate please help me on what to do next and if im going in the riht direction would love to improve my text game thanks once again

How about you text her with a "Hey (her name), how are we doing this morning/afternoon/evening? " and make some little conversation for a message or three and then call her, if she's in a position to receive calls.

As a rule of thumb, Calling > Texting. Always remember that.

I have to be honest. If she barely remembers your name or your face, that's a sign of disinterest. Also, why doesn't she have your number, while you have hers?

How about you send her a decently neutral opening text message such as "Hello (her name). This is (your name), from (your city). (Insert place/date/time when you met her). Remember me? " and use her reaction to see where you stand with her.

Well, just tell her that you want her to join you for a cup of coffee on the weekend. For a few hours. And just her. No friend, no nothing.

Tell her that you can't stop thinking about her, that you really want to see her this weekend blah blah blah. General ploughing, in case she resists. The way I see it you need to tone down the jokes and seriously, tell her to meet you.

The intent should be clear and firm. That's how women appreciate men.

Be open, be direct and tell her exactly what you want from her honestly. She won't refuse.

I already tried calling, she didn't pick up. About 10 minutes later she sent me a message (translated from my language) "I'm in roaming. I can't pick up. I don't know whose number is this?!"
I replied a couple minutes later "Nevermind then. Let me know when you come back. Blahster" She still didn't replied. What to do next? I'm thinking about to wait for her to contact me as long as it takes.

Hey Guys,

Got a quick text convo I'd like to have looked at.

Theres a girl I work with (and have done for a while- 3/4 months). I'm very alpha male around her, and I'm always getting looks at from other girls which is scoring me points I guess...

Anyway, I've been casually suggesting that we hang out sometime- and shes been positive about it.

Now, I've text her today telling her exactly when I want to hang out and below is the conversation.

Me: HB, I've decided me and you are going out this week. "Insert quip about a pic from a funny staff night out"

Her: Haha... Oh Dear. So when do you want to hang out? X

Me: I'm really busy doing super cool design related stuff, so I'm thinking Sat.

Her: Ooh you should design something vintage! X

Is it, me or did she ignore me about hanging out in the last text. Also, she never replies straight away (probably because I have a nasty habit of not texting back for at least 24 hours lol).

Anyway, any tips on what I should text back? Or shall I leave it for a bit and remind her that were supposed to be hanging out? Don't want to come across as needy by asking her to hang out all the time.

Cheers

hey don i read your advice and i appreciate the help..i was just wondering though wont that geneeral ploughing be seen as needy and make her feel less attracted?
i dont quite understand this, it would be ncie if u explained the need for it so i can learn from it for next times attempt! its all about a learning process:)

thanks,
jasper

Hey don

Love your work!

Just wanted to get some advice about a girl ive worked with for 2 years. We get along really well and there's definite chemistry both ways.

We've organized dates before but she keeps flaking and so I've stopped asking her out. But I do really like this girl. I find that if I don't text her for a week or so she will text me saying she misses me or something like that.

Anyway my question is, should I continue texting her and calling her every now and then and build comfort, or am I better off not texting her at all and make her chase me?

Thanks!